When Love Isn't Enough

So many circumstances can lead a match made in heaven to imminent disaster when life's circumstances take a toll on the relationship. We've seen over and over again how happily married couples can become distant and eventually the inevitable infidelity comes around the corner.  Sometimes love just isn't enough to make a couple stay  and move together towards the future.  The saddest part is that they chose to ignore all the signs along the way that were signaling for a stop.    

When two people marry out of love their hearts and minds join, if only for the duration of the ceremony, with happiness, with a sense of fulfillment and faith as they face their future together. Sometimes their bliss doesn't even make it pass their honeymoon, and we need to ask ourselves, why? With increasing divorce statistics our younger generations are viewing marriage as a risk and assess it as one. What can we do to restore people's faith in marriage?  One of the things we can try is to customize our idea on love,  let's make it up, close and personal. We may discover it works better. 

For some love are moments along the married life where happiness in found in bits, or passion, or convenience, or friendship. In other words, love has many phases and meanings, it's like an individual thing. For me love is being in peace with myself and therefore with my husband and settling in bed with him when the day is over and knowing we can face anything as long as we're together.

Yet things aren't so simple, in married life not only do we deal with affection, love, emotions, trust and so many more. Whereas we can't forget about the other side of the coin, sex, wanting and sometimes just sheer lust. Who said you can't feel pure, simple, and honest lust for your husband?

Some face marriage as it was a mirage, when they look at it from afar they see castles and fairy tales, but when they come much closer all they find is emptiness and sorrow. That's why precisely we need to face marriage with an open and honest approach. Knowing before hand what WE want out of it, so it will be tailored for us. Marriage is dynamic, it's always changing, basically because we do too.

Let's face it as months become years, and years become decades, and decades become a life long relation, "until death do us apart" can and will become a very loooooong time. A great movie that tells this tale is "Seventeen Again", these High School sweethearts loved each other, but love wasn't enough anymore. Bottom line, sometimes love isn't enough! Has been it enough for you? To be continued.....

Maritza

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