TOO MUCH ROMANCE.....IS THE WORLD COMING TO AN END?....DIGGING INTO THE PAST...DIVORCE FALLOUT...

I do believe that there is a lot going on in the world and I do respect the Biblical Scholars that are talking "Last Days..." I think being prepared for anything in life is likely a good idea in many situations....Could it be the end of time? Maybe....Maybe Not....I am as prepared either way as reasonably as one can prepare....but my focus is on Today....and making the very most of my life today while planning for tomorrow....If tomorrow would not come as planned then I am ready Spritually.....but my plan is to plan for many days to come whle cherishing today...

I believe in living a very full life….A life that makes me happy and a life that I can help and share with others…..After all, sitting waiting for the end of time as we know it….simply seems like a waste of time to me…..I would prefer being out there making things happen as if time was going to last forever……

 

DIGGING INTO THE PAST…….LOOKING UP OLD FRIENDS….

CURIOSITY….Is it a good thing? I often hear that “curiosity is a good thing” and yet I wonder. I also have heard the expression “Curiosity killed the cat….” And I think both may have some truth to them…..I think we are all curious in life….I think that curiosity can be a good thing when we use it to seek out new good things….I also think it can be a bad thing when we use it in ways that really are not going to lead to anywhere good…

Sometimes I get the urge to look up people from my past via social media….Normally I can never find who I am looking for anyhow….but somehow out of my amazement many of them find me and seek me out. I think I am easy to find via social media and so people simply look me up out of curiosity…….

What I have found is that when I go digging into the past more often than not I find that those doors closed for good reasons years back…..even when I didn’t realize why they were closing….Often my curiosity has led to me finding out about people that I would have preferred to keep good memories of….That their lives didn’t necessarily change for the better……Sure, a few I have been in touch with and found out some really good things….but for the most part not….

 You know, I sort of have mixed feelings about “digging up the past…” Often it can be a fun thing sitting up late at night just surfing the  "net" thinking about times gone by and how people are doing…..I am just as guilty of wondering how people I met along life’s journey are doing….and sometimes my curiosity gets the best of me….

I think many of the friends who I thought were the ones to succeed the most turned out with really mixed up lives…..On the other hand some of the ones who I thought wouldn’t go far actually did quite well…..I have heard about births, marriages, divorces, deaths, remarriages, affairs, and pretty much most topics from these old friends….Some of it I think I truly wish I had not heard….perhaps I wanted to simply delude myself that everyone lived happily ever after….and due to the easieness of the virtual world I have found out that is not true…..Perhaps “Happily Ever After” is part illusion….I am not sure….I hope to think most people get to find it at some point…

 

DIVORCE DESTROYS MORE THAN A MARRIAGE…..

So often people think that the only casuality in a divorce is the marriage itself….the couple…..but the truth is a divorce affects a lot more than just the couple themselves….It truly has a ripple affect that I think most people truly are not aware of or prepared for…….The Fallout of Divorce….

Divorce is almost always met with raw emotions. I personally have never seen a truly happy divorce although some will profess that they had one….I truly wonder if they did….If they did I imagine they had no kids, no in-laws, separate bank accounts from the beginnings, and no mutual property together…..Simply because most divorces extend way beyond just the emotions themselves….

When a couple divorces most of the time so do those we became closest with….the in-laws and close friends. Many close friends simply do not want to be a part of the divorce mess or taking sides. Often people simply want to distance themselves for fear it will happen to them if they stay close….The in-laws do take sides….it is almost unavoidable….They most often take the side of the person they are related to….That is just the way it is…..

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