I closed an intenSati class the other day with a short dance routine to Whitney Houston's So Emotional and "The emotional and resilient warrior in me bows to the emotional and resilient warrior in you, Namaste..." so this is very time appropriate. That, plus my being an emotional person whose feelings tend to come with the variety and nuances of a box of Crayolas.
So happy Crayola crayons still exist.
Davidson developed an Emotional Style theory with the following classifications:
1. Resilience -- how quickly or slowly you recover from adversity.
2. Outlook -- the duration that a person’s positive emotion persists.
3. Context -- the extent to which we modulate our emotional responses in a context-appropriate way.
4. Social Intuition -- the sensitivity to social cues, the extent to which a person is sensitive to facial expressions or vocal expressions.
5. Self Awareness -- the extent to which a person is aware of signals within their own body, which are important to emotion.
6. Attention -- how focused or scattered you are. Attention isn’t often thought of as part of emotional style, yet our work indicates that it significantly contributes to a person’s emotional makeup. Is your attention easily pulled by stimuli in the environment or are you able to more skillfully focus your attention on what it is you wish to attend to.
With respect to 5 and 6, I am very Self Aware that my Attention has been OFF what I need to be working on (a play I'm in which opens March 7th) and ON what is not really a priority (everything else). For more about Resistance and the Ego, I strongly suggest reading THE WAR OF ART, which is currently in my bathroom but you can find here on Amazon.
The more conversations we have which address the way people emote and then react, understand, avoid, or learn from their emotions, the better. We've come to understand that people learn differently and as such, there are now teaching tools and styles to accommodate almost everybody. I think if we understand emotions a little bit differently and give people a clearer, broader language to discuss and express how they feel, it will be easier to communicate and perhaps easier to feel our feelings fully without fear. Thoughts?