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What If Courtney Love Had Been a Mommyblogger?

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Courtney Love and Hole Visit fuse's On the Record

I'm not Perez Hilton for whom gossip is his biz and my initials aren't TMZ, so if I am going to write a post about a celebrity parent, it's going to be written as if this parent is your neighbor, your friend, your sister, your mom or anyone else you might encounter in your day to day life. And the child? She could be your niece, your babysitter, your kid's best friend, or even your own daughter.

Based upon what I read at Jezebel and iVillage, Rocker Courtney Love experienced what she called "a Twitter Relapse" and sent out approximately sixty tweets to her estranged teenage daughter Francis Bean Cobain.  But who among us might not have done the same thing if we found ourselves living in a similar circumstance?

By "similar circumstance," I'm not talking about being a celebrity, I'm talking about stuff like being widowed at age 30, battling a drug addiction, and losing custody of a child.

There are plenty of parents who blog about these sorts of situations, because their lives aren't so different from what's been going on with Courtney Love. And if any of those moms took to Twitter and sent out a bunch of bizarre tweets, might we be gathering around and trying to offer support?

Most of the tweets are disconnected mini-rants and appear to be written by someone experiencing a vast amount of emotional pain, exhaustion or possibly under the influence of booze or drugs.

 

No one can know for sure except the mom who hit "send." Even so, it  seems Love isn't feeling the love about having let loose on the Internet and did tweet out an apology to her daughter. While the apology is the appropriate action to take, another more appropriate one is to resolve not to tweet or use Facebook when upset, tired or intoxicated.  And this is a pledge any parent can take, not just the famous ones.

What if Courtney hadn't tweeted and instead had written it all up as a blog post? Would that have made a difference? 

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allbee 5 pts

A blog post would probably have been better although it would have been so long, her daughter probably would still have been embarrassed. But at least with a blog, you can go back and delete posts or edit them...tweets are so "out there, especially for a celebrity. I feel for Courtney...teenage girls are about the most difficult creature on the planet to deal with. So even if her daughter lived with her, Courtney might still feel estranged.

Patricia, www.uncoolmom.com ( http://www.uncoolmom.com/ )

IsleDance 5 pts

If all involved were anonymous online, a blog post or tweet would be just fine.

One Friday night, I loaded up my life and headed out... ( http://isledance.blogspot.com )

Cancocom 5 pts

I don't think that Courtney Love has been given a fair shake in this whole thing. The woman obviously needs help. I agree that if Courtney had a different life, one in where she lived in a modest home in suburbia she would be given a pass for what she has done.

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Barbara-The Middle Ages 5 pts

I like your compassionate take on this sad situation.

I have to agree that, while C seems deeply troubled, most distraught mothers may have lapses in judgment when it comes to desperately trying to connect with their estranged child.

Too bad she can't learn from her mistakes and learn that there might be better/healthier ways to do it.

Devra Renner 5 pts

Since the mistakes were made in public, a brief apology in public makes a good amount of sense.

But yes, I 100% agree with you regarding a private, and handwritten, apology and the sentiment that action can convey. However, depending on how the restraining order is defined, written correspondence may violate the order. But even so, a letter could absolutely be penned and saved for a time when hopefully the restraining order is no longer in place.

Apologies aren't magic wands, but if they were life would be a hell of a lot easier for so many of us who make mistakes and ask for forgiveness. However, we just can't wave away our mistakes, we need to learn from them and try our best not to repeat them.

Devra Renner

@ParentopiaDevra on Twitter

Contributing Editor, Family Connections

I also write at: Parentopia ( http://www.parentopia.com/blog ), Draft Day Suit ( http://www.draftdaysuit.com ),

victorias_view 19 pts moderator

I think if we are dealing with such a diffcult case and situation such as this a handwritten letter would have been the sincerest form of an apology.