Unwanted Bad Advice


“Don’t wait too long to get married, men don’t like woman who are too successful.”–a distant relative, I think, at a cousin’s wedding, NJ

“Don’t move in with him before your married; he’ll never propose.”- a woman eavesdropping on my conversation in a restaurant, NYC

“Don’t raise your children in the country; they’ll turn into skin heads.”- an intoxicated woman at a tapas bar, SPAIN

Everyone’s fallen victim to it- unwanted bad advice. While these examples are all clearly, terrible advice, it’s not always easy to decipher the good from the bullshit. I know I’ve steered my best friend in the wrong direction on several occasions, unintentionally of course.  Here, wear your hair like this.  Subsequently, in her 7th grade school picture, she has two strands of hair running down the middle of her face.  I saw Clueless; I knew what was cool. As if pre-pubescence needed to be even more awkward.


Only Courtney could make this work. Image via Pinterest.

So, here’s my unsolicited advice. You decide if it’s good or garbage. Be careful who’s advice you take. Not all advice is good advice.  Your best friend, your mother, your therapist, hell, the woman who does your hair, they may want what’s best for you, but that doesn’t guarantee they know what is.  If you’re not careful, the next thing you know, you’ll be stuck with a picture of yourself sporting a rad 90′s hairstyle.

If you want to live the life you want with the hair you want, then you have to start making the tough calls yourself, because you are the only one who knows what you truly want from life.

What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever received?   Tweet me.

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