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Transracial Adoption: Love does not conquer all

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Prompted by a reader, Rachel at Rachel’s Tavern responds to a British ad that is marketed towards potential black parents who are interested in adopting black children. By looking at statistics that were published in 2005, she surmises in comparison to the African-American population, black children are over-represented in the foster care / adoption system.

To many of us, this is not a surprise. Nor is ithe belief (I'm assuming because I don't have the stats) that there are more transracial adoptions (people adopting children from a different ethnic background other than their own) than there is people who are adopting interculturally in the United States. Some reasons, as pointed out by Rachel's commenters are because of availability and for financial reasons, some because people want to adopt transracially, wanting to give a child from an impoverished country a better life. But according to the findings from Rachel’s posts, she surmises that there is a very, very small percentage (She estimates via the outdated statistics that only 1%) of internationally adopted children are black.

So with the British ad, I am assuming that the reader felt that perhaps it was wrong or even ‘reverse racism’ that prompted an ad that promoted black adoption. After all, non-black parents adopt black children (obviously not a lot) but they do. Asian, Hispanic and Eastern European adoptions are more popular, based, (in my opinion and experience) on prevailing racial stereotypes, especially about genetic inferiority. Some people want kids that have physical similar traits so they can like to the kid all their life and pass them off as their biological brood. Some think that Asian kids are naturally more intelligent and more obedient, more prone to doing well academically than getting into trouble with the law.

Last week the Central District Forum in Seattle, WA put on a talk entitled, Transracial Adoption of Black Children.” Lisa Marie from A Birth Project and a transracial adoptee, spoke on the panel. Much to her chagrin, Jerry Large, a columnist from the Seattle times wrote an article which did not adequately report on what the discussion was about, claiming that ‘it’s about love, not race,’ willfully ignoring the discussion from the panelists on recognizing and embracing the adopted child’s ethnicity:

Over and over, research, conferences, memoirs, articles, blogs, rants, emails, by professionals, AP’s and AD’s have said out loud that colorblindness is exactly that. Blindness. Talking about race, racism and culture is essential to making sure your child grow up a healthy, connect whole person.

In Large's article, he mentions the National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) infamous report that was initially published in the ‘70’s which first brought up the problem of black families not being encouraged to adopt black children, therefore a number of children not being raised in an envionment in which their cultural heritage would be properly acknowledged. What many people, including other social workers did with this report was to use it to paint the NABSW with racism, accusing them of purposefully blocking children from being placed in ‘good’ homes. One (misguided) commenter on Rachel’s blog believes that the ‘cultual genocide’ that the NABSW alledgely puported actually hindered the progress of race relations for black adoptees:

Our nation could have experienced multiplied thousands more intergrated families which by now in 2007 could have made race relations much improved for transracially adopted children.
Instead the growing trend of transracial adoption was restricted by Black separatist.
Instead of being rased by families and reciving all the inheritance which they bring the too many African American kids are were stuck in foster care partially because not enough African American families were availabe.

A couple of years ago when my niece was a senior in high school, she wanted to write one of her final assignments on transcultural adoption, as both her mother and her aunt (me) were adoptees. My father requested that I travel home for the weekend to help her. So my parents, my niece and myself sat in a room for what seemed like eternity and hashed it out. Not to get into specifics, but it was probably one of the most difficult days of my life. One of the most challenging topics was about cultural identity and how important it was for children to be in an environment where there cultural identity was recognized, respected and that there was an awareness of some of the challenges their cultural differences would cause them, things that their parents

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alyssaroyse 5 pts

I grew up in an unusually diverse environment, so that certainly colors my perception, but I think that it is very possible for multi racial adoptive families to raise well-balanced and open-minded and comfortable children. I have friends my own age who were adopted by different race parents, and have friends who have adopted babies from other countries (and from this one.) And in every case, every effort was made to explore everyone's heritage, and crate a culture that is an amalgam of all of those.

which, i might add, is the idea that we are striving for her in our country as a whole. Not a color-blind "we are all one" approach, which is truly racist and asinine. But a "we all come together" approach. I think there is tremendous opportunity here to create living examples of integration that are not assimilation.

And, of course, that a loving home - with people of any color - is preferable to being stuck in the system.

We need more adoptive parents in general - of all races. We also need to figure out what's creating the need for all of those adoptive parents, and look at causes, not just solutions.

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Pickel 5 pts

Okay, point taken...But.

I disagree with the article wholeheartedly. I don't think that love conquers all. If one know our family it certainly is not the case. our first adopted child (the Russian one) is the point in case. He was abused, medically fragile, has attachment issues, and special needs. So, obviously we have our hands full. But, I think that parenting plays a HUGE roll in how children can feel and learn to feel about their culture, both biological and adoptive.

What measures could be taken? There are very few potential adoptive parents of other races right now (from what I have seen). If one looks at profiles on agency websites or at adoption.com it is mainly Caucasian. So, do we request cultural godparents or keep more contact with birth families? I think that is part of the plan for many agencies (part of the reason for the push for open adoptions).

Russia recently did the same thing that Britain did; they created ads stating that their children needed to stay with them but unfortunately no one responded to those ads.

lainad 5 pts

But obviously if the agency behind the ad is trying to attract black parents than there is still a problem. Potential adoptive parents also need to factor in where they live, the people in their lives - whether they socialize with a multicultural community, and how their child will be socialized in regards to learning and embracing their cultural heritage. There are a ton of blogs out there from transracial adoptees ( check the blogroll from Ethnicially Incorrect Daughter) who struggle with their idenity, whom, despite having fantstic parents - as I do - are still dealing with alot of issues surrounding their adoption, issues that can potentially make their adult lives very difficult. Why not implement measures to combat that?

Sorry, I am all for the promotion of black families adopting black children. Perhaps if we didn't live in such a racist, classist society, it wouldn't matter, but it does. And while adoptive parents can empasize with their children, there is still a huge difference in talking with your children about race and racism if you have never personally expereinced it and don't have the knowledge to really know how damaging systemic and subtle racism can be on your child. Hell, I don't know...does cultural training combat that? There is alot more than learning how to do your child's hair or finding out where the nearest cultural centre is.

Of course, every child deserves a home, and I am not saying that children of colour should languish in foster homes until they are 18. But again, obviously there is still an important issue that is factoring in to the creation of that ad.

Pickel 5 pts

So, basically you are saying that race should stay with race? That I, as a Caucasian adoptive mother, should not attempt to adopt a child from another race even though there may never be another home for that child? To me, that is just as racial as pointing out the British ad.

My family includes an Asian Indian, a Korean, and a Russian and we fully intend on honoring any heritage or culture our next child may have. Although we know we can't do it as much justice as a "black homes" I think its a much better option to have us parent than no parent at all.

And, perhaps its time to do some research on agencies...ours, as well as about 90% of agencies, require cultural "training".