Three Mistakes Women Make During Sex

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Nail appointments, little league, overtime, drive-by dinners, and text messaged sweet nothings are the stuff of life today. We work hard and we want to play even harder, but society and that little voice in our heads conspire to convince us we can't behave that way.

I'm here to tell you not only can you behave that way, but you will create a healthier life by doing so. You are in a committed relationship and fun seems to elude you and your partner. All of a sudden it's become about homework, dance recitals, daycare, and bills.


Photo by Jean KOULEV (Flickr).

When the last good night story is read and the kids are safely tucked in you certainly don't want to go behind closed doors and make these mistakes with your man. Read 'em and release 'em!

Ladies, it's 2012 and this is not your mother's article.

Worrying What You Look Like

If men have spent a lifetime imagining their body next to an airbrushed babe, we've spent ours comparing ourselves with the same babes. Ladies, release the comparison. Embrace the fact that he is with you. Stand naked in a full-length mirror and remind yourself how naturally beautiful you are.

When you're together, focus on what is happening physiologically with your partner. You are the one obsessing on your over inflated ideas about your physicality. If you are enthusiastic and energized when you're in bed, it's guaranteed that he won't even be thinking! Trust me -- he will enjoying how into him you are, not focusing on the jiggle in your thighs or belly.

Not Initiating Sex

It is such a turn on for a man when his woman gets frisky. An AskMen.com survey tells us that 54% of men initiate sex and a whopping 76% reveal they initiate sex because they want to feel closer to their partner!

As women we sometimes aren't comfortable initiating sex because we've been told it's not lady-like. So we shy away. We also have a tremendous fear of being rejected. I say GO FOR IT. Use your intuition and go right where he wants you to be. Lose the inhibitions and be yourself!

Remember our partner wants to be closer to us.

Not Giving Him Guidance

There was a time when women believed they were not supposed to enjoy sex. It was more obligatory than anything. The man was the lead in life and in bed. Those days are gone! However, talking about sex can be very intimidating for some even if they’ve been with their partner for a long time.

One of the benefits of talking about sex is it adds to the anticipation of the actual event. The open, honest communication also creates a bond that is strengthened at that special moment.

Ladies, nobody knows our bodies better than we do. Let's be the GPS (Gathering Pleasure Sensor) for our partners. Let's lead them on a tour of our scared domain!


Photo by Calvin Merry (Flickr).

Veronica Drake is an international relationship coach and intuitive. She specializes in working with women who are struggling to regain trust after a break up. She helps them access their inner wisdom so that they can create powerful personal relationships. Visit her at Design Your Relationships.com

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