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What I'd Really Like to Put in My Son's Backpack

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My son starts kindergarten in less than two weeks.

I won't even get into how fast the time has gone, how I can't believe he'll be in school -- real school -- not just preschool or daycare.

Instead, I'm trying to focus on looking ahead and being excited about all the amazing things he has yet to experience.

Handful of Crayons

This weekend, I plan to take him to buy school supplies. The school provided a list:

  • 4 boxes of crayons
  • 1 pack of Crayola markers
  • 2 boxes of tissues
  • 6 white glue sticks
  • 1 plastic school box, no handle
  • 12 #2 pencils, sharpened
  • 1 bottle of Elmer's glue
  • 1 pair of headphones
  • 1 large backpack

We'll get those items, of course, and I'll help him fill his new backpack with them. Then, on the morning he leaves me for the first real time, I'll help him get that heavy backpack on his shoulders.

I'll walk with him into school. I'll make sure he finds his room, meets his teacher.

And then I'll leave.

I don't even like the way writing that sentence feels.

While his backpack will be full of crayons and glue sticks and markers and tissues -- the things we were supposed to send with our kids to school -- these are the things I really want to send with my first-born, my baby:

Confidence. The gift of believing in yourself is bigger than anything I could ever wrap and put under the tree.

A sense of humor. Things don't always go the way we want. This is hard to accept, especially for us first-borns. But it's good to be able to laugh them off.

Courage. My biggest fear is that my little boy will need help and will be too scared or too shy to ask.

At least one friend. Please, God, let him make him a friend. None of us deserves to be alone.

Love. If I could, I'd stuff all the love I have for him in a little Ziploc bag, seal it tight and put it in his pocket to carry forever.

His blankie. It's the best substitute for Mommy. And it actually would fit in his backpack, if he'd let me pack it.

Curiosity. I want him to know everything there is to know about this world. Not just reading and math, but about faraway places and great leaders and big ideas. I want him to ask questions. I want him to get excited about learning. I want him to be smarter than me.

Me. If I could, I'd smoosh Mommy up into a tiny action figure version, and I'd slip myself into his other pocket. I'd be there just to listen or give him a little hug when he needs it.

But I know as well as you: He won't need it. He'll be just fine.

Veronica Daehn blogs at Meow Musings. She is also editor of a social networking site for moms called momaha.com and is most importantly mom to Rye and Paige.

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Cloud66 5 pts

I am not a mom but I am going to print this and save it together with my "important" papers, so that one day, when I hopefully do have kids, I can read this to them.

It is beautiful, it is touching and it is everything a mother could wish for her child.

niseag03 5 pts

I don't even have kids yet and I found myself tearing up and nodding with every item. Brilliance.

Denise
Musician's Widow ( http://www.musicianswidow.com )

Beverly Flaxington 5 pts

When my first "baby" was going to Kindergarten (now entering 9th grade) someone told me about a wonderful book called "The Kissing Hand". It became a ritual for us every day where I would place a kiss in the palm of her hand before she went to school. Now, as an often difficult teenager, I remind her about the kissing hand and she still remembers and softens at the memory!

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Beverly Flaxington

Author, Understanding Other People ( http://www.understandingotherpeople.com/ )

victorias_view 19 pts moderator

You just made my cold heart melt. Very sweet! But only if we could fit in their back packs :)

melissa724 5 pts

So lovely and true. Momaha.com is a great resource for moms! Love the site!

Veronica Daehn 5 pts

Thanks for your comments, ladies!

He is doing just fine. Like I knew he would. But it's so much easier in hindsight to say, "Oh, yeah, of COURSE, he's thriving," than it is in the weeks leading up to such a big transition. But maybe what you all suggest is true - that the transition is harder for us than it is for them.

Huh.

I better get used to this, though, right?

JennaHatfield 10 pts

This post is so darn wonderful. I agree with every last aspect, right down to the blankie.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

midnightbliss 5 pts

most of the time, moms are more excited or anxious when their kids starts to go to school, but children will learn with their own, of course with mom's guidance.

NotJustAnotherJennifer 5 pts

That was so eloquently put. My DD is starting preschool next week and I know it's not the same as "real" school, but I understand what you are thinking. Thanks for sharing!

Jennifer Barr is a wife and working mom of two beautiful girls, 3 going on 13 and 9 months, which means she's sleep deprived but constantly kept on her toes! Most of those experiences are chronicled on her blog, http://midwestmomments.blogspot.com.

j_gumieny 5 pts

It's as if you were describing my son who is about to begin kindergarten. My daughter was in this spot last year and as my oldest child, I was scared to leave her and heartbroken that she was old enough to go, but it was all okay and she loved school and is actually looking forward to returning to 1st grade.

J
www.gfinkfamily.blogspot.com ( http://www.gfinkfamily.blogspot.com )

spiritrefreshed 5 pts

Oh Veronica, you are soooo my sister! My first born, my baby, my angel prince...just started 9th grade and went to his first high school dance. My neighbors and friends just me for coffee and recounted their first day of kindergarten...seems like it was last week! The look of excitement and nervousness...and that was just us, not to mention them! LOL Those backpacks bigger than them...but he will be fine, and so will you. Bless you and enjoy this momentus time...it will indeed pass fast.

MiChelle Jeneen

www.spiritrefreshed.blogspot.com ( http://www.spiritrefreshed.blogspot.com )