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Formerly known as "Mom in the City", Kimberly lives in NYC (Forest Hills) with her wonderful husband and their two energetic  sons. A graduate o...
 
 
 
 

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What Age Should You Let Your Child Walk Home Alone?

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I don't know the family at all, but I can't stop thinking about them.  It took me a while to stop crying for them this morning.  Perhaps it is because I can so easily put my family in their family's shoes.  If you don't live in NYC, you might not even know about the family of eight-year-old Leiby Kletzky.  Lost on the way walking home from day camp, the little boy made the fateful mistake of getting into the car of Levi Aron who has confessed to killing and dismembering him.

This incident is disturbing on so many levels. I have this internal battle regarding at what age I will let my sons walk home alone anyway. It's not as if I think that I can protect them from everything.  I know that bad things happen even when parents are around.  I don't know though...I think this incident has set my kids' freedom back a couple of years.  Leiby was lost walking home from his day camp in the "safe" Borough Park neighborhood. This whole violent incident began to unfold when he asked Aron for directions. Not that murderers are rational, but there is no rationale behind the violence to this innocent child. 

What about you...at what age would you feel comfortable letting your child walk home from school/camp/etc. alone?  (I know that everything is a case by case/kid by kid basis, but I'm just looking for some generalities.)  As of now, I informed my husband that my sons can walk home alone when they turn 18 or graduate from high school/whichever comes first....and I was only half joking!

Kimberly/Foodie City Mom
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kdc521 5 pts

That's the thing...they need "their" moments. I guess that we all (parents) just have to play it by ear and hope for the best!

allbee 5 pts

Kimberly I can so relate to this post! I'm always spouting about giving kids independence on my blog, because it's so important to their development, and I don't want to live my life in fear-- and then something like this or the Jaycee Dugard case comes to light...it seems that pervs are everywhere! I agree that the decision on what age to let a child walk alone depends on the child's maturity, and how well you think he/she listens to your stranger danger instructions...before our kids were allowed to have cell phones, we often used walkie talkies when they biked or walked alone (still found at Radio Shack or Target), which I actually like better than cell phones because it's instant communication-- you just press a button and you're talking to each other, there's no dropped calls, etc. I always felt like if they suspected danger they could get me instantly. True, it's still not foolproof, but much better than nothing. It's such a fine line we parents walk...you want to protect your kids 24/7 and never let them get in harm's way, yet my youngest is so happy and proud when she gets to do things by herself, I would hate to deny her those "life moments", and the confidence-building that they bring!
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