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I'm often intrigued by the immaculate photos I see of people's homes and workspaces perfectly staged and decorated. Do people actually live that way? I wonder. It's too easy to compare other people's picture-perfect to my own life-in-progress and find myself lacking. Some sites I don't even read anymore, because I don't come away inspired -- I come away feeling like an inferior human being.

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My dissatisfaction is born from a desire to honor our very real times, our very real spaces. When you see where women by and large actually create, it's a marvel. We write words that will change people's lives in journals that hang off the desk while we're writing in them, with papers and restaurant napkins and unused visitor passes to the local gym at our feet.

We create in spaces that we share with partners and children and people we love, in moments we steal away from the messy, stormy, unpredictable, untamed and beautiful lives we are creating together with our families and neighbors and friends. We write on the sofa while a little one makes a paper bag puppet next to us in the early morning hours while the rest of our bustling city sleeps. 

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Our families patiently squeeze bowls and plates onto tables sprawling with the artifacts of our days while our minds weave new songs, new pictures, new paintings and phrases that we can't turn off until we simply get them out. They don't complain when we're having pasta for dinner. Again. We dream of the day when the words are finally out and we once again remember to buy vegetables. And cook them.

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We walk past sinks with dirty dishes, and half-eaten gingerbread houses that are still on the counter even though it's half-way through January. We fill up our cups and keep going.

There are other days, quiet days, when we will want to tame our spaces and restore order. After the creating is done, when our spirits find that calm like a baby finally rocked to rest.

But until that time comes, we remind ourselves that this time is beautiful, too, and this disheveled space that testifies to our life as it really is and not how anyone else thinks it ought to be.

If you'd like to join me in honoring our very real times and spaces, you can share photos of the spaces you are living and creating in (just a quick pic, without moving anything) in this new Flickr group: Real Spaces.


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fromthesamenest 5 pts

I need to see photos like this! I too get caught up beating myself up because I don't have a picture perfect house most days. My husband reminds me our home is "lived in". Even just a glimpse at someone elses clutter brightens my day. Thanks!

Michelle @ FTSN

http://www.fromthesamenest.com/2011/03/2011-ultima... ( http://www.fromthesamenest.com/2011/03/2011-ultima... )

PixieHornet 5 pts

I have to say that I am related to a blogger who has a popular DIY site. There is A LOT of staging that goes into presenting a certain image of her home (which is essentially her showcase), her family, her persona and her "brand". It isn't real...it is her "job". So keep that in mind when you see some of these sites. Especially the ones that are monetized or have lots of links to companies, coupons, promos etc...because no matter how personal the site claims to be...it is also a business.

ButterflyLady 5 pts

I used to be an 'extreme neat freak' but now I'm a little 'older' & wiser I find that I still like 'my space' to be tidy - however, have found that life is for the living and to live you have to have a bit of organised chaos around you!

Catootes 5 pts

No matter what I do I can't seem to control the clutter. It's part of who we are.

I write, create jewelry and cook from the chaos of my kitchen table, amid school books, mail, bowls of fruit and the dog whose insists on sitting on my feet.

It was hard trying to give up that vision of the neat and prefect house, everything in its place, but I finally stopped, looked around and realized this is home, and we're all happy here.

Tracey
http://catutes.blogspot.com

jeanettenyberg 5 pts

I love you for posting this, and I loved reading it, but I especially like the photo of the Jim Beam on the counter next to the peanut butter jar.

http://www.craftwhack.com

PenelopeNY 5 pts

How sweet and homey…but you do NOT want to see how my house looks!

Penelope's Oasis ( http://penelopesoasis.com/ )

kmoldofsky 5 pts

I am much more comfortable walking into a home that looks like it's actually lived in than one that is sterile. The latter always leaves me wondering, "Where are her papers and he kids' stuff?" Thanks for sharing a glimpse of real life.

Kim blogs at Hormone-colored Days ( http://hormonecoloreddays.blogspot.com )and The Chicago Moms Blog ( http://www.thechicagomoms.com ). She connects bloggers and brands at MomImpact.com ( http://www.momimpact.com ).

njgeiger 5 pts

I guess I'm a neat freak. But there is nothing more relaxing then walking into my clean: entry, kitchen, bedroom, office...
It's just peaceful and calming!

