"Third Genders" in Societies with Rigid Gender Roles
by Suzanne Reisman

Yesterday morning over breakfast, I was riveted by a New York Times article on elective female-to-male transgenderism in rural Albania. The story detailed the practice of "sworn virgins" (although I think this name is misleading and sensationalizing), women who, after the death of the family's patriarch, volunteer to remain virgins for the rest of their lives and then assume the male role of the family.

(Since a virgin is worth 12 oxen - the same value as a man - the conversion is easy.) From then on, society defers to these biological females as men, and accords them the power and respect that men receive. The practice has existing for centuries, in both Christian and Muslim cultures. In this society of rigid gender roles, there is no question based on sex organs which gender the women are. It is just accepted that they are men. This is fascinating to me.

Other women looked at the article from other perspectives. A at Combing My Hair related it it to modern Western culture:

After reading this article I initially believed that it was a medieval practice that, due to isolationism, had survived the evolution of thought concerning gender and sex over the years. And then I realized that this article was only a hyper example of the norm still found in even the most liberated countries like America. This might be because I spent last night watching the Tila Tequila pre-reunion (a blog-worthy subject in itself)... After reading this article I initially believed that it was a medieval practice that, due to isolationism, had survived the evolution of thought concerning gender and sex over the years. And then I realized that this article was only a hyper example of the norm still found in even the most liberated countries like America.

Kate Hutchinson at Defending Pandora compared the sworn virgins to women in corporate America today:

Imagine for a moment that a woman in America could be allowed to dress and present herself as a man, and gain respect from both men and women around her. (It's not a solution to the issue certainly; the real solution is for women to be valued for what they offer instead of being labeled by their gender.) But this situation wouldn't happen. If a woman dressed as a man in the American office, she would be labeled a freak. Even women who work hard to act like men (i.e. aggressively) are not safe once they reach the executive level... [In Albania] In the face of women's advancement, there are no new sworn virgins. If Albania is making this leap forward in valuing its women , perhaps American corporate culture could as well?

Rachel Storm at Crash thought about it from the perspective of patriarchal domination:

One thing that I find fascinating about these sworn virgins is that they can even take on the misogynist beliefs of a man. Well, at least men from their generation. They believe that women these days don't know their place, and act inappropriately. Which makes sense, if they only fraternize with men, and are treated by their society like men, it makes total sense that they would agree with the patriarchal beliefs that create the need for their existence as a sworn virgin in the first place.

Still, I am most intrigued by how cultures choose to acknowledge gender. Many countries have what is considered to be a "third gender," a gray area for people whose gender and sex do not match. Albania has sworn virgins; Samoa has fafafini (biological males assigned to be women; they are considered by society to be female and marry heterosexual men); Thailand has katooeys. As Nadia at Nadia's Transgender

reminds us, "transgender people have always been here, we will always be here, and in a sense, we are a necessary part of society and humanity." So true.

In BlogHer's May podcast with transgender activist Calpernia Addams, Calpernia noted that one of the main barriers transgendered individuals face is being accepted for who they are without surgery. She said, "A lot of transgendered women feel comfortable with their birth genitals as long as they can live the social role... [but] it's about how outsiders tolerate us." I think Americans and other Westerners - supposedly open-minded and liberal cultures - cannot handle the idea that a woman can dress like a man, live like a man, and consider herself a man unless she has a penis. That is, society as it is does not accept that gender can function outside of biological sex. It is striking to me that cultures with extremely rigid gender roles can manage to dissociate sex from gender under certain constraints. I'm not saying that it is better to live in rural Albania or Samoa, where women's roles are strictly confined to child birth, child rearing, cooking, and cleaning, but that there is something interesting to way these societies make allowances that Western ones don't. Kate's point about corporate America is right-on: it is hard for women who act like men (as well as men who act like women) to be respected. At best, people face severe discrimination. At worst, the violence that is often unleashed on transgressors is horrifying.

Today, the Times article points out, women in Albania have made progress in many areas of life. As a result, there are only 40 or so sworn virgins. As women gain rights around the world, will the practice of recognizing third genders fall by the wayside? If so, is that really progress? I think not, and it is my sincerest hope that one day we can all live in a world where people are free to express their gender in the way that fits best for them as an individual.

Suzanne also blogs about life at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants and about creating positive social change at Just Cause.

Comments

 

women as men

I'm not so sure that women who dress and act like men are treated as freaks.  I can wear jeans and a T shirt, have VERY short hair, wear boots, overalls and work in a foundry  (as I did when I was younger)  and most people I came in contact with did not blink.

I can act in so called "masculine" ways in my workplace - be assertive, un-emotional, etc and no one thinks anything is very odd.  They may not think I am woman of the year, but I'm not treated as a freak.

 But if one of my male colleagues were to wear the female equivalent of Jeans and Tshirt - what would that be -  Skirt and blouse?  And do the female equivalent of working in a foundry - knitting?  and behave in what is considered "feminine" ways - be emotional, cry in public - or do any of the things I can do any day at my work - yes, he would be considered a freak even in my very easy going work environment.

I think its disturbing that we have unthinkingly adapted the clothes and habits of men, and still consider feminine traits to be "weak"  or "strange" or "girly".

 

Very good points

I completely agree that it is distressing that behaviors associated as female are considered inferior to those that are masculine. It is definitely easier for women to take on male traits than men to act "feminine" in the west. Certainly, this is reflected in many ways in social structure, from no one blinking an eye when a married woman uses her husband's name but finding it odd if a husband uses his wife's name to your example of it being normal for women to wear pants but men can't wear skirts. Still, I think that women who act too manly are very much castigated by society for abandoning their "innate" femininity.

I think that is why katooeys are so interesting in Thailand. Generally, they are men who identify as female, and people just accept that is who they are. No one over there seems disturbed that a katooey would want to act feminine.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender
Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants

 

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My name is "osoleomar" that mean "sun &sea" Do you like it?I'm an artist that way u.I live in Italy and i loved your comment on this post.The argument of post is very serius and  iteresting  for me too .Look, i love much to observe any problematic argument about all people's wolrd with the irony and  a smile.That my way of life.Have a good everythinks.See u!Sorry for my english, but i'm beginner...

 

FOR SUZANNE REISMAN

Tank you for your post is very iteresting for me, but i think about that whit someone question mark....(????) YOU KNOW!Sorry !They ( the Albanese women)  left in Italy an undutyfull influence in our society...

 

Our view of gender is limited...

and to be honest, not something I gave much thought to for most of my life.

My efforts were mostly devoted inward, and only in the last decade did the broader issues of gender, physical sex, and orientation begin to flow through my mind.

Now I've come to believe the 3 produce a combination that is unique to each of us. So it is not hard to imagine some societies developed very unique systems to satiate the needs of their society.

I've read on the Albanian and Samoan approaches before, as with the Mahu of Hawaii. I hope we come to realise the complexity of each of the elements of our sexual identity, and from that will come some rather fascinating and diverse permutations. Along with those things, perhaps one day we won't have to be seen as emulating men to be seen as worthy of equality - not only in the legal sense, but in the outlook of society sense.

 

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