(Trigger Alert) Updated: Texas Judge Beats Daughter, And I'm So Glad She Taped It

Words can't explain how I feel about domestic abuse it's so so sad & ugly. I pray one day we can pass enough laws to put an end to this. Being abused myself I know how it feels some people only think about the physical scars of abuse. But abuse goes so so far deeper than the physical the scars that most people don't care to think about....

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Just saw this and am horrified. What about the mother too. Both parents need to have child protective services investigate their actions and never let them have underage children in the home. Judge Allan needs to be prosecuted, as does his wife. Also, what kind of judge/father uses such profane language in front of their child - or anyone!!

Bravo to the Hilary for taping this and posting it. Now someone will hear her cry for help.

I think another sad part to this story are the judgements this so-called-judge made for other children in need of protection that came through his court down through the years. His perspective was certainly flawed and I wonder how many other children suffered because of his sick, warped mind.

He needs more than help, he needs to lose the security of his job.He needs to experience helplessness--things out of his control--to be controlled by the ethics he is supposed to uphold--to be fired!

For him to say that it looks worse on tape than it really was?

The man is sick and should not be holding a job that requires a fair and balanced mind.

Kudos to Hillary. It was the right time for her and that is all that counts.

I'm glad she taped it. What a scum he is. I hope he's ruined. He doesn't deserve any kind of respect.

I found watching the tape so upsetting, who wouldn't? Well, it seems there are folks out there, somewhere.. who believe this kind of discipline is okay. I was shocked and angry, to say the least. Though not sure if these folks simply want to trigger a potential reader like myself - if so, a job well done :) However, if they truly believe this form of discipline is okay - then lets hope they never have children.

I watched. I could only watch for two minutes. Something inside told me to keep watching but I couldn't. I didn't see Hilary anymore. I saw myself and the person on the other end of the belt. The shame and the humiliation came pouring back. The memories are as clear today as they were a long time ago. We think we forgave but then something like this comes along to make us realize that this cannot be forgiven. In the movie, The Prince of Tides, Tom Wingo says "in families there are no crimes beyond forgiveness." I disagree because I know what Hilary will go through for the rest of her life. I wish her the best.

I could't watch it, but didn't need more than 3 seconds to get it.Wherever this came from in this person (I will not call him a man because no real man would do this) , yes, of course he needs therapy and alot of it to heal it in him. But that doesn't cover the fact that this is only one case of millions that happen, and each and every one count, and also will have reercussions on mamy more. Bless her courage to put this out there, for all the others who are silenced, and of course there is even worse, a great deal of it, that goes on. The selling of violence in the years since Reagan and the various Bush family members have been painting the country with meanness, violence and shame is also on trial here. Many abusers are in positions of power over others, that is why they seek the jobs, to feel in power over others where they are out of control completey of their own violence.

May this start a fire that goes completely out of anyone's hypocritical control until the cover for violence in families is burned off for good, and the underlying reasons and reasonings that keep it going, as horrible as it is, are brought to light and healed.

Also please note that there is usually sexual exctiement involved in this kind of stuff for the abuser as well. Who knows what has not yet been said here...

The judge should be relieved of his post immediately, period. There is no discussion at all that is viable on that subject, just get him out of the courtroom, and get him to turn in any others as well that he knows. Be nice if USA justice were truly concerned again with safety for its people and true justice, as people deserve.

So, all you out there who know or who are living any form of this yourself, yes! you deserve to be safe and free from the violence. NO, you never deserved it, ever, Period. Speak as you can, use this blog, use YouTube, find a safe house. Say no. look for a 12 step program that will have resources and knowledge of where to go and how to move again.

Heart's best to you all.

I had seen this video yesterday and it truly is devastating ... but the comments here today ...

I had to stop reading. So much pain, so much anger, so many broken families - it breaks your heart.

I'm speechless.I've seen some references to the video, but hadn't watched it and the interview until now. I wish Hillary the best in recovering from this abuse from the people who were supposed to protect and love her.

There is much worse than this going on every day. My children are still in their father's home where this type of punishment was norm and their step-brother was molesting them. The step-mother has twisted their poor little minds to think that somehow they caused this, that they deserved this...and that I am the enemy because I have been trying to get them out of there. I finally got my youngest out a year ago - after 2 years of fighting. She is still in intense therapy. She is only 9. The boy finally admitted to doing those things and is now in a home for sick boys like him and will never return. There was a new investigation just two months ago, but the kids are too scared to talk. And the judge won't remove them because she doesn't want to "go against the divorce decree." I have never been found unfit and I have done everything they have asked me to do and more. I completed their stupid service plan, even went through the same screening they put foster parents through. Never mind that the children are being abused physically and emotionally or the fact that I couldn't go through family court even if I could afford the $10,000 every attorney I talk to says it will cost me, because it has been tied up with the state for over 3 years. 3 years!! Hillary was very smart to go to YouTube. Our justice system is all about money and power, not right or wrong.

