Tips for Bringing a Friend on Family Vacation
By PandaMomConfessions on August 28, 2013
Then this summer, I took my son Joshua's best friend Sam with us to Hawaii.
Lest you think that that is over-the-top decadent and that I should have stuck to low-cost options such as going camping at the nearby campground, let me explain.
I had some work to do in Hawaii mid-August, just before Josh started his sophomore year in high school but after Meg had already started her year-round middle school. I could've either left both kids at home with David or taken Josh with me.
I let that thought sink in for a moment -- just me and Josh in paradise.
As much as I have a pretty good relationship with my teenage son, I just didn't think he would be overjoyed with the prospect of hanging out with Mother for five days in Hawaii. In fact, I knew he would be spending an inordinate amount of time indoors playing online games with Sam in Texas, which he could very well do back home in Southern California...sans the airfare.
So, I got a great idea: Why not bring Sam along with us to Hawaii?
We told Sam's parents that if they could fly him out from Texas to California, then we would take care of the rest.
"The rest" meant using my airline miles for his flight from LAX to Honolulu. It also meant him staying with us in our two-bedroom timeshare unit which we were going to rent anyhow and is plenty big for the three of us. Sam's overjoyed parents gave us some cash for his meals and spending money, but we happily paid for some of the fun activities such as the fabulous luau in Waikiki and snorkeling in Hanauma Bay.
We had an unforgettable time!
I didn't feel badly about leaving the boys alone at the resort while I took care of business, because they are pretty independent at 15. They walked to the nearby IHOP for their breakfasts, and they hung out at the pool or the beach. I gave them permission and access to room-charge foods and activities, although they showed much restraint in exercising this privilege. I was quite impressed. Sam must be a good influence on Josh.
When our kids were very young, we brought along baby sitters or hired them at the destination on our vacations. We paid all of their expenses and then some for watching our kids. I figured Sam was Josh's "sitter" on this vacation -- we probably should have paid him for taking care of our son!
Our friends Marty and Doris let their son Kyle join a family on camping trips each year, and our other friends Mary and Kenny always bring along their godchild Tyler to summer camp without her parents. People make it work for them in many different ways, but I have some suggestions to make such vacations go as smoothly as possible:
1. Discuss the expenses involved with the other parents before embarking on such a trip. Some parents want to make sure they pay for all of the expenses, while others are only able to chip in some spending money. Be prepared to pay for 100% unless otherwise mutually decided upon.
2. Make sure your child is mature enough and responsible enough to accept this invitation. Spending five days on vacation with someone is different from an afternoon play date. The more you can train your child for independence ahead of time, the more fun the excursion is going to be for all. Sam was responsible, thoughtful, fun, and just assertive enough for all of us to enjoy our vacation together. We would take him again in a heartbeat.
3. Keep communicating with their parents throughout the trip. With facebook, Instagram, email, and texts, it was easy for us to keep updating Sam's parents from Hawai with fun photos. I'm sure that his parents were pleased to see their son having fun in paradise!
Have you ever taken a friend along on vacation? How did it work out for you? Share with us here!
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