Dating in 2016

Dating in 2016 is rough.  I never thought that it would be this hard.  I saw this meme the other day that I felt was a pretty accurate description, “Dating in 2016 is weird as hell because everyone’s playing games.  It’s all about showing each other how much you don’t care.  Just weird.” It is weird and I feel like this is exactly how it is....more

The Smile in My Eyes

Let’s face it divorce sucks!  You go through a variety of emotions, which we won’t delve in to right now. Your life has changed and you are trying to define the new you.  You are pasting a smile on your face, when many days you are sitting behind your office door crying or crying yourself to sleep at night.  There is no time limit on this grieving process.  Eventually though you need to move on.  You need to realize that there is so much that life has to offer. The world is your oyster....more

I am a Butterfly

Note:  I wrote this back in May and just never posted it.  As I reflect back on all of the changes this year. I feel like it is something that I needed to post.________________________________________________________________________________________________The butterfly represents endurance, change, hope, and life.  In the last 8 months or so I have endured things, changed and have been creating a whole new life for myself. ...more

What is God’s Plan for Me?

I am sure many of us have sat and pondered this at one time or another.  So what is God’s plan for me?  I feel lost, yet I am trying to grow stronger in my faith....more
I can't help but put my faith and trust in God. Even when you think your not, something happens ...more

Surviving the Holidays

Holidays can be hard for individuals currently going through a divorce or for individuals who have divorced and this is their first holiday without their ex-spouse.  To prepare myself I attended a DivorceCare group "Surviving the Holidays" with a friend.  I do think they provided some helpful information.  As I sat around the table looking at others there I realized that I was not as sad or as worried about the holidays.  I thought to myself what is wrong with me.  Then it dawned on me that my soon to be ex-husband was never really in to the holidays like I was, tha...more

Being Single is Like Remembering How to Ride a Bike

You know when people say doing something is like remembering how to ride a bike.  I guess you could say that in my case being single is like that or maybe relearning how to ride a bike.  If you have read any of my past posts then you know that I am going through a divorce right now.  Anyone that has not read any of my posts before, welcome....more

Where Did My Independence Go?

When did I lose my independence? At what point in my marriage did I change and lose myself? When did I become afraid of doing things on my own?  These are all questions that I have asked myself since I filed for divorce and I honestly do not have the answers.I started thinking about this when I went to visit a good friend and I flew there on my own.  On the way to the airport, I started having a small panic attack about flying on my own.  I thought to myself, "This is ridiculous, you have been flying alone since you were five!" Guess what I survived!  ...more
You lose your independence when you put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!more

Divorce, Pampering and Church

The title is a bit odd huh?  You might ask what divorce, pampering and church all have in common right?  Well, I will tell you what it means to me....more

Divorce Sucks!

Divorce Sucks!  I think that the title pretty much says it all.  Many of you have probably been here before.  Mine has only just begun.  I realized that our marriage was broken and there was just no fixing it.  I didn't want to give up, I felt like I tried and I tried, including marriage counseling.  I never thought I would be the one getting a divorce, but I don't think any of us think that as we are walking down the aisle to the the alter. ...more
Ivy125 Thanks for the advice.  I have had some friends who have rushed in to dating and I know ...more

It's Hard to Balance Work and Life

I think the title says it all.  It is hard to balance work and life!  At least I have a difficult time doing this.  Maybe others are better at it than I am.  I always wonder how people get everything done around the house, work and still go out and play.  What have they figured out that I have not?...more