This is not "disciplining a child" It is BEATING plain and simple. Do no harm!! Long time ago??? What about psychological trauma lasting for years. Wake up judge Adams and mom, you chose to support the behavior and PARTICIPATE.

I want to commend all of you who have shared your own stories of abuse here, and most of all, you who have made the decision to break the cycle and treat your own families, friends and strangers with more respect and compassion than you were shown. It is my hope that bringing Hillary's story to light will help kids who are trapped in bad situations now to have hope and the recognition that most people -- and I do believe this -- recognize the difference between loving discipline and teaching the difference between right and wrong and allowing anger to push them over the edge into abuse, regardless of what led them to do that. We all have the opportunity every day to make new choices, regardless of the ones we made yesterday. I hope Judge Allan is able to recognize in himself, by himself, how his response was unkind and immoral and learn to become a better human being. I hope those who are angry with him can recognize in themselves there are right and wrong ways to deal with our anger. We can't make right what happened to Hillary, but we can let our voices be heard to Judge Allan and to every other abusive parent and abuse child that this behavior is not acceptable in our society, and we won't turn a blind eye when it is brought to light.

And the mother tells her to "Take it like a grown woman!"??? WTF??? Like abuse should be taken by grown women? Sick sick disturbed parents. I am physically ill at this. And you can tell that the mom was keeping her butt covered in this situation so that she doesn't get it either, "like a grown woman". Siiiiiiiick.

I could never forgive my parents for this.

Very impressed with this young lady's poise and integrity, not only in the handling of this story but also as a survivor of emotional and physical abuse. I do think her mother needs to be held accountable, though. As a mother myself, there's no way I could even fathom witnessing such abuse being inflicted upon my child, much less condone it. There's simply no excuse.

As for William Adams, there's a special place in hell reserved for narcissistic sociopaths like him. The thought of him overseeing cases of child abuse turns my stomach.

I cannot watch all of the video.

I cannot because I have seen it all before, in my own house, by my father from the ages of 4 through 19 when he threw me into the yard, unconscious and locked me out of the house for twelve hours. That was the last time.

My mother blamed me. Said that I brought it on myself. Said that I antagonized him with my smart mouth.

As for the little girl in the video that gets ushered out of the room at the beginning, my parents NEVER would even think to beat my younger siblings. And I would often offer myself up to save them from any punishment at all. I am sure that Hillary is probably like me, the protective much older sister. I hope that she is.

That is not to say that she is not suffering as well and all children in that household should be removed immediately.

My mother finally wised up after I left home. She took my brothers and ran. And over the years, my father and I were able to reach an understanding and become civil with each other.

Through many years of therapy, I was able to fully forgive the abuse. And before he died he actually acknowledged the full extent of what he had done and apologized.

Sorry that this has taken so long, I am glad that kids who are like me have a resource now, when I was young there was no outlet - like you said, "who is going to believe a sixteen-year-old who says her...father violently beat her with -- as he says -- "the big belt"?"

NOW YA'LL SEE IT AINT JUST MINORITIES AND IT IS POSSI6LE FOR FOLKS WITH A DEGREE TA ABUSE THEY KIDS....

Ass for the mom she need her ass whooped. I don't give a dayuum wut you say. (smh) take it like a 16 year old... she just as foul

this is sum 6ullshyt. I am a survivor of abuse and for a judge ta 6eat his daughter and call it discipline is straight up foul... He needs ta serve his time regardless of his daughters age. He is a mutha fuccin person just ass we are. "SORRY ASS BASTARD".....

I couldn't finish...that is absolutely 100% abuse! How could he just keep on like that? I'm so glad she's out now but she had to at least endure his hatefulness for another 2 years. And did he call his own daughter "dummy"? I'm just crushed by this.

i started watching the video but had to stop it as soon as he started hitting her. my dad beat me like that, and unfortunately, i spanked my kids. spanked, not beat like this poor child. i was so glad to read that she is 23 now and it just didn't happen. i was more hurt for this one than the tabasco kid and boy that one tore me to shreds. imagine not even having peace in your home. your safe place i am so glad Hillary is ok, and that she urges for help for her dad. what an ass. he went to the same school my dad did and i didn't forgive him until after he passed away when i was certain he could never hurt me again.

This happened in a state that allows corporal punishment in the schools. So, though this is shocking and awful, it is not surprising. The Judge and his wife should be forced to lay down on their stomachs and given 1,000 lashes and then sent directly to jail.