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I was working on my Mommy & Family blogroll post for Blogher.org, reviewing other blogs, and talking to a friend of mine on the phone. She lives in New Mexico and asked,
"Girl, did you hear about that mom who got two years for tossing a McDonald's cup of ice at another car? You know, road rage. They convicted her and she got two effin' years!" (Pictured is Jessica Hall, 25, convicted mom.)
I'm listening now, asking my friend where she heard this story and already thinking I'll have to post my blogroll tomorrow or Thursday because this story intrigues me. I'm sure there are mothers who'll read about it, mull over their own stress levels, their reactions, and some will ask themselves, "What kind of sentence would I get if I were reported for losing my temper in the wrong state? (Read that as wrong state of mind and wrong state in America.) If no one was injured, would I still deserve two years?"
My friend went on, "She's got three kids. Her husband's away on his third tour in Iraq. The kids were in the car acting crazy. These people cut her off twice, almost made her have an accident. Her sister is pregnant and was in the car too seeming like she was having the baby. Really bad traffic, a cup of ice. Two effin' years jail! Her kids have been farmed out to relatives. It's insane!"
I looked the story up, and it's true. Folks are calling it "the McMissile case" according to The Washington Post, and the press calls the convicted mom a soccer mom. I remember when I was a soccer mom. I don't do the soccer thing anymore and no longer have young children who squirm and squabble in the back seat, but I still do lots of mom stuff in my car. My teenager and twenty-something still argue sometimes in my car, and I have crazy days sometimes, days when my ex creates problems, days when I have no one to turn to, days where I blow smoke from my nostrils.
This story scares me. I've lost it in traffic before, started cussin' up a storm in the privacy of my car because some driver's darted in front of me. I don't roll down the window and scream directly at the person, however, because I usually recognize that I must be under stress to react so angrily and catch myself. I've learned over the years to manage my anger, but three years ago, while going through divorce, the wrong day and I may have blown every gasket. And that mom is 25 with a husband away at war. Hmm, there were times in my twenties when I may not have thought things through so clearly.
I'd probably never throw anything at another driver, however, because I know that's a clear sign of aggression. If I considered tossing a cup of ice at someone else, even someone encased in a car, I'd be more likely to fear the driver retaliating with screaming and yelling or by tossing something at me, maybe following me to threaten me or to report me. Plus, I know what it feels like to have a driver get aggressive. Some people followed me once on a dark road all the way to my destination and flashed their lights at me to scare me. I think it's because they didn't want me to pass them on the highway. If I could've I would've reported them, but I don't think I'd expect them to get jail time.
Prior to this incident with Mrs. Hall, it wouldn't occur to me that a cup of ice could be considered a missile, an assault worthy of jail time, especially two years time. If I did something like this, and it was my first offense and no one was injured, would I deserve two years in jail? Would I deserve to be branded a felon, to have my children "farmed out" to relatives or maybe foster care while my husband was in Iraq or away on business? Is this what it means to be tough on crime?
Yes, the mother of three is guilty of road rage. She was wrong to toss a cup of ice at another driver. She could've startled the















