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Sparkle (16)
Threesomes are one of those intriguing things that seem to be at the forefront of sexual bucket lists for people, whether it be in the fantasies of lad mag-lovin' men, the bitter reality of couples seeking that unicorn third (the unicorn being a hot bi babe that puts out), or of course girls like me who think if one cock is good, two is even better. There's that memorable threesome with the guys in Shortbus, and the L Word has more than one in the series- everyone's getting in on the action, and have been for a while!
But honestly, it's hard enough getting ONE person into bed and figuring out their turn ons and turn offs, what positions work for your bodies, and how to be truly present. Adding another person may seem like madness- and frankly, it can be complicated. You need to be really in touch with yourself and what you hope to get out of the experience, and be able to tactfully make sure everyone else is on board. Threesomes are pretty easy to fuck up, and if you don't do some soul searching and communicating ahead of time, you'll have two people angry, not one! So listen up. And remember- these are just tips from my experience, they may serve you, they may not. It's a place to start.
Why Three?
First major thing to ask yourself (and your partner, if you have one) is why do you want to play with three people, and what're your intentions? Do you want it to be a one time thing? Do you want to see what it's like? Do you want a regular booty call? Do you want a casual relationship? Do you want a serious relationship? Do you want a triad situation, or to be the pivot point between two other people, or to be one of the people attached to a pivot point? This will give you an idea on what sort of person to look for to ask into your bed. For example, the kind of boy I'd want to invite to play with my lover and I for a one time deal doesn't have to be someone I want to talk to the next day, but if I wanted another boyfriend I'd have different expectations and desires.
What Three?
Then of course a question to ask is what sort of threesome are you looking for? Obviously, I'm not the best person to talk to about BBB threesomes, but I'll give you my rundown of the pluses and pitfalls of the other three. And for all of these categories, be sure to know what pronouns people use, and how they like their genitalia spoken about and touched. Not everyone likes nipple stimulation or cunnilingus after all!
Note: if you are a male, and you want your girlfriend to entertain the idea of a threesome with another girl, it's only fair if you offer her the chance to be the meat in a boy sandwich. Just saying.
GGB- The girls, pretty much under every imaginable circumstance, have to get on as friends at LEAST and it's preferable if they want to jump each other's bones regardless of the guy being in the room or not. I will be honest- I have not heard of a threesome involving a couple where the guy picked the girl, the two girls focused on the guy, and this didn't end in pain and tears. It is drama city, believe me. It works out much better if the two girls go at it and the boy sits on the sidelines some of the time. That scenario where the guy and girl fuck and girl #2 just sits aside and makes o faces while she masturbates? I'm sure it's happened outside of porn, but I don't recommend it unless you've specifically negotiated that scenario and/or hired the other girl (and more on hiring a sex worker for threesomes later).
As a girl joining a couple, this is fun and fine if you're ok with the lack of responsibility and emotion that comes from being a living sex toy... which is usually your function. In fact, I would say have "living sex toy" as your base expectation. Don't get me wrong, I'm not dissing that at all- in fact that's what I loved about threesomes for a long time!- but if you expect to be treated as a lover you might feel
