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Has this ever happened to you?  You get a new idea.  You're all excited.  You share your idea with someone near and dear to you and you hear, "Oh, that will never work," or "I knew someone who tried that once and it was a complete disaster." 

People are often ready to rain on others' parades, especially those they love the most.  I don't know if it stems from a desire to protect from failure or just a projection of their own fears, but people often tamp out others' enthusiasm and think it's a favor.

Recently I've taken a different approach.  When someone comes to me with a new idea, I don't rain on their parade.  I throw sunshine on it.  I look for the good in their idea and how it can help people.  I encourage them to pursue it, knowing that they're likely to grow from the experience regardless of the outcome.  After all, it's often through mistakes and failures that we learn the most.

Consider this - a system of support is a major determinant of success for people trying to make a major change like lose weight or start their own business.  Success is a social activity.  While you think you might be protecting someone by pointing out the things that could go wrong with their endeavor, you are probably overlooking all the things that could go wrong if they fail to make a necessary change.

The next time someone approaches you with the beginnings of an idea, notice what is right about their idea and if it isn't dangerous, immoral or illegal, encourage them to give it a go.  You never know where their idea could lead.  Throw some sunshine around and see what happens.

  © 2011 Barbara Wayman, APR, BlueTree Media, all rights reserved

 

Barbara Wayman, APR, president of BlueTree Media, LLC, publishes The Stand Out Newsletter, a free monthly ezine for people who want to know how to leverage the power of marketing and public relations. Get your free subscription today at http://BlueTreeMedia.com

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2commentaristas 5 pts

There are enough naysayers in the world as it is. Thanks for challenging us to step up and spread some sunshine.

imnotasupermom 5 pts

Thank you for sharing this. It can be very discouraging when the people you love the most and hold in thehighest regard do not support you in your dreams and goals. Some go on without their support, but many do not.
Thank you for encouraging us to throw some sunshine around. Most of us are already surrounded by enough rain.

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skptvprods 5 pts

Barbara,
Your timing on this is interesting. I had dinner with three women last night and we were brainstorming ideas to help develop programs for people with developmental disabilities. It was a passionate discussion, and although some of the ideas were way off the charts, I felt my job was to coax and encourage, and suggest ways to take the passion and channel it into marketable and feasible action items.

No need to be discouraging. I'm in PR/Comms and my team often brainstorms with one rule being no negative comments. Thanks for your blog thoughts. Enjoyed.

Suzanne
http://mysecondlove.wordpress.com/

Star Traci 5 pts

I don't really listen to Country music but there is a song out that has much the same message. Instead of looking at what can go wrong, it poses the question, "what if it goes right?". I think that is a wonderful way to look at things. What a wonderful world it would be if we all had at least one person throwing sunshine at us!
:-)
Traci

ltorres78 5 pts

For me, it was my own mother. Every idea I came up with for my wedding, she shot down. "I don't think all white will look right with no accent colors." or "An outdoor wedding won't work because it's still so hot in September, and don't forget that there will be some elderly people there!" Every. Single. Thing. She almost got herself uninvited.

I took from that and decided that I don't want others to feel like I felt, so I try my hardest to come up with something positive to say about the idea, no matter whose it is or what it is.