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Bigotry, Rape Apologism, and Baby Theft: WTF, Patriarchy?

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Some weeks, the news just doesn't get any better, and this week is no exception when it comes to gross misconduct and contravention of human rights. Here are a few gems to put in your WTF file.

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Michael Young, a caucasian Whataburger employee from Euless, Texas, was fired for marrying a black woman. The last time I checked, it was 2010. While I am not a bright-eyed Pollyanna who believes the world is, at heart, a good and decent place, I am shocked that race continues to be such an issue. Whataburger is denying the claim of discrimination, but who wouldn't when they are facing a federal court hearing? I'm not buying it, considering that the man was a 10-year employee earning six figures until he started dating outside his race. The so-called "old school" Whataburger management might want to educate themselves in what constitutes 21st century decency.

Laine Tadlock was fired from her position at Benedictine University when she chose to celebrate her same-sex nuptials by placing a wedding announcement in the local paper. Benedictine President William Carroll, in an open and galling defence of his institution's prejudice, wrote, "...By publicizing the marriage ceremony in which she participated in Iowa she has significantly disregarded and flouted core religious beliefs which, as a Catholic institution, it is our mission to uphold." The university, which was already aware of Tadlock's orientation when it employed her five years ago, only took issue with it when she mentioned where she worked in the marriage announcement. Their employee handbook states that they "...provide equal employment opportunity to all persons without discrimination", but their actions state that they are duplicitous bigots. Benedictine University apparently has no problem with homosexuals as long as people don't know about said homosexuals. If you've got a hankering for some good old institutionally enforced closeting, Benedictine University will help you out!

Lawrence County Children and Youth Services (LCCYS) in Pennsylvania seized a newborn baby from her parents because the mother ate an "everything" bagel from Dunkin' Donuts. It's true. And I thought Elaine's plight in the classic Seinfeld episode in which she's labeled an opium addict after eating poppyseed muffins was implausible. The cut-off level for opiate tests at Jameson Hospital is so low that even eating poppy seeds can trigger it, and the county and hospital made no effort to find corroborating evidence before they delivered Isabella Rodriguez into foster care for five days following her birth, effectively depriving her parents of their 14th Amendment rights. Couple the unnecessarily sensitive opiate testing with the LCCYS' "seize first, ask questions later" policy, and you've got to wonder how many expecting families have been similarly terrorized after innocently lunching on Dunkin' Donuts' bagels.

A woman was coerced into stating that her rape was not, in fact, a rape in Marion, South Carolina. Police officers at the scene went so far as to read her her Miranda rights and told her that she would spend five years in prison away from her child if her story did not hold up, pressuring her to write in her statement "Though I didn’t agree or consent to it (it) was not rape." Non-consensual sex IS rape by definition, but just not when the violent criminal in question is a police officer in Marion, apparently. What is particularly galling in this incident is that one of the officers who reportedly coerced the rape victim to recant her accusation is a woman, Lt. Betty Gause. I may be no Pollyanna, but one woman actively furthering the victimization of another woman who has just been raped is so beyond unjust I've lost my words.

Schmutzie can be found at Schmutzie.com, the Canadian Weblog Awards, and Grace in Small Things.

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theoutcast 5 pts

I think women/moms would make every effort to have kept the baby and the mother together while the situation was sorted out. If there is no odd behavior, danger or health concerns it would have been in everyone's best interests for officials to take more blood samples or offer to monitor them together in the hospital for a few days. I'm not a nurse but I think if the mom was a drug addict she would show signs of withdrawal pretty soon. This was clearly wrong. Hopefully, a lawsuit brings about changes to this terrible policy.

You are right that there are so many obstacles in our society which is why I decided to start writing. I try to define them. We need first understand what we need to improve upon then believe that making those improvements will make things better. Women and moms tend to be their own worst enemies in the empowerment department.

I would love to communicate with you further. You sound very smart and have brought up a wonderful discussion. I think is valuable to explore this further but I don't want to fill this page up too much. Please feel free to e-mail me at ultimateoutcasts@gmail.com

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

Arnoa505 5 pts

Yes, they are soooo soo lucky that the baby they conceived, and the the mother gave birth to, wasn't unfairly taken away from them and put into a poorly run orphanage or put up for adoption. We should all be so lucky.

