What Mom Really Wants for Mother's Day

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In case you haven't looked at a calendar recently, it's May. Can you believe it? I feel like I just put away my Christmas decorations (and I promise I did that in December...I'm not one of those people who leaves them up for months). This year has gone by so fast.

With May upon us, it's time to start thinking about Mother's Day. That is not a reminder. It's a directive. Start thinking about it. Your mom (wife, sister, daughter, friend, grandma, mentor, godmother, step mom) deserves it.

So, to help out all of you who don't have a clue what to get her, here is a list of what women REALLY want for Mother's Day.

1. We want to be thought of in advance.

Yes, you need to be planning now. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER!! Please don't get up on Sunday morning and say, "What do you want to do for Mother's Day?" to your wife or mother. What that clearly states is, "I didn't think of you until the day I HAD to, so I'm going to wing it and just let you choose something because I didn't take the time to plan anything." Ouch.

Husbands take note, we want you to be thinking of something RIGHT NOW! Then you need to actually act on those thoughts to plan something. None of this, "I thought of a thousand things we could do, but I haven't made any plans yet" kind of nonsense. I should hope that we are important enough to your families that you could do some advance planning.

And are you making us breakfast? Then buy the ingredients a few days before hand. We don't want to watch the kids while you run to the store Mother's Day morning.

Along these lines, make sure the kids are also doing some advance planning with you. Have them make cards and gifts in advance -- not the morning of. It is not very encouraging for a mom to want to come out of her bedroom for breakfast and hear, "Stay in there, we're not ready! Shhhhhh! Quick, write your name on this card!"

Making Mother's Day cards.

Important note: Teaching your kids NOW how to make their mom feel special on Mother's Day (and her birthday, for that matter) will mean they will remember when they are 30 to call their mother -- and maybe even do something special for her -- on special days. This is a great gift to give your wife.

2. We want you to recognize all that we do {by relieving us of all those duties}.

Meal prep, dishes, laundry, cleaning, picking up messes, dressing children, refereeing arguments... these things fill our days. On our special day, we don't want to do them. But we also don't want them just left for us to do on Monday. So if you could busy yourself with some of our chores (and maybe get a taste of what it's like to be Mom for the day), that would be great. If you include the children in this you get extra points. If you can get them to participate without whining, even more points.

3. We want to enjoy the things that fill our souls.

Some of us love reading, some love massages, some love gardening or shopping or getting together with family or sitting in the sun or really good wine or bike riding. Some of love bubble baths or skydiving or dancing. Whatever makes us feel alive an rested and rejuvenated -- please make that happen for us.

Are you thinking, "I don't have any clue what that would be"? Well then, ASK! There is no shame in asking, "What would make your Mother's Day perfect?" Or "If you could do anything on Mother's Day, what would it be?" Asking is a necessary part of setting yourself up for success. Once you know, make the necessary arrangements immediately {see #1}.

**A note about spa treatments. Make arrangements now. Mother's Day books quickly. Seriously, now. Go. Call them.


Read more of What Moms Really Want for Mother's Day at My Beautiful Mess

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