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Vaccinations? Yes. Just Yes.

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My five-year-old just got her last round of vaccinations until she's an adolescent. It was not pretty. This was the first year she remembered before we hit the doctor's office that there were shots involved. She also remembered how much shots hurt, how much she loathes them. I found myself explaining, for the first time, why she actually has to have them.

At least to her.

I know this will anger some of you, but I take a very firm stance on vaccinations. Vaccinations save lives. Period. Letting your child go without vaccinations is dangerous to her and to her playmates. Vaccinating your child is the entrance fee for living and interacting in a First World country.

I remember doing the research when my daughter was a newborn. I remember reading about autism. I remember worrying the vaccinations might cause autism. I'm not even completely unconvinced they don't cause autism in some children. I don't think we have enough scientific proof one way or the other -- I think it's possible many environmental triggers could produce autism in certain children, and one of those triggers might be vaccines. Another might be diet. Beyond that, I'm too uneducated to write. I'm not dismissing the possibility. I still think parents should vaccinate.

I'm predisposed to depression, anxiety and eating disorders. I developed an eating disorder when I was 17 that lasted well into my twenties. I don't know exactly which trigger caused it to flare. Was it my perfectionism? Was it my lack of control when my mother got cancer in my formative years? Was it society and glossy magazine models? Was it my mean "friends" who made fun of my thighs? Was it all of those things bottled up in a perfect anorexia cocktail? I'll never know. Will my daughter, who carries half my genes, develop an eating disorder?

I don't know. But there are only so many variables I can control, that I can anticipate, that I can head off. I can't force her to eat; I can't forbid her from eating. I have to take the chance that everything will be okay and soldier on.

So don't think I'm unsympathetic to worrying a child may be a loaded gun just waiting to go off, to wanting to prevent any unnecessary triggers. But vaccines aren't unnecessary. Without them, disease spreads rampant and people die of curable diseases.

Forgoing vaccinations wouldn't even be possible if most children didn't receive them. Depending on other people to keep your children safe in this way is wrong. Therefore, I believe if you choose not to vaccinate, you should homeschool your kids. Period. Until they graduate from high school. Which may very well be a viable and preferable choice for those who don't want to vaccinate.

Okay, I'm ready. What do you guys think?

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afullmargin 5 pts

Thank you, so much for posting this. Today is another day I really needed to know that I am not the only Mom that is still pro-vax, and yes - one of my children happens to be autistic.

Thank you!

Beth.R 5 pts

I understand the need for all children to have vaccines, but it is horrible to think that it could trigger autism. I actually have a polio vaccination myself from living in South America as a child that left a horrible scar, and they don't even do it in the US anymore. casino en ligne ( http://www.psp2fun.com )

cagey333 5 pts

I have a brother and a nephew with autism.

In 2nd grade, I had a classmate die from complications with chicken pox.

I have never doubted getting my children their vaccinations.

 Kelli Oliver George

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AmberS 5 pts

I vaccinate my kids. I sort of hate it. Some part of me worries it may cause harm. But I do it anyway. Because, like you, I know vaccines save lives. And I'm not sure I could live with myself if my kids contracted a serious and preventable illness.

My oldest is 4. And I am so not looking forward to the 5-year vaccines next year. I am looking very much forward to being DONE with them for a very long time, though.

~ Amber

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califmom 5 pts

My son has autism. Did he get it from vaccines? Doubtful, given that two of his uncles, and relatives from prior generations who were never vaccinated also exhibit many characteristics that would today garner them diagnoses on the spectrum. 

Thank you for writing a concise post on our responsibilities as parents and members of a global community. Our children interact with so many people in the course of their lives. We have a responsiblity, not only to the lives we bring into this world, but to those whose lives they impact, as well.

Shannon Des Roches Rosa 5 pts

Your strong and informed stance is appreciated. I find it absurd that there is still so much misinformation floating around about autism being linked to or caused by vaccines.

People who say that autism is caused by vaccines remind me of the soldiers on isolated islands in the Pacific who never found out that WWII ended. Except now they all have internet connections and keep telling each other that the war is still going on, they need to keep fighting, and they need to throw rocks at anyone who dares to tell them differently. 

Shannon Des Roches Rosa
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Vered 5 pts

I'm a little surprised. When I posted a pro-vaccine post on my own blog, over a year ago, the discussion became heated, fast. 

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Michellesamom 5 pts

There is NO MERCURY in childhood vaccines (there are TRACE amounts in the flu vaccine, but that's it). You can look it up on the FDA, CDC or any other government website.

Michelle writes at Michelle's Blog ( http://michellesamom.blogspot.com )

Vered 5 pts

I agree that "Vaccinating your child is the entrance fee for living and interacting in a First World country." While I understand parents' fears about autism, I recently read that even though mercury has been taken out of childhood vaccines, autism rates are not  dropping, so there may be other environmental factors at play here (such as fire retardant chemicals for example). 

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aftercancer 5 pts

Amen!  My kids have received their vaccines although my 8 year old's pediatrician probably thought I was insane when I was insisting on thimerosal free versions.  That being said, the mercury has been out of the vaccines for more than 5 years and the autism rates are not dropping. While vaccines may be part of the reason that autism rates are up I think it's time to look at other environmental possibilities.  If you are really concerned about the number of vaccines that your child is receiving at one time talk to your doctor and modify the schedule.

Kate

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the_pretentious_academic 5 pts

I am glad to read this post!  You bring up some good points and I believe your view is fair.  Thanks for writing.

francaisejolie 5 pts

I agree with you-all kids need to get vaccinated.  It is vital to global public health.  

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there are alterations manufacturers can make to vaccines that would calm us down about it.  take out the mercury.   it can be done.  they just don't want to do it because that would be somehow admitting that something was wrong to begin with.  but if people aren't vaccinating, then something is wrong-with the vaccines or just psychologically. the only solution is to change the vaccines because these moms are not going to suddenly start vaccinating. because they've seen one child suddenly develop ausbergers or autism after a round of vaccines and they don't want to see that happen to their other children.

so.  fix the vaccines.