Von 5 pts

The couple were jsut lucky the baby didn't end up adopted as well!

Arnoa505 5 pts

As a mother, what is your reaction to the PA mother who's baby was seized from her after eating a bagel? Should the government and youth services be able to take a woman's child for even slightly testing positive for any type of drug? This seems like good policy when it comes to heroine and crack addicts, but this example really makes you re-evaluate policies created mostly by Caucasian males. I'm also wondering how much the system is used to oppress minorities.

Though I can relate to what you're saying, I am still pretty young and motherhood is not in my near future. I am more so interested in learning to prevent such injustices from happening in the first place. I'm sure as a mother you want your children to grow up in a more harmonious world. What strategies can we employ now to strive towards less bigotry and unfair treatment in the future?

theoutcast 5 pts

My suggestions for finding balance has come through my experience as a Mom. I began reading the paper and noticing that a Mom would never write this or a Mom would never do that and the is list went on and on.

Look around Mom influence is hardly to be found (consider the examples you mentioned). Women may have a foothold at work which helps but that is really only half of the people we are. We are leaders, care-givers, friends, Moms, we are so much and need to sell this idea to the world.

You can find Moms everywhere doing the right thing: a Republican, Democrat, White, Black, poor, rich. It's a unifying experience and one that I have decided to focus on because it is were I am in my life. Moms generally respresent the highest ideals of humanity. I truly believe the balance comes when women are raised to levels of power with God, Popes and Priests.

I believe we have to write the stories of women that have been left out of bibles, legislation and business. This is actually a wonderful time to accomplish big things for ourselves but we have to redefine what we are as a group. We are only now discovering that we don't fit -- even when considering the freedoms many of us know today.

A world of new ideas is possible and it gives me a ton of hope.

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

TheBlackTortoise 5 pts

I AM a Polyanna, and you made my stomach knot. It's so hard to believe such behavior ever, let alone in this day and age.

WTF, the only way I can look on the bright side is to be glad these are not everyday occurances. Dammit, that didn't work.

Adela

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Arnoa505 5 pts

I agree with theoutcast and have accepted that injustices happen, but still have hope that change is possible. You say you do your best to bring balance, what ways do you suggest to help promote awareness and end prejudice as an individual?

As much as I'd like to think we live in a post-racial and prejudice-free society, my awareness of racism, sexism, and homophobia is rapidly increasing due to articles like this. It's scary to think we live in a society which allows "the man" to control our personal lives and choices.

JennaHatfield 9 pts

The mother in Lawrence County, PA is suing. While I'm not a sue-hound, I gotta say that I have to agree with this one. Take my child from me without legitimate reason? I'm gonna go all crazy Mama Bear on you.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

theoutcast 5 pts

So many injustices still happen. Yet, I am hopeful that things will get better one woman at a time.

Schmutzie thanks for the insightful article. I too, am trying to do my part to bring balance and sanity to the world in my own way.

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

schmutzie 5 pts

It's frustrating and can be so disheartening, but I think it's important to highlight these stories so that we don't lull ourselves into feeling like we've come farther than we have.

I'm just doing my best to be a ray of sunshine :)

Schmutzie can be found at Schmutzie.com ( http://www.schmutzie.com ), the Canadian Weblog Awards ( http://www.canadianweblogawards.com ), and Grace in Small Things ( http://www.graceinsmallthings.com ).

crankyoldcow 5 pts

It just sucks the breath right out of you, doesn't it? I'm, sadly, regularly stunned to hear stories just like these in my own country.It's enough to make you weep in frustration, isn't it? Thanks for your blog.

bukkweat 5 pts

Some days I just have to avoid the news because I can't handle how STUPID some people are and how horrid the world is.

Neil 5 pts

I had the same thought you did. Isn't this 2010, almost 2011? It sounds so futuristic. But I guess mankind can still be pretty dumb.