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Childhood Obesity: Sending Our Kids to an Early Grave

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The United States is one of the most obese countries in the world. This became very clear to me once I lived outside of the country. When I first arrived in South Africa I was on the plump side -- not obese, but certainly overweight. As an ex-pat, my way of eating changed tremendously. I still enjoyed great food, but in much smaller portions, and I began to visit the gym regularly. The change in my body was obvious. After several months of living in South Africa, my friends began to ask me the "secret" to my weight loss. There was no real secret; I started eating healthy foods, prepared mostly at home, and exercising.

I remember attending a brunch with my extended family when I returned to the U.S. for a visit. I was amazed by the portion sizes and could not stop commenting on the sheer enormity of the plates of food. I was so vocal about it that my family asked me to stop talking. It was interesting to me that in a mere nine months my thoughts surrounding the appropriate amount of food at a restaurant completely changed. I also noticed the vast number of overweight children in the States. This was truly a rarity in South Africa, I don't think I saw one overweight child during my two and a half years living there.

In 2009, 30% of our children in 30 states were overweight/obese. At that time, I was not a parent, and I was merely making observations. Now, as the mother of a two-year-old, I know I am responsible for my child's health. When I see overweight/obese children today, I place blame on the parents. Children don't control the food -- parents do. Our children learn how to eat from us.

About three months ago, my body mass index (BMI) placed me in the "obese" category. I'd been there for quite awhile, but I decided to take charge of my life and make changes. I want to be here for my son and hopefully live long enough to see my grandchildren. By changing my own eating habits, I will certainly influence my son. I admit that I have been caving a bit to his whimsical eating habits, but I am enlisting the help of a nutritionist and plan on serving my son the same foods that I eat. He may not eat it initially, but with time he will begin to try new things.

I have also started to become creative and add vegetables and protein to his favorite meal -- pancakes, to ensure that my toddler gets all of his nutrients. As a parent, this is my responsibility, to ensure that I provide the best for my child.

Jamie Oliver is a chef and a parent. Although he is from the U.K., he is concerned about our nation's children. He is a chef and most recently received the TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) prize for his wish. (The TED prize is awarded annually to individuals that have exceptional ideas -- the winners receive $100,000 to implement their "wish.") Jamie's wish is "to teach every child about food." He has set up a grassroots organization to teach children about food, fight obesity and inspire families to cook again.

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His Food Revolution is targeted at all Americans -- especially government and corporations -- to compel them to cut out the junk food that we feed our children, in schools and in the home. Jamie gave an exceptional talk during the TED conference with vivid examples to illustrate the necessity of the "Food Revolution." His work began in West Virginia, the third most obese state in the U.S., and what struck me the most during his talk was the fact that the children in one classroom did not recognize vegetables. That changed during two one-hour educational sessions. I've embedded the talk here, because I know it is worth watching. I hope Jamie inspires you to make changes, if you need to.

The top killer in the United States is obesity, and as Jamie so eloquently states, it is preventable. Our children (even if you are not a parent -- the children in your life) depend on us. If we continue down this path, we are sending our children to early graves.

 

 

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justlinda 9 pts

As the mother of an overweight child, I admit that I have a particular sensitivity here.  It plain HURTS me to see such total blame laid right at the feet of the parents.  Yes, I know - we have a huge role to play here and a responsibility to our children.

But it's bigger than that (the puns, they write themselves!!). 

The food industry seeks to undermine us at every turn.  Advertising is insidious.  Our schools (and government!) is complicit.  We have a systemic, infrastructure issue and it's very difficult for any individual parent - nevermind one in poverty or who lacks the proper education/tools/etc. - to solve it.

We must stop washing our hands of the problem just because our own child isn't fat.  We really must stop saying "Those other parents really should do something!" and feeling superior because we have done a great job with our own children.

I have 5 children. One of them is obese.  She is 8 years old and when she was 3 is when we started trying to manage this issue with the goal of her furture health being secured.  We've done all the things the experts recommend.  Yes, we met with a Nutritionist and we work with her pediatrician.  Yes, I've read all the books.  Yes, we've cleared our pantry of the bad stuff - YEARS ago, we did that.  Even our nutritionist said that we were doing all the right things. 

And yet the problem didn't resolve.  Even after doing all that for 4+ years.  She is now on a custom food plan.  My 8 year old is on a diet.  It's working, but I don't have to like it.

Genetics and infrastructure play important parts here.  We all need to play the hand we are dealt, but also, there is something BIGGER at play here than bad parenting.  Science has only hit the tip of the iceberg on this one. 

