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  1. Chris Brown Can't Beat Me, or You.

    2/13/12 2:58pm by alyssaroyse
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    Before I explain how sick to my stomach I felt when reading Tweet after Tweet by women saying, in various ways, we should all stop bitching about Chris Brown, they'd let him beat them all night long, let me make my fondness for rough sex abundantly clear.  Read more >

  2. The Impact of Sexual Shame

    1/12/12 2:31pm by alyssaroyse
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    Mistress (Shutterstock)

    Why is sex always surrounded by shame? Shame is not guilt. Guilt is an internal notion about a specific action. Shame is an external force exerted by others. Shame tells you not that you've done something bad, but that you are something bad. That idea takes away your autonomous control over your sexuality. And anybody who wants to take your autonomous control over your sexuality does not have your best interest at heart.  Read more >

  3. Tie Me Up & Worship Me

    12/9/11 3:41pm by alyssaroyse
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    Whenever I speak - or write - about women's sexuality in the context of empowerment, some very well-meaning person (usually a woman) will want to chat, with that knowing wink-wink nod-nod that assumes we will agree, about BDSM play. Invariably, they want me to agree with them that images of women tied up, bound, gagged and slapped are demeaning to women. They are waiting for me to validate their pent up indignation that anyone could do that to a woman.  Read more >

  4. Against Michele Bachmann and Her Marriage Vow Pledge

    7/11/11 4:48pm by alyssaroyse
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    Michele Bachmann

    Michele Bachmann and Rick Santorum became the first presidential candidates to sign "The Marriage Vow" written by a conservative Christian group. Even though the group has revised the vow to remove language that suggested black families were better off during slavery, the aim of the group is to protect monogamous Christian marriage as the only acceptable relationship, abolish the porn industry, deny the existence of homosexuality and generally regulate the personal lives of US Citizens.  Read more >

  5. "O" Relax, Orgasms Aren't That Big A Deal

    7/1/11 10:17am by alyssaroyse
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    Ooh feat. Madison Young

    Orgasms were always hard for her but after learning her body, she found she could get there, both alone and with lovers. Then, after a car accident and resulting brain injury, her Os all but disappeared. Strangely, she was relieved to see them go. As good as they felt for the short time they were happening, the pressure to "get there" had never seemed worth it to her.  Read more >

  6. SlutWalk, Stripping and Public Speaking

    6/23/11 12:38am by alyssaroyse
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    I am a mother, a daughter, a lover, a sexuality advocate, a rape survivor and a writer. I am a writer because I am actually very shy. Though I routinely and happily show my speckled soul in all it's gory glory to the universe, I do it with the entire Internet between my readers and myself.  Read more >

  7. Hormones Ate My Tomboy

    5/31/11 4:55pm by alyssaroyse
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    My daughter is a couple months shy of 13. As her mother, I know that her body is a thin-walled vessel filled with raging hormones that make her insane. As a pre-teen girl, she honestly believes that being told she can’t wear jeans and Converse to a special occasion is roughly the same as being disemboweled by hyenas. Which is why she burst into tears at the suggestion, and then slammed her bedroom door.  Read more >

  8. Mommy's Dating

    5/3/11 6:52am by alyssaroyse
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    Many people, myself included, looked at me askew when I said that I was driving nearly 1,000 miles to spend a week in California with a man I had met at a party and spent one magical (totally chaste) night with, a month before. The askew glances were mostly because I was bringing my 12 year-old daughter to California to spend a week with a man I had only known for one magical night, at a party.Seriously, you're bringing your daughter?  Read more >

  9. Porn On A Treadmill

    3/27/11 8:14pm by alyssaroyse
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     A while ago, I figured out that the best way to deal with the gym workouts that my broken neck require of me (as opposed to what I used to call "real" workouts, doing real things in the real world,) is to watch TV and movies on my iPod. Today I watched the first two hours of a truly interesting documentary about the history of porn as it relates to the history of civilization.  Read more >

  10. New Relationship Plans From Sprint

    3/17/11 7:10am by alyssaroyse
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    “Well, I mean, how is he your boyfriend if you live in Seattle and he lives in California, anyway?”  I thought about whether or not to bother explaining this to him. He had not even been able to answer my simple question about canceling my Sprint contract, I was thinking the nuances of love might be a tad complicated for him.  “Are you getting married?  Read more >

Alyssa Royse

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Alyssa Royse
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August 2007
About Me: 

I am a woman, an ex-wife, a mother,  and an entrepreneur.  My new company, Not So Secret is a new way for women to engage with their own sexuality. With advice, blogs, shopping, art (and even movies,) we help women discover their sexuality and engage with it in a way that is healthy, happy and fulfilling. 

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