My mom always told me it takes 2 seconds to put whatever you used back where it belongs - and she was right!

http://teachingsundayschool.blogspot.com
http://www.abridescookbook.com/blog
http://www.givitup.com
http://onlinestoregivitup.blogspot.com
http://thenestempties.blogspot.com

Musharooom 5 pts

Thanks for posting. I also enjoying getting a glimpse of where others work and where creativity flourishes. A space whether cluttered or clear has to allow for the flourishing of ideas. I have to work at keeping my space clutter free. But I like having room to write or illustrate.

http://www.musharooom.com: where ideas sprout

Smwilaby 5 pts

I love this post. Very well written. I have two kids, and I chose to stay at home with them to be a parent and an active part of their life. If I wanted my home to be immaculate, they would spend their entire day alone. :-0
I dont know how people do it when they have young children.

I just finished dinner..and to give you an idea of what my table looks like, imagine this: a laptop, camera, our taxes, play-dough, and my daughters homework. Not tidy by most standards.

sherriequilts 5 pts

I so relate to your post! I don't have a "dirty" house but clutter and projects are everywhere. It took me until I was 48 years old to finally tell my mom I hated Thanksgiving. She said why? My reply ... because we have to work SO hard to make everything perfect in the house and all I want to do is spend some time with my family. Being with each other is SO much more important than a Picture Perfect House. Your kids & family won't remember how much time you spent cleaning ... BUT they will remember the fun times ... playing a game ...talking & laughing, etc.

PinkPetunias 5 pts

Thank you for being real. I too feel that way but I still read the blogs in hopes one day, their cleaning fairy will come visit me. Ahhhh...

I have to say I particularly like what appears to be liquor and wine bottles. That could be my counter. :)

Christine
http://PinkPetunias.typepad.com ( http://pinkpetunias.typepad.com/ )

floridasunsets 5 pts

That was wonderful to read!

I'm messy and cluttered. I joke that that if I'm face with too many straight lines I lose my creativity. And I'm okay with it. My house is always busy. We all have some kind of creative project we're doing and we're all happy. I have friends with immaculate, neat homes who live to clean and who always seem unhappy and miserable. The house is never clean enough. I realized a couple of years ago when I tried to be neater, it almost consumed me. Crazy, huh? I was the meanest person around! I'm ok with my clutter. It's good. It's real. And it's me. Thanks for your very cool post!

Betty
Blogging at http://littlefarminthebigcity.blogspot.com/

Squashed Mom 5 pts

We are all messy, cluttery, pile-making, stuff-keeping folks by nature in my house and it's sometimes OK and sometimes hard. We live in a small apartment in NYC, and my husband's mother recently passed away, so our apt. is now filled with boxes of her stuff, as her apt. had to be cleared out & there was just so much of my husband's past he didn't want to lose.

If we had more space, we could have "neat" rooms and "messy" rooms like I had growing up (as an only child in a big suburban house w/ extra rooms), but we just don't have the space for that, and sometimes I think we will drown in the clutter. My husband and I are both writers, and as such are more thinkers than do-ers. I, right now, am reading and writing instead of cleaning up. My usual choice.

Varda is the Squashed Mom from The Squashed Bologna: a slice of life in the sandwich generation. ( http://www.squashedmom.com/ )

TelecommutingMom 5 pts

I love this article and I love that you posted these pictures. I feel the same way. I also feel like I want my home to feel real and for my kids to be comfortable in it. My workspace is usually my kitchen table or the couch.

Alaina http://www.telecommutingmommies.com

texasebeth 6 pts

I have friends whose houses are pretty darn close to immaculate but then they are neat freaks. I'm a clutterer. My house is a constant mess. I have posted pics of my house in that state many times. I do occasionally try to crop out the dirty dishes, dust bunnies, stacks of mail, etc. but not all the time.

Elizabeth

@texasebeth ( http://twitter.com/texasebeth )  and My Life, such as it is.... ( http://texasebeth.blogspot.com )

JennaHatfield 10 pts

Hmm. I currently HATE all of my working spaces and want to totally redo everything. So I'm not ready to share. :)

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and photographer.

TheBlackTortoise 5 pts

All the mess around me distracts me from getting creative. Still, before I know it, the mess has returned, and I'm working in and around it.

I believe I'm attracted to mess in some strange and comforting way. Maybe she's a good friend, that I sometimes need to take a break from, in order to feel like me again.

Adela

Blogging at:

www.oncealittlegirl.wordpress.com ( http://www.oncealittlegirl.wordpress.com )

and

www.theblacktortoise.com ( http://www.theblacktortoise.com )

Tori Jewell 5 pts

My current workspace is my plush bed of ivory and pale aqua bedding with my ill cat Scruffy on my lap and a tv tray holding journals, notes, drinks and sometimes petulant bathing cats.

Tori is the creatrix behind Cellar Door Beauty ( http://cellardoorbeauty.wordpress.com