My brother got married recently and I started thinking about what that moment must feel like for the groom's mother. I started to think about how I will feel when my little boy walks down the aisle! WHAT!! No way right?!
I relish in those moments when my 5 year old says, "Mommy I'm only going to marry you! NO way will I kiss a girl!"
I watched my little brother get emotional as he saw his bride for the first time walk down the aisle. I could not help but to look at my son and sigh with relief as he twirled his ring bearer pillow and pretended to sing a song in his head totally not thinking about the idea of marriage.
Then I glanced at my mom. What is she feeling at this moment. We were all extremely happy and proud of my brother. He is a great, humble and compassionate man and his wife is beautiful and smart. They are an amazing couple filled with love and admiration for one another.
But in the midst of planning and enjoying this joyous affair I could not help but to wonder what it must feel like for the mother of the groom to have to adjust to taking on a different role in your son's life.
I've been married for 10 years and I have a wonderful relationship with my mother- in- law. No really…I do!! She is supportive and really more of a sister- friend to me rather than MIL. And honestly I never really gave much thought to how she must have felt 10 years ago when her son got married to me.
Truly it wasn't until this day and the fact that I am now a mother of a son that made me pause and ponder the question…what does it feel like to take a seat to another woman in your son's life.
After my new SIL's bridal shower and my mom said "Well what about the groom? He doesn't get a shower. I'm going to make him a groom box filled with a new set of PJs and all his favorite goodies." I thought…REALLY??? Well that is a good idea and I'm sure he is going to love it! But what is this really about! Oh your concerned with not leaving out your "baby boy."
Then I observed her telling him goodbye after the reception. She lingered and then sweetly and softly said "don't forget to call me sometimes" I stood there for a minute and thought she is being so dramatic! But then I thought about it. He is a married man now and he can't just stay on the phone with his mother for hours and download about his day. He is married now. And as a wife I can tell you my husband does not come home and pick up the phone and chit chat with his mother for hours while I am running around with the kids. We would have serious issues!
So on this special day I was reminded that I need to take in those precious moments with my "baby boy" like those long impromptu hugs , play legos for hours, pretend to save the city as the newest firefighter , etc . Because he will one day grow up to be an amazing, charming man that will one day fall in love with his partner and begin their life journey together.
And like my mom I will feel sad for a moment that our relationship will change but feel very proud in the fact that I raised an incredible man.