I blog about this topic, related to my own child and my own situation.  I invite you to read more here: http://justlinda.net/blog/?p=514 (and that post links to several others).

This is a problem bigger than just the parents with overweight kids can solve.  This is a problem we ALL must understand better and work on. 

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TreniaP 5 pts

I think comparing the U.S. to South Africa or any other country for that matter is like comparing apples and oranges. Many countries don't have the same accessibility and/or financial ability to buy a lot of the foods that are so easily accessed in the U.S. I live in New York City and kids pass so many bodega's and corner stores on the way to school and they are full of low-nutrient foods. There are kids who survive solely on fast food and junk food but some of them are obese and some of them aren't. There are also lots of things that are killing kids like pollution or HIV/AIDS in other countries, but it just so happens that obesity is the easiest to see. While I agree many other countries live much more active lives they aren't always healthier nor do they necessarily live longer.

It's like the whole world is afraid of fat, and it's not because people are concerned with health. Fat is one of those identifiers that people do not want to be affiliated with in any way, shape form or fashion for fear that the level of exposure and vulnerability of an obese person will somehow rub off on them; it's sort of like when nobody wants to sit near the crazy guy on the train who talks to himself. Don't get me wrong, I think parents play a large role in childhood obesity, I was overweight as a kid mainly due to the fact that I was a latchkey kid of the 80's and I had no filters on the food I ate. But there's also adversiting and addictive chemicals and additives that contribute as well.

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sfaithj 5 pts

I'm from San Francisco and have been in South Africa for 3 weeks now. I have to disagree with you. I've noticed significantly more obese people in South Africa than I have back home in San Francisco. Particularly with the black South Africans. You can blame Nando's and KFC for that.

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mashadutoit 5 pts

Hey!

You lived in South Africa! :)

Funny I had a similar experience, but in the opposite direction.

The two years I lived in the US, I was struck by:

The terrible, terrible, terrible bread.  Normal bread was only available in "health stores"
The very tall people.  I'm used to being taller than most other people - not in America!
While there are certainly fat kids and adults over here in South Africa, its nowhere near as common as the overweight people I encountered in the states.
The HUGE portions in restaurants. 
The sugar in everything.
Unfortunately, we also have some serious health issues over here - especially for poor people who eat lots of refined foods such as white bread and lots of sugar and often suffer from diabetes.

Dearest Fatty 5 pts

I grew up with the new fast food, take away and resurant eating that our parents hadn't had. My diet was too high in calories for a for a full grown MAN while I was still a pre-teen.

I have three boys and I wouldn't describe any of them as over weight. I would say they are just right. BUT I cook meals and make their pack lunches. Sure we have treats BUT I think its all about the majority of meals that make the diffrence.

My two youngest would eat an adult junk food meal but only pick at a home made meal. YOu have to say that they stuff the junk food because it programes you (through fat, sugar and salt) to want more, but a normal meal dosn't have that.

Portion sizes are the bane of my life but so far  as my kids are concerned they eat what they like volum wise, and as I have never been a "clear your plate young man!" mother they only eat what they need and no more.

SO yes, it parents, certainly until a child is old enough to havetheir own money and grab food for them selves, but hopefully a child that has been brought up with good eating habbits from a baby won't turn into a fat teenager.

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

For all you people out there who want to start blaming parents exclusively, maybe that kind of approach will help some new parent scare their children into an eating disorder, but it will not help the people already struggling with obesity, parent or children. I have yet to see a case of anyone losing weight who had a genuine case of obesity because they were made to feel badly about themselves or guilty for not being thin. Blame doesn't work.

However, if I were going to place blame, I'd go the spiritual route and say you reap what you sow. I've seen the people who were once very cruel to me back when we were all children and being fat was to be the minority and I was that minority. I've seen them and their children today. Lots of pounds going around.

My mother used to say, "We become what we condemn." So my advice is before you get all self-righteous on this topic, look up how genetics plays a role, what's happening to our food supply, overall lifestyle changes due to technology, and then practice some compassion. Getting all snooty with blame will only backfire.

While I can't prove a connection to how society has dealt with fat people and the obesity crisis the world faces now, I still see the irony of people who once teased and persecuted others about weight now struggling with their own weight and having to soothe their own children who come home crying that their classmates called them "fat" or they can't find cute clothes like the rest of the children. They are learning how frequently fat is not the simple state of moral collapse they thought it was.

