Kat Wilder

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  1. If she's crazy, will I be, too?

    12/26/08 4:07pm by Kat Wilder
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    In my years of dating since I got divorced, most of the men I've met have described their former girlfriends/wives as being psychos, lunatics, nuts, crazies, wackos, weirdos, kooks and screwballs. This always worries me, especially since I'm quite a few men's former lover and girlfriend and one man's former wife. Were they now all saying the same thing about me to some babe who's thinking she's somehow saner than I am? I know I have a few personality quirks, but I've always thought they could be considered rather endearing.  Read more >

  2. I'm divorced, deal

    8/28/08 6:55am by Kat Wilder
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    When I got divorced a few years ago, I thought long and hard about what was ahead — financially, romantically, etc. One thing I just didn't realize is how people would judge me and my kid, even if they weren't aware that they were doing it.  Read more >

  3. Don't worry, be happy, be gay

    5/17/08 9:21pm by Kat Wilder
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    It's been a rocky road for married couples lately, what with the Eliot Spitzer hooker revelations, the confessions by his replacement, David Paterson, of his extramarital affairs, the 20-something dalliances of Michigan Sen. Debbie Stabenow's hubby and the rumors that long-married 55-year-old Russia President Vladimir Putin has been hanging with gymnast babe Alina Kabaeva, 24. You have to wonder, just what the heck is going on?  Read more >

  4. McCain's "inappropriate" relationship

    2/25/08 3:06pm by Kat Wilder
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    I've watched with interest the swirl of controversy surrounding the revelations that Republican presidential candidate John McCain had an "inappropriate relationship" with a female lobbyist — one who has been described in the media as "fetching" and who is 30 years his junior. Putting aside how Vicki Iseman's position may or may not have influenced McCain politically, the question of what is considered "inappropriate" is one that intrigues me.  Read more >

  5. You, me and STDs

    11/9/07 11:35am by Kat Wilder
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    When Will and Kathryn met, it was like a fairy tale; well, a modern-day one, because Aesop and the Grimm brothers probably couldn't even imagine a story like this. They spotted each other online, attracted not only by their thoughtful profiles but by their alluring pictures. Who knew fortysomethings could be so hot — and could spell and be so grammatically correct, too?  Read more >

  6. Are they talking about my vagina?

    11/4/07 7:44am by Kat Wilder
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    There's been some talk of the world down under, and I don't mean Australia. I'm talking about vaginas — or, as some now call it, vajayjay. Vajayjay? According to last Sunday's New York Times, vajayay — first heard on "Grey's Anatomy" last year — has been embraced by Oprah, who declared: “I think vajayjay is a nice word, don’t you?"  Read more >

  7. The great dad versus great hubby smackdown

    10/19/07 6:44am by Kat Wilder
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    There's an odd thing that happens when you get middle-aged. The knees sag along with breasts, skin elasticity goes and spots arrive, eyes need glasses and backs need ibuprofen, lipstick travels away from lips via lines that start to look like ditches and there are wrinkles and pores popping up in places that 30 years ago hosted zits. And don't even get me started on the hot flashes ... Then, at some point, we sorta stop caring about the person most qualified to love and raise your children.  Read more >

  8. Wild women behaving badly (or at least being naughty)

    8/29/07 11:10pm by Kat Wilder
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    "Well-behaved women seldom make history," Laurel Thatcher Ulrich says. OK, I get that. As an observer of people, I've discovered that lately, that saying has had some interesting interpretations.  Read more >

  9. What's wrong with women anyway?

    8/20/07 6:58am by Kat Wilder
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    Guys can't figure out women, or at least that's what I hear and read. That's so funny, because we're actually pretty easy-to-understand creatures and we sure know what we're about and what we want— well, at least we know what we're supposed to be about and want. Because everywhere we turn, someone wants to tell us. Welcome to the world of today's woman: — Pilates, yoga, running, triathalons or the gym? You better be doing one, if not all.  Read more >

  10. Who's the lover, who's the loved?

    8/18/07 11:10pm by Kat Wilder
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    "All's fair in love and war" or so the old saying goes, meaning sometimes things aren't very fair at all. And sometimes, they aren't equal either. I've often thought that in relationships, one tends to love more than the other, tends to work harder at keeping the relationship alive and growing (or just functioning!), or as John Banville describes in his beautifully written "The Sea":  Read more >

Kat Wilder

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Kat Wilder
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Kat Wilder is the nom de plume of a divorced mom who blogs about balancing kids, work, friendships, dating, exes, perimenopause and middle-aged sex at http://katwilder.com.

 

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