What is your love language?

“Love is something we do for someone else. So often couples love one another but they aren't connecting. They are sincere, but sincerity isn't enough." - Dr. Gary Chapman

My first (and embarrassingly to admit, my only) language is English; English is how I verbally communicate with everyone. My boyfriend speaks English as well, thus we are able to communicate easily. As we all know, communication is key to all successful relationships. So, how do we communicate our love to one another?

Just like verbal languages, there are love languages; this is how we express our love to one another. Since most couples do not share the same love language, this lack of communication can cause issues when the partners do not understand what is being communicated. The key to a lasting relationship is having this deeper understanding (so I have read :) ).

I read and learned of love languages in the book ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman (I highly recommend reading this book). I was able to pretty much pinpoint my own love language; however, as I was going through the list, I was having difficulty determining my boyfriend’s primary love language. After convincing him to take this QUIZ, I feel as if I understand him on a different level, and it’s already making our relationship even stronger! I couldn’t be happier we took this quiz together and learned more about each other!

My love language is Quality Time. What is yours?

LoveLanguageQT Quality Time
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

LoveLanguageWAWords of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

LoveLanguageGReceiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

LoveLanguagePTPhysical Touch
A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

LoveLanguageSActs of Service
Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

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