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Their successes and accomplishments begets my happinesses.

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Nothing gives me a greater sense of personal accomplishment than when I see that my children have achieved what they’ve set out to do in their lives. But while they are successful and accomplished, if they were to fail or are just short of reaching their goal, well, don’t look at me! Hubby and I did our part; we’ve sacrificed till we acquired our obvious wrinkles and load of gray hairs. We gave nothing short of just darn-right giving up every drop of blood we have.

We have loved our children with every existing micro cell in our being, but when they’ve grown they will undoubtedly each chart a course to follow. Here’s hoping, however, that their father and I have taught them everything they should know to set them walking on their own two feet and prepared them, street-wise, we hope, on how to face the world.

We’ve taught them to:

  • Love and respect that which they are; and if you don’t like what you see in the mirror, then do something about it.
  • Love or at least respect others.
  • Have Faith and believe that you have the power to make things happen, and when you can’t, because you’ve given it your all, it doesn’t make you a failure.

We made sure they received a proper education, without which they would have difficulties accomplishing their goals for [said] successes.

My youngest, my boy, came to me one day to tell me that he’d decided he was taking a year or two off from college. (Most don’t bother to come back to finish their education.) It took me only a moment to digest what he’d just told me, to which I replied: “I cannot force you to stay in school. But if you drop out of college now, you will need to promptly find a job and then plan on moving out. Your father and I are not going to sit idle and watch you throw any part of your life away. You can move out and do it on your own time.”

If memory serves me right, within a few short hours my son had decided to stay in school. He eventually received his degree, a BS in Actuarial Science, graduating Cum Laude. Success!

Yes. Their successes and accomplishments have given us our happinesses.

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Laine Griffin 409 pts

Amazing parents = amazing kids!

I love that you told your son to put up or get out! It's the way it should be, I think.

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

Laine Griffin But while I waited for him to make up his mind, I had very shaky hours of waiting. I really hoped he would do the right thing. I did not want him to think he could call my bluff. There was no bluff. Sigh!

edavis 88 pts

Smart words to your son and wise guiding lessons. My husband and I have talked about what messages we want to impart to our kids and we've never really come up with anything though certainly there are many phrases they already hear such as being thoughtful, solving problems and doing the right thing. Maybe we will revisit what it is that we value and want to share.

Parents definitely set the tone or at least mine did. I imagine I'd have heard a similar message and I think it allowed me to become who I am today.

Nice read as usual!

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

edavis Thank you, my dear friend, I am glad you enjoyed my post. Being a parent is tough, and I could have so easily spoiled them. In all honesty, I would have loved to have them stay with me always, but I know I have to cut them loose at some point. I have to let them go out and become adults, real people. But they've done so much better than me, as far as growing up and taking responsibilities.

I didn't grow until I met my hubby. He was also my great teacher in life. :)

Thank you for the visit!

tennismama 41 pts

Virginia, you are such a wise parent.

I hope I can be as wise as you.

Yes, your kids' success makes you immensely happy!

Your children must have become very mature loving individuals.

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

tennismama They really are wise. I am so proud of them. And another plus here, they've learned to manage their money very wisely too. Much better than I ever did in the beginning of my so-called adult life. lol!

isthisthemiddle 1123 pts

Not being a parent, one thing I have often wondered: would I have been able to give the tough love when it was so desperately needed? I'm not sure I would have had the resolve. That tough love has to be one of the most important, and incredibly difficult things a parent ever does.

I would have gone in my room and cried, too! So glad your son took your comments seriously and changed his mind. It is so hard to ever get back to school once we quit-- gosh, took me 20 years and a rocky road!

You and your husband can rest assured that you did all you could for your children! Your post may give another parent the strength she needs to make a tough love stand.

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

isthisthemiddle Thank you for your encouraging and kind words, Amiga querida, I so appreciate the support.

After all that hubby and I had gone through, his losing his job (no fault of his, of course), losing our home and then moving over and over again, there was no way we would have sat back and watched him not give himself a fighting chance in his future. My hubby has an education, and if it wasn't for that, who knows where we'd really be today. Sigh!

Thank you, Melanie, for also confirming that it is hard to get back to school once they quit. :)

Much love and lots of hugs,

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

isthisthemiddle By the way, Melanie, I've heard you tell a little about your 20 years to achieve where you are. I wanted to tell you here today, I AM SO VERY PROUD OF YOU TOO!!! :)

SunbonnetSmart.com 729 pts

isthisthemiddle "Your post may give another parent the strength she needs to make a tough love stand."

Yeah...here I am... :)

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

SunbonnetSmart.com I know it helped to have kept my cool, my temper in check. I said my piece as I looked him in the eyes, and didn't flinch. But I also knew that what I said I had to stick with. I was scared. I didn't want my son to decide he should test the waters out there so soon/ and unprepared. Phew! :)

souschef 134 pts

There is a great deal of satisfaction in helping create a responsible adult.

There are so few of those out there!

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

souschef I've met parents that really don't care about their children's future, one-way or the other. But hubby and I now feel a sense of accomplishment with our children. And to know they respect and love us, is a wonderful feeling. :)

SunbonnetSmart.com 729 pts

HomeRearedChefsouschef Good Job, Mom & Dad!

elaineR.N. 603 pts

How wonderfully you have stated what we all try to do as parents. Love the tough love part of this and your willingness to parent with all of your heart!

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

elaineR.N. Thank you, Elaine. I remember going to my room, after I'd said my piece to my son, closed the door and gave in to crying. I told my husband that I was worried that my son would give up and go. But it all worked out for the good. I guess he is smart, after all. Phew! :)

elaineR.N. 603 pts

HomeRearedChef No doubt, he is your son!!

victorias_view 2186 pts moderator

Your children's successes most bring you great joy! It takes a lot of work to keep them on the right track - they must be very grateful for all of the love and support you provided over the years.

HomeRearedChef 1736 pts

victorias_view Since they still wanna hang with us, I guess they still like us. All in the past is forgiven (us being tough parents, that is). :)

SunbonnetSmart.com 729 pts

HomeRearedChefvictorias_view Fantastic...getting it all to this point. Their success and your satisfaction...beautiful.