If what I've just said ticks anyone off, then I'm glad because by pointing the finger back at those who blame others so easily, I hope I'm showing how such statements and smugness are rarely productive or helpful.

And should I attend BlogHer 2010 this year with my adult children who both struggle with weight as I always have, I'll make sure to keep them out of your line of vision and away from your judgment. Maybe I'll keep me out of your sight as well since as the woman who raised these fat people I am to be judged by you. I'm weary of dealing with people who've got lots of "easy" advice for problems that are not so easy to solve.

I understand the point being made in this piece, but ... there's got to be a better way to address obesity. Nothing credible in our society has sent the message that it's okay to be fat, and so the blame and shame game is nothing new, nothing new and yet here we go again like blame somehow works in helping people address obesity.

Fatness is not some abstract object that may be addressed as though it stands separate from human frailty and souls overwhelmed by consistent condemnation. And I guarantee you that there are people with fat children who've modeled a healthy lifestyle to perfection.

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Cassandra 5 pts

I've started many a reply to this and other pieces on the obesity epidemic.  While there is no denying that obesity is a problem, it is the easiest-to-target part of a much larger and more complex problem--our relation to food in general.

Cooking, especially baking, is one of my fondest hobbies, and I am often torn in my understanding of food.  For me, there is food as fuel and food as pleasure.  I work very hard to balance the two.

I also come at this as the parent of a child who is UNDERWEIGHT.  That is right.  They do exist, and believe me, the problem is as great for us as it is for overweight kids.  My daughter is two and a half.  We have another appt next week with her pediatrician to discuss her diet.  We've worked with a nutritionist.  She drinks half and half instead of whole milk.  She drinks whole milk mixed with carnation instant breakfast.  We feed traditionally "healthy" foods, but we've also been medically advised to feed her things we ourselves should not eat--lots of whipped cream, butter, etc.  This makes meal time very interesting at our house.  Amelia is 2 and a half and does wear 2T clothing, but if it were not for her bulky cloth diapers, I would have to take in every pair of pants b/c she is so petite.  Once she potty trains, I will have a lot of sewing to do!

I've talked ad nauseum to all sorts of "professionals" to try to figure out how to get my daughter to not be underweight and at the same time instill/maintain healthy eating habits.  There are no clear cut answers.

Here is my issue.  Why do babies/toddlers need to be chubby/plump, etc. in order to be considered healthy, especially when we are so concerned about obesity in children?  When is the magic switched flipped so chubby babies become fat children?

My hope is we talk more about healthy choices and portion control and less about weight.  Unless there is an underlying health condition, personally, I think we can eat whatever we want, just not a lot of it.  It is all about portion size.
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Nordette Adams 6 pts

I've been watching and reading more on the additional challenges we supposedly advanced humans are facing in our food supply. I agree, we must work hard to exercise and model a healthy eating pattern, but modern humans have had some additional obstacles thrown in their path that people are ignoring as though the rise in obesity is the result of personal character flaw only. 

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Elisa Camahort 5 pts

The first is that I think adults need education about food too. Because adults also deserve to live longer, healthier lives. But also because how else are parents to start doing better for kids now? We can't wait until kids are old enough to cook Jamie's "ten meals" themselves.

Second: This is all about food politics. Fast foods and unhealthy foods are cheaper because of government subsidies. Public school lunches are crap because of food industry lobbying. It's corporate welfare that is actually killing people. How can we stop it?

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LindsayDianne 5 pts

Indeed it is the responsibility of the parents to model good behaviour to their children in many ways.

I am attempting, myself, to break a perpetuated "food for comfort" mindset that has lasted throughout at least three generations of my family. Even still, I live in Canada and there is a huge difference between the size of the people and ESPECIALLY the portion sizes.

Your McDonalds' serve different food than ours. Your beef adheres to a different standard than ours does.

And let's be fully honest. It's really hard to program your children to eat right when you have brightly coloured ads bombarding them at every turn. We don't have cable and even with that major facet taken away from my three year old, I am still fighting tooth and nail with the sugar demon. 

Your advice is above is about as good as it's going to get. BE the change. :D

ReneeJRoss 5 pts

It is absolutely our responsibility as parents to model a healthy lifestyle. One of the main reasons I decided to turn my life around was because of my son. It is important to be healthy for him but also for him to understand that exercise and proper eating is our lifestyle. 

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mochadad 5 pts

It's important that both parents model healthy eating habits and an active lifestyle. Our family has at least one scheduled active outing each week.

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