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"The Real L Word" -- What Do Real Lesbians Really Do? Oh Really?

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If you are feeling bored by the Real Housewives and other reality shows that throw in one bi-curious cast member to spice up their straight fare, Showtime has an extravaganza for you. How about a whole show about Real Lesbians? No phony RHONYs here. That's right, The Real L Word features real, live L.A. lesbians doing what real lesbians do, like walking, talking, stirring up drama and making out in alleys.

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The Real L Word is the newest series from The L Word creator Ilene Chaiken. The L Word, which is now known as The Unreal L Word, ended in 2009 after six seasons of praise for bringing attention to lesbian issues and cultural contributions as well as some criticism that the glamourous West Hollywood characters of Bette, Tina and their pretty troupe of sexy friends weren't representative of the real lives of lesbians, gays, bi-sexual and transgendered people. When The Real L Word was announced, fans wondered if the new show would finally remedy that trade-off of fiction. Would the reality-based show look for a cross-section of women to share a more nuanced and authentic portrait of lesbian life to a curious straight folk and to a gay audience that is hungry for media representation exploring what it is like to be a lesbian today?  How "real" would it be?

It turns out the "real" in The Real L World doesn't mean "authentic." It means "reality show drama!" It means, as a Showtime promo poster proudly proclaims: "Love them, or love to hate them." I guess the same could be said of the show as a whole. One thing is clear: People are talking about lesbian television again.

Writing at AfterEllen, Dara Nai addresses criticism that the real lesbians don't feel any more real that the L Word actresses:

No matter. Living here and knowing one of the cast members, I can tell you unequivocally, these successful, sexy women are, in fact, stereotypical LA lesbians – it's the rest of the country that's not going to see themselves in the show. That said, I can't wait to watch the mating rituals of lesbianus Los Angelinos fabulous in their natural habitat.

So, the Real Lesbians are real only as far as anyone in a reality show in L.A. could be considered "real." Fair enough. Turns out the next page that features six Los Angelites who are there to prove that Real Lesbians can be just as sexy, vacuous, petty, artificially candid with a camera in their faces and as far from the reality as the people in your neighborhood as your average straight reality show cast member is from the lives of straight women.  Here's to equality!

Bloggers report being feeling (at best) uninspired by this latecomer to the overworked reality show gimmick, especially when so few television series and movies feature engaging lesbian themes.

Grace Moon at Velvetpark criticizes the lack of diversity in the cast, asking:

With this revelation of the Real L Word cast I ask: where have all the brown people gone? Where is the gender variance? Is there really not one butch “palatable” enough for television? Is the mainstream still so afraid of us we have to fit into a size 2 miniskirt in white face and make a six figure salary? In order for lesbianism to be interesting, do we have to be “Real Housewives” who just happen to muff dive

Zena Anna Rosen riffs of the diversity theme with a funny vlog posted at Velvetpark that asks:

where are all the Jewish-Afro-Quaker-indie-lesbians? Where are all our sisters suffering from lesbian bed-death and anal warts? What about the perimenopausal and lactose intolerant lesbians? Why are they not represented in the Real L Word? Are they not real? Two words, vagina dentata. Thank you.

Danielle at Cherry Grrl said the real lesbians are vapid, and that the show is not targeted to the lesbian audience:

Even though series creator Ilene Chaiken has publicly claimed she’s committed to telling stories that reflect the “community,” this show is not for lesbians in the same way that a documentary about gorillas is not for primates. It serves to explain the confusing habits of the lesbionus superficialae to the rest of the world. And in the pilot we learned three important lessons.

In the great tradition of turning bad reality shows into great Twitter and blog fodder, Riese at Autostraddle channels her fury into biting recaps:

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Bill Cammack 5 pts

I'm going to check this show out, based on Dara Nai's endorsement of the characters being stereotypical LA lesbians.

I say that because I was immediately disinterested in the show after watching the promos, which basically showed women telling anecdotes about how sexually aggressive they are and then seeming to be impressed with themselves as if aggression was a rare trait for a female.

