They Were Making Fun Of My Son, So I....Did Nothing
By SingleMomtism on October 18, 2013
Where I live, I get the best of both worlds. I'm in a small town riding the edge between the far suburbs of a major US city and the very rural farmland that stretches to the west. I only have to drive an hour and my kids can have museums and touring exhibits and Broadway road shows and concerts and all kinds of culture.
And on the flip side of that, we live in a town where the local pizza parlor owners know us by name. A town where every business proudly displays the name of the local high school team and in warm weather, there's a car wash going on every weekend at the local Sonic Drive-Through, raising money for boy scouts or cheerleaders or local churches.
I grew up in a small town, and while it chafed and suffocated me, I recognize now as an adult, the value of having that experience. I won't talk about "small town values" because, honestly, I think that's bunk. I know just as many wonderful parents and kids in big cities who have values that are every bit as good. I think it's more the vibe of the place. The sense of connectedness. And above all, the kitschy, fun "small town" things that you get to do growing up.
In our town, it was the Homecoming and Thanksgiving parades. Where I am now, it's an annual Halloween parade, and that's where the kids and I were, relaxing in our folding chairs, lined up on main street, ready for the lights and the music and most of all, the people throwing candy!
We had to get there early to stake out a good spot, and with some time to kill, Anna wandered off to go find some friends in the crowd and David decided that the big green lawn of the Township building behind us was a terrific place to pretend he was in an ocean, swimming away from sharks.
This is one of the definite perks of having a child with autism - they don't mind playing by themselves. David was happily doing so, until a large group of unfamiliar kids decided the lawn was a great place for them to play, too. Most of them were his age or a year or two older. They must've been visiting from the next town over, which is in another school district, otherwise they would have known David instantly. He's like Norm from Cheers - kids shout his name wherever we go. Mr. Congeniality - that's my David.
Well, it didn't take long for them to figure out that he was different. David doesn't act or communicate like a boy of nearly ten most of the time. They watched him curiously at first, then when he tried to get them to play along, I held my breath and tensed up, ready to swoop in, if necessary.
A few of them joined in, pretending to be sharks and chasing him as he laughed and whooped and evaded. They'd engage with him for a bit, then run over to the bigger huddle of kids on the sidelines.
And there they'd talk about him. I heard every word.
"Who is that?"
"Oh my God, Kayla, I thought he was going to chase you, too."
"What's wrong with him, anyway? Is he retarded?"
Oh no they di-int! They did not just throw down the "R" word, did they? DID THEY???
I put the soda I was holding down into the cupholder of my folding chair, and I prepared myself to walk over there and educate some kids. Firmly. And then, it happened.
A few of them peeled off, running over once again to play with David. His glee was contagious, and they couldn't help but laugh at him, and then laugh with him.
Anna walked up behind me, grabbing my arm.
"Mom! They're over there making fun of him! You should hear what they're saying!"
"I know, honey. They don't know him. They're not from his school."
"I don't care. You should say something." She tapped her foot impatiently.
"Wait." I said.
"Mom! If you're not going over there, I am."
"Wait, Anna. Look at him. Look at them."
Two or three more kids had peeled off the larger group, and now David had a small army chasing him over the grass, clapping their arms together up and down like shark jaws as he laughed and shouted and he flailed his arms like he was swimming. They all ran and they all laughed. I'm not even sure they knew how they'd been sucked into this silly game, but they were having fun. So much so, that when David asked them to take a rest so he could go get a drink, one of the boys said "OK, but you'd better come back!"
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