What Do You Do When Your Teen Won't Get a Job?

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As a matter of fact, when I was in our local Harris Teeter the other day I mentioned to the hiring manager that The Hunter had applied at HT at least 3 times. She said, "Him, and 3000 other people." She went on to tell me that she had recently hired 4 teenagers, and three of them had been consistently coming in to see if HT was hiring. She said, "The "squeaky wheel" gets the job. They are persistent so I know they really want it." When I told this to our 17 year old he said, "ok."

Ummmm, ok?

We have told him again and again that he will graduate in 9 months and he will want wheels to get to his "real life" job. He is taking welding in school and he is good at it. I fully expect him to get a welding job with a local shipyard, or BAE enterprises, or a welding apprenticeship. Something. How will he get there?

I know 9 months may seem like a long way away, but it will go by SO fast! We are at our wits end with what to do. So finally I said to him, "Dude, you are almost 18-years-old. I am done bugging you about a job. It is now up to you. You know what you need to do and how to do it. The rest is up to you. Whether you take the bus or drive your own car to your job when you graduate is in your hands."

I do know however, that The Hunter is not the only youth with these same attitudes. Bluebell's daughter was being picky about where she worked too, but the fact that she had to move back to our house and sleep on an air mattress on the floor until she saves up some money and can afford her own place made her see things differently.

In fact, Susan has experienced some of this with her own young adult. Bonnie now has a full time job, but it was a struggle, and I know for her as well as other young adults it is easier to sit at home and hang out then look for a job. Because really, what are we parents going to do???

They know they have us over a barrel. They know we aren't going to let them live on the streets, so they take advantage of that. Maybe a few nights on the streets would be good for them....but I know and you know that really won't happen. So what do we do when our teen and young adults refuse to put any effort into looking for a job? I don't yet have the answer to that. I think each parent needs to find a way that works best for their family.

But this is so rarely discussed in a meaningful way that I thought I would get the conversation going... Are any other parents of teens and young adults out there dealing with this? We would love to hear your comments!!

 

Carol Rood
http://coffeeclutterandchaos.com

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