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Whatever Happened to Just Throwing Rice?!

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When I got married, people threw rice at the newly married couple as they left the reception. There was "meaning" to this tradition; something about fertility if I remember correctly (they must have thrown a LOT at us...). However, nowadays, brides think that their wedding must be "unique" and, in turn, begin the search for "all things different." Unfortunately, my daughter is no different (sigh).

I thought it was funny when she first brought the subject up... that is until I realized that she was SERIOUS! She was talking about leaving the reception and wanting "cute little lanterns" like the ones on the movie "Tangled." Her father jumped right on the idea as not being such a good one by commenting, "You have to release those over water so they won't burn the whole city down." Scratching my head a little I thought, "Good reply! And quick too." Apparently her plans for a "unique departure" will not be thwarted that easily.


Photo by Andrea Reynolds.

It had been several weeks and I assumed (I know what THAT gets you) that the lofty, magical fairy tale departure from the reception had possibly been replaced by a more sensible one. Was I ever wrong! Not only was it NOT replaced... she had found MORE ideas for "unique departures"!

Caitlin has been blowing the text messaging and e-mail up, sending me "ideas" for her upcoming wedding. You see, she is attending her last year of college in Texas and I am here in Louisiana. So, this particular e-mail arrived (along with the text message that told me to check my e-mail...) with more lofty ideas on how she and Kevin could depart the reception, along with attached links (to prove that those things really did exist).

FIRST on the list was... You've got it! Those little lanterns. SO...she had not given up on THAT idea. She also added a note that they did NOT have to be released over water, but would be totally burned out before they hit the ground. Hmmm...I wasn't so sure about that. And if there was ONE EXCEPTION where they didn't... it would be US.

I scrolled down to the next idea: it was BUTTERFLIES and FIREFLIES. These butterflies and fireflies would arrive in some sort of paper packaging and people would release them as the couple made their exit. OK...What if they were not alive when you opened the paper? Would they all just drop to the ground? And I thought that moths only flew around at night, not butterflies.

Oh well...on to the next idea: BALLOONS. At the time the couple would rush from the reception hall, people would release helium balloons. Hmmm...OK, so WHO would be responsible for filling, storing and passing out around 400 helium balloons? Just asking...

The throwing of rice had a meaning behind it. In later years, people began to throw bird seed at newly married couples -- this was a more "earth friendly" alternative. Nowadays... well, things have gotten a LITTLE RIDICULOUS! Oh, I will agree that all of these ideas appear to be romantic and magical... FOR HOLLYWOOD, that is! There are people who are HIRED to put all of these things in place for movies... it is their JOB. Furthermore, it wasn't very hard to float those lanterns up in "Tangled" because it was an animated Disney movie; they drew them into the scene.

And what (if anything) is the meaning behind all of these other "unique ideas"? The lanterns: love starts out with a flame and then burns out and crashes to the ground? And the butterflies and fireflies? Let love soar; except if it's dead to begin with? And the balloons? We're just full of hot air that won't last long? Well, I think that all of these ideas are fine and dandy for a Hollywood Wedding, but for me... JUST THROW THE RICE, PLEASE!!!

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Polish Mama on the Prairie 16 pts

I'm sorry but if I was invited to a wedding and given a helium balloon to release instead of rice, I'd pop it. Haven't we been discussing for the past 30 some years that when they are released, they eventually fall to the ground or in the ocean and can easily kill an animal?

Just have people throw coins at her. That's what they do in a lot of countries.

Or, tie the lanterns to a string so that it doesn't float away, maybe? The entire lantern doesn't burn up before it lands, that's an assumption that is not true.

labuenavida 11 pts

I don't think many people actually associate(d) the throwing of the rice with fertility--plenty of couples who couldn't or weren't planning on having children threw rice at their weddings. If the attributed symbolism really ran that deep, I'm sure there would be all kinds of talk about whether or not a couple threw rice or something else, a la the chatter you hear if a bride's dress isn't white.

I don't see that there's much of a difference in "meaning" between rice and anything else, really.

BLR8577 5 pts

Well, I knew the "throwing of rice" tradition had been stopped by most because of harming something; guess that's why they began throwing the bird seed instead. I've gotten many other suggestion: sparklers (no way!), bubbles, streamers, confetti,,,There are just SO many choices out there today! Oh, how I long for the simpler days..(.sigh )

juliaandruswilliams 5 pts

We did rose petals on the beach. I think that has something to do with fertility too. No babies yet though!

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Katt Boxx
Katt Boxx

Here's an idea cooked rice! Problem solved! ;0)

Tracey Croughwell Saenz
Tracey Croughwell Saenz

The thing about rice hurting birds is actually a myth (see http://www.snopes.com/critters/crusader/birdrice.a... I say, if the bride and groom are doing the work themselves, let them have their own thing without judging them. If they're asking everyone to do it for them, that's another story...

Carrie Cass
Carrie Cass

Most familys made a living and fed thier kin bye farming ther-fore throwing rice I believe was to wish the couple many fruitful harvest in the marriage (ie a good pay check every year for life) and it was stopped because the birds would eat the rice and it would swell in thier stomach and kill them (and for those of you who think well its just a few birds im not really an over sensetive person but thats how germs spread)

Esther Kraig
Esther Kraig

I think the danger is that the rice that gets thrown at weddings is dry. Dehydrated. The rice growing in the fields is full of moisture. The dry, dehydrated rice expands in the bird's stomach, killing it. If it were hydrated, it would be fine.

Yolinda Carroll
Yolinda Carroll

Toss in rice is danger for the birds.Dry Rice kills the birds.

Elizabeth J White
Elizabeth J White

birds eat uncooked rice from the rice fields all the time. Just like they eat other grains from the fields. just saying.

Esther Kraig
Esther Kraig

Those lanterns sure do look pretty, though.

Joy Beasley Richardson
Joy Beasley Richardson

We threw bird seed, and a seed actually got stuck in my husbands ear....unknowingly to him. Only to be retrieved at a later date because he had a sinus infection. I think the doctor and my husband were surprised!

Elisha Hannafey DeMaria
Elisha Hannafey DeMaria

Uncooked rice kills birds. Some traditions are meant to be stopped & some are meaningful enough to be carried on.

Caitlyn Gilley Obolsky
Caitlyn Gilley Obolsky

We couldn't do rice (at SF City Hall) b/c the birds would eat it/it would make a mess, no rose petals either, so we did bubbles (outside) :)