ebyrdstarr

I can't talk to my sister. I know this. I have learned this over the years. She used to call me on the phone every day and then complain that I never called her. But talking to her all the time made me crazy. It made me ranty, angry, tear-my-hair-out crazy. I couldn't get a word in edgewise but then she would accuse me of never telling her anything about myself. I would call her on that and then she would let me have the telephone floor, but I could hear the wheels in her head turning about what her next topic would be, so what was the point.  Read more >

I've been back into this dating thing for a while, now, I guess, but really only half-heartedly. I just haven't found any guy who has gotten my full attention. But I seem to get the full attention  of lots of guys. And because I am often accused of being too picky, of not seeing opportunity, of closing off avenues before I've even tried them out, I go out with these guys. I exchange pleasantries and phone numbers. And then they text. And I respond because I'm polite. And because I don't want my friends to accuse me of being too picky.  Read more >

Six months ago today, the one person I trusted completely and thought would never hurt me ripped my world apart, with no warning and nothing approaching a satisfying explanation.  (Fair point: no explanation could be satisfying.) It seems like a good day to take stock of how I'm really doing.  Read more >

I have always been a bit of a loner.  That will happen when your favorite activities are things like reading, writing, and going for long walks or bike rides by yourself.  I've never been one to have a wide, diverse circle of friends.  Instead, I've always had a few close friends and lots of friendly acquaintances.  Even at the height of my popularity, in law school, I knew everyone and while in the building was a social butterfly.  But evenings and weekends, I was with my two closest friends or by myself  Read more >

My least favorite part of being single after years of coupledom?  Saturday mornings.  Saturday nights generally aren't a problem because I can usually find somebody to play with.  Gatherings where everyone else is coupled off aren't my favorite, but they're still not nearly as bad as Saturday mornings.   Read more >