Being a Good Role Model
By ahealthywoman on August 02, 2014
I've been thinking a lot about the whole mean girl issue because my daughter is at an age where it all starts. I want to protect her from all the hurt. Sometimes I wish I could go back to when she was a baby, lay her on my chest and take a nap. But, I can't and now I find myself with a prepubescent tween who is trying to figure it all out; she looks to me for answers. Sometimes I don't have them, but sometimes they are staring me right in the face.
This week the idea of awareness has been on my mind. I realized that I am my daughters main role model. She models exactly what I do and say. I first became aware of this when we were in the car and she started yelling at all the "idiot" drivers - she's eleven, she doesn't drive, I drive her everywhere. What a wake up call - she was modeling me. Ughhh. I was mortified - is that what I sound like? You bet. Time to change!
I started thinking, if she is mimicking me behind the wheel, what else does she see me doing? Is it all bad? Has she seen anything good? The short answer is yes, she has seen it all; the good, the bad and the ugly. It's life, I'm flawed. But she has also seen me at my best, and I see the evidence everyday. She is caring and kind; respectful of others and polite (I've noticed her saying thank you a lot without any reminders). She's a good kid and I'm a good mom and together we will get through it all.
This week my challenge is to be aware whenever she is around me. You know, think before you speak; is it true, is it kind, etc. I have already caught myself a few times! I want to be mindful of what am I doing and saying because I want to be a good role model for her and for myself.