I figured the show would be ridiculous and just one "watch me pull girls" segment after another as if that's a tough thing to do.

I suppose you can say I saw it in the same way as how The Real World always stacks the deck with head-cases so they can be sure to have something dramatic happen every season. NOW, I'm interested in seeing at least two episodes since it's been vouched for by someone familiar with the scene.

I would also agree (having not seen the show yet) that this show isn't targeted at lesbians any more than tRHoNYC is targeted at *REAL* HOUSEWIVES of New York City.

It was clearly promoted as "Hey everybody! :D Come see how cool and aggressive women can be!!! :D". I see why that would be a source of attraction in Middle America, but in places like NYC, where we have way more than our fair share of REAL lesbians, the show seemed like an exaggeration or caricature of the scene.

Thanks for the research. I'll check out the show.

*EDIT* Having watched the three episodes that are available on demand from Showtime, I think the promos did the show an amazing disservice by simply focusing on whether or not chicks rap to chicks and how aggressive they are about that.

There's more obvious depth to Mikey, Whitney & Rose which would have been good to capitalize on to get viewers interested in watching a show about PEOPLE relating to PEOPLE as opposed to merely "The Los Angeles lesbian scene".

They basically made it look like an adult version of The Real World when they should have aimed more at it being a documentary.

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sfaithj 5 pts

in response to where "all the brown people have gone", rose and natalie are both latina.

Melissa Ford 5 pts

I'm sort of turned off by the whole "love to hate" theme. Life is too short to hate reality tv stars. I'm more of the mindset to change the channel.

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aaustin13 5 pts

There could certainly be a study of this - comparing the trajectory of African Americans in pop culture (from invisible, to highly stereotyped "Mammy" type caricatures, to "magical Negroes," to, finally, real people fairly recently) and the trajectory of gay men, and lesbians. Other minorities, both ethnic and otherwise, have probably experienced similar struggles to become truly mainstream when it comes to television. I think African Americans are in the lead. Asian Americans are still mostly portrayed in stereotypes - good students, smart, nerdy, etc. I think it'd be really interesting to plot it all out on a timeline, with particular pivotal roles and when they happened, and show where lesbians are now compared to where African Americans were in, say, 1975.

I do think that lesbians are in the "Mammy" phase. Right now the lesbians on TV are a cultural fantasy of what lesbians should be - not real, fully actualized people. This too shall pass. Soon you'll get to reveal secret wisdom or powers which will help the non-lesbian protagonist get out of trouble! (I think this is where gay men are now - what movie about a woman doesn't include a magic gay boyfriend? That Julia Roberts one where she breaks up the wedding leaps to mind - wasn't it My Best Friend's Wedding? Queer Eye for the Straight Guy totally capitalized on the magic gay boyfriend phenomenon).

For what it's worth, I'm a straight white woman living in the midwest, with two kids, a husband, a dog, and a picket fence - about as mainstream as it gets - and I don't feel like I'm represented on television either. It doesn't bother me much, because I don't respect too many of the characters on too many of the shows that are on (ESPECIALLY "reality" TV!). I sometimes get the feeling that, according to our culture, if you're not rich, thin, and living in NY or LA, you don't matter.

I guess the difference is that there are still characters out there I can relate to on SOME level, while it sounds like there are no lesbian characters in pop culture for real lesbians to relate to. That must be weird.

(Hope I've somehow managed not to offend anyone - clearly I think this is interesting even though I'm not a lesbian!)

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JennaHatfield 9 pts

Yet another reason we don't pay for Showtime.

I can't comment on the show itself, having not seen it, but I have to give mad props to Rise for the Bill Nye the Science Lesbian comment. Now that's a show I'd watch. (But not pay for. Ahem.)

Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )), from Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ), is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

christinajeanne 5 pts

But, I'm not sure I will be watching this show. I might give it a chance but considering I don't watch much tv I'd probably not want to waste my tv time on another reality show even if it is about lesbians.