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When Do My Children Talk to Me?

When do my teenagers start deep conversations with me? Conversations about their hopes and dreams, possible love interests, and behind-the-scenes social goings on I’m not often privy to?Let’s look at the possibilities.Is it over breakfast when we lovingly prepare to send each other out into our days?Nope. In the mornings we are fighting over hot … Continue reading When Do My Children Talk to Me? ...more

#flipthescript 15: No Easy Button in Adoption

Tracy Hammond is a baby scoop era adoptee and adoptee rights activist. This is her second post here in this #flipthescript series...more

#flipthescript 14: Adoption & Eating Disorders

Jodi Haywood returns for the third November in a row (2014 post | 2015 post) to participate in the #flipthscript movement, in which adopted people take over the microphone in this space for November’s National Adoption Awareness Month.You may not agree with everything that is said in these #flipthescript posts. You may even find parts … Continue reading #flipthescript 14: Adoption & Eating Disorders → The post #flipthescript 14: Adoption & Eating Disorders appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

#flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee

The subtitle of Anne Bauer’s memoir is An Adoptee’s Quest for her Origins because one of the main reasons she wrote The Sound of Hope was to “get people to realize how damaging it is to make adoptees feel guilty when they want to know about their origins.”Three years ago, we wrapped up her book … Continue reading #flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee → The post #flipthescript 13: Healing & Hope for an Adoptee appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

When I Lived in Aleppo

Early in our marriage, my husband and I liquidated or stored most of our meager belongings, hopped a plane, and landed in one of the beigest places we’d ever seen. We set out on our first adventure together — teaching at an international school in Aleppo, Syria (known regionally as Halab).I want to share with … Continue reading When I Lived in Aleppo → The post When I Lived in Aleppo appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

#flipthescript 12: A 1970s Adoption Story

A friend from high school reached out to tell me that her biological mother had died. She told me that the whole thing had been a nightmare and that I should write about it....more

#flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation

Only recently did Michael Schwerman realize that being adopted at age 12 by a step father was not nothing — as he’d always thought — nor was the difficult relationship he’s had with his mother. He’s figuring out that instead, the circumstances around his adoption and rejection shaped his life and affected his future. Adopted … Continue reading #flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation → The post #flipthescript 11: Abuse to Adoption to Addiction to Affirmation appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more

I Got Jackassed. TWICE.

The parking lot was not full when I drove up. I slid into one of many available spots, grabbed my mat and headed in to a yoga class. I got some exercise, met my physical and mental edge, practiced staying present, and closed with a moment of stillness.That last step was important.Because when I came … Continue reading I Got Jackassed ....more

#flipthescript 10: I Guessed My Birth Mother’s First Name

Lenore Paletta found out she was born Giuseppina Morellato in Italy. With aching candor, she shares a portion of her search for her identity.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the microphone during November, National Adoption Awareness Month.Image: Tracy HammondWhen I Think of SearchingI guessed my birth mother’s first name. Yes, I really did ....more

#flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption

Paula Fahey was born, relinquished, and adopted during the closed adoption era. She experienced the happy/sad of adoption — she loved her parents yet she wondered about her birth parents. She’s now also on the birth family side of an open adoption and weighs in on the element of openness.The #flipthescript series gives adoptees the … Continue reading #flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption → The post #flipthescript 9: The Healing Power of Open Adoption appeared first on Lavender Luz ....more
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