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The Problem With Soulmates

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Soulmates

Lovers are two rivers that have met, different but now flowing in the same direction. We don't know what will break our trajectory -- or if anything will. It doesn't matter; eventually, we'll all feed the sea. The beauty of romance isn't in an elusive forever just as the beauty of humanity isn't in an elusive heaven. It's in the fact that right now, at this moment, it's me and it's him.  Read more

A Car Buyer's Guide to Marriage

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Cars and Relationships

Recently I "celebrated" 18 years of marriage. At a point when so few marriages seem to last for any significant amount of time, you may be hoping I can offer some insights into how I have managed this feat. I believe the key is thinking of husbands in terms of cars. You may wonder what brings about this unusual theory? Well, I have done intense research over these last 18 years, and by "intense research" I mean I have observed and heard my fellow wives' experiences, and I have found husbands all have similar factory defects. I think the secret to surviving marriage is in recognizing that all women discover these warps in their own husbands, no matter which style they selected.  Read more

a man deflecting the words of a liar

Many people in my life are grappling with the same major problem. From my friend who was mortified to discover that another "friend" (one with a history of stealing) went behind her back and attempted to take a job from her, to a man who is devastated to discover that his girlfriend is cheating on him again, to the friend who married a positively charming gentleman mistakenly believing that the hostile rampages he directed at his mother and former girlfriends could never be aimed at her; selective blindness is rampant.  Read more

The Costs of Being Female

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Betty Freidan

In what seems like post number 7,000 in the series “Why it costs more to be female,” two recent articles highlight why being attractive prevents women from getting certain types of jobs and how being a mother causes women to earn less than their already underpaid childless peers. (The second story is an oldie, but a goodie.) We also know, of course, that being unattractive also prevents women from getting jobs and that not having children also does not factor into women’s paychecks because they are seen as “cold, odd and somehow emotionally deficient in an almost dangerous way." Also, that women should pay more for insurance since we use more preventative care, which leads to cost savings down the line.  Read more

Censorship

Here's what is at stake: Recent censorship of online discussions of sex and pornography -- not the porn itself, but discussions -- isn't an issue of us versus them, morality versus indecency, conservatives versus liberals, believers versus atheists. This is a matter of freedom to speak, freedom to congregate, freedom to learn about ourselves and to share that knowledge. That's what this country stands for and it's essential that those of us who believe in these tenets take a stance against those seeking to oppress them.  Read more

Looking at Virginity

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Couple in bed

I don’t know how we arrived at the topic except that my sister and I were having one of those long conversations that touches all sorts of topics, political and familial, when somehow we arrived at the topic of sex. She told me how she’d lost her virginity. I was impressed with what she shared.  Read more

Video Game

It takes some effort not to get caught up in the emotional aspects of news stories, especially if the topic is important to you. You should know that certain media outlets will do anything and everything to get your attention. It isn’t about truth or informing viewers. It is about gathering viewers for advertising dollars.  Read more

iPhone Users Have More Sex

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iPhone

iPhone users have more sex. That's what the popular dating site OkCupid said in a recent post on its OkTrends blog after going over the number of sexual partners of 9,785 smart phone users.  Read more

Wedding Rings

I wasn't freaked out; only intrigued. I mean, even marriages that end start from a place of love, and it makes sense that a marriage that ends amicably can be sustained with what amounts to a very complicated friendship. Not everyone seeks divorce and the closure it can bring to a union. This woman was free to date other people and pursue her own interests, her children had an easy transition between co-parenting homes, and her ex-husband-yet-still-husband had the aid he needed in order to live. They had a situation they made work.  Read more

Girl

Last week we talked about a friend having an affair. This week, wise women, is yet another ethical dilemma for you to resolve. Once again, there are no "right" answers. Today's world presents us with an increasing amount of decisions that have to be made at a younger and younger age. And that is where today's story begins. Ethical Dilemma  Read more

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