If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thousand times. It's the old one-two kiss-of-death combo that used to destroy my self-confidence. A friend or acquaintance, thinking that she is paying me the highest of compliments, will say something like:
"It is such a waste that you don't have your teaching certificate/ haven't gone to grad school/ haven't gone to law school/ blah blah blah (pick one or all). You could be doing so much more!
And there it is.
The remark starts off sounding like a compliment... but then its implications crash down around me like a rogue wave. I have to face the fact that this person thinks: 1.) I have a big brain (yay, me!), and 2.) it's gathering dust. Ouch. Funny how something that I assumewas intended as a compliment-- I refuse to believe otherwise-- ends up making me feel completely invalidated. Or at least, it used to.