By ms.equality on March 20, 2013
So, on Sunday my partner Nicky and I were married in Washington DC. All the worry was for naught. It was a gorgeous, gorgeous day. It truly was the happiest day of my life. It was so exciting to have my father walk down the aisle, to be supported and loved by family and friends, to be told repeatedly that you look beautiful and that Nicky looks handsome.
I was nervous for a total of 10 minutes while I was waiting in my room alone for the wedding coordinator to come and get me for the ceremony. And my dear friends and bridesmaids, sensing my nervousness, sent my cousin upstairs to keep me company!
I could not have asked for better friends, better family, better co-workers. Nicky and I are blessed to have such wonderful people in our lives. I truly felt the love of everyone around me. I basked in the glow and I was present for every moment of my wedding (and I was completely afraid I would not be). I was relaxed, I danced up a storm, I didn't focus on any of the small tiny details that may or may not have been perfect. I created the wedding I'd always dreamed about and I enjoyed every minute of it.
And, it was over before I knew it. And we were legally married, with the certificate to prove it! We now refer to each other as "Mrs." and "Mrs." We kept our own names, though I contemplated hyphenating my name I realized it would have been way too long :o).
We talked about it, and although we've lived together for almost 9 years, we do feel "different" now that we are married, though it is hard to explain. We both hope that DOMA will be overturned and that our marriage will be legal throughout the United States. We are encouraged by Hillary Clinton's support of gay marriage and the polls that indicate support for gay marriage has never been higher. Our eyes are on the Supreme Court, as they prepare to hear several cases concerning gay marriage.
I'm still hoping to create and review a list of lesbian wedding vendors, not because I want to exclude other vendors but to get the word out about lesbians working in this field. I want to reiterate that we had absolutely no issues with any of the vendors we worked with. They were great and I plan to review them in upcoming posts.