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Who is to blame for childhood obesity? There certainly seems to be a lot of blame to go around. Are the parents to blame?

Katherine Berry from Pajamas Media wrote...

It’s not something we, as parents, like to hear and yet it’s precisely what we need to realize: if our children are fat, the chances are we bear a big load of the blame. Kids aren’t the ones pulling the minivan into the drive-through lane at McDonald’s for dinner between dance lessons and karate practice. Again. They aren’t the ones zipping past the produce aisle and dried beans in favor of high-fat, calorie-dense convenience meals that promise to be ready after five minutes or less in the microwave. They don’t keep files crammed with the take-out menus for nearby restaurants, nor program the phone number of the pizza joint on their cell phones. Parents do.

Miriam Stoppard of Dear Mariam wrote...

If a child is obese at the age of two, there’s no one to blame but the parents.

Traditionally toddlers have the healthiest lifestyles – they naturally run around all the time, burning up calories.
So it’s difficult to imagine what these children’s parents have been doing to let them get so fat. If you’re busy and stressed and feel guilty about not spending enough quality time with your child, you’re probably looking for quick and easy ways to make it up to them.

Is fast-food to blame? Or is it the parent who provides the fast-food to blame?

From Dawn at Belle of the Blog: Fat-Bottomed Girls...

If my child doesn't eat well it's because I as his mother and provider of nourishment have in some way failed to bring good foods to him or convince him to eat those good foods.

It's bullshit to say that "...America's chain restaurants have set parents up to fail." God that attitude sickens me.

What about those unhealthy school lunches?

From Childhood Obesity: A Threat To Our Public Health...

School systems have instituted nutrition and exercise programs with some success. For example, a research group, The Healthier Options for Public Schools, followed 3700 students in a Florida county over 2 years. School districts instituted an intervention program in 4 schools and the results were measured against two schools that did not have a program. The intervention program included dietary changes, increased exercise and nutrition awareness. There were dramatic changes in the kids who had intervention, however, when those students returned from summer vacation, most had reverted back to their old habits.

There is also evidence that the economy plays a role - Childhood Obesity: Why Are More Poor Children Overweight?

What do you think?  Take this poll and let me know what you think about who is to blame...

Personally, I think there is enough blame to go around, but the best thing to do is focus on ways to solve the problem.

What can parents do to help children make healthier food choices?

Create a healthy and active environment...

  • Healthy Choices: Stock the fridge with a lot of healthy food and snacks, such as whole-grain choices, fresh produce and milk. Get rid of the junk food and soda.
  • Behavioral changes help: Serving water or milk at dinner instead of soda, sitting at a table instead of around the T.V., eating dinner at a regular time—these changes are small but can break old habits and make a real difference. Make small decisions to increase the activity in your day.
  • Beware of the TV: studies have shown that TV time directly correlates with snacking. Instead, encourage your child to be active, or work on a project that engages his or her hands so they are less likely to snack.
  • Slow down the consumption: Encourage your child to eat slowly and engage them in discussion during mealtime. Serve them smaller portions, and if they are old enough, don’t cut their food for them.
  • Food as nutrition, not reward: Don’t make food a source of reward or punishment. Allow your child to stop eating when they are no longer hungry and never force them to finish their plate.
  • Engage them in physical activity outside of the home: Enroll your child in a physical activity they might enjoy, such as gymnastics, dance or
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justlinda 9 pts

... in making such a reasonable reply to my rant.  Thank you for that. 

I did read your other piece, too.  (I read quite avidly on this topic - oh, the books I have accummulated!  I feel like I could teach the class, if only the books provided any consensus on the right way forward...)

I think there are more moving parts than we acknowledge.  I think in every area we learn more about the triggering between nature and nurture and this area is no different.  Yes, both play a role, together with the radical change in the "western diet" over the past century, even more concentrated in the past half century with rapid changes decade after decade. 

I was in a discussion once about how the school system plays a part.  All the parties with so many treats and so much candy and then cupcakes for each childs birthday and "brand name pizza day" and an ala carte cafeteria, in some schools, where little children ruled by WANT can walk up and get plenty of lunch-dessert every day (where is the tasteless Jello now??) - Anyway, this other mother was defending that - she was mad that her school was instituting changes in how much junk food was available, what could be brought in (birthdays, special parties) and this mother said "My kids aren't fat!  I shouldn't be impacted.  I want my kids to have all these treats."

Given those sorts of attitudes (and that we parents TRYING face the outcomes of these campaigns), it really is just so difficult to effectively make changes where one child with a challenging genetic legacy gets singled out.

(By the way, I don't believe that ALL children should be denied just because some should... but there in lies the challenge.  A kindergartner doesn't REASON well about how his genetics are different - he just wants a damn cupcake like all his friends.  LOL)

It IS a society problem.  Parents with skinny kids have to be part of the solution too, because you know what -- the % of overweight kids is appalling, but the % of overweight adults is even worse.  Many of those kids who are thin are on their way to becoming overweight adults if WE (all, collectively) don't find a better way forward.

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Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Hi Linda.  Thanks for your comment, I totally agree with you.  I was shocked at how many people were so quick to put the blame on the parents.  At the time I was trying to look at all of the reasons we are seeing such a rise in childhood obesity, and in my opinion there is no one thing that is to blame...And like you said, often genetics does play a role.   As far as the poll goes...I wonder if I hadn't put "parents" at the top, more people would have chose "all of the above?"

I do believe that parents play a very large role in helping their children make healthy food choices, as it sounds like you are doing.  And I think there is a huge difference between children that are overweight because they consume so much fast food, soda, and junk foods - and children that are consuming healthy foods but are still overweight.  Overweight doesn't always mean unhealthy. 

Here is a post I wrote recently on ways parents can help children make healthy food choices...

http://www.blogher.com/tips-parents-can-use-help-c... ( http://www.blogher.com/tips-parents-can-use-help-c... )

Thanks again for your comment.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
Also at Catherine-Morgan.com ( http://catherine-morgan.com/ )

justlinda 9 pts

I'm the mother of a fat kid, so keep that in mind.  I've also struggled with weight all of my own life.  I have 3 siblings who do not.  My daughter has 4 sisters who do not.  Just to put that out there... genetics plays a part.  Yes, I know, we have to play the hand we're dealt, even so.

And I don't deny that parents carry a big responsibility here.

But I want to scream and punch the wall when I see the poll results.  Really?  Such a high percentage of people want to put the blame squarely on the shoulders of the parents?

People - we have a systemic problem.  Your kid may not be fat now, but trust me - he or she is likely to face this issue in the future!  Because this is bigger than just the parents of the fat kids making changes. 

Sometimes I think some parents are just all warm and superior in their cocoons with their thin and lithe children.  "It's THEIR problem.  THEY have the fat kids.  They really should DO something about that."  That's what it feels like from here, anyway.

I have actually read "Well, we don't feed OUR children junk and we turn off the TV a lot."

OH!  Gosh, if only I had thought of that. 

I'm not lashing out at anyone in this thread or even the original writer of the article.  But yeah, I suppose I AM lashing out. 

This is personal for me.  For 5 years of my 8 year old's life we've been doing all the right things.  Chances are she's more active and eats healthier than many of the children out there who happen to be thin.  I'd put my pantry up against yours any day of the week.  We cook and eat dinner as a family every night.  We've done so much as recommended by our pediatrician and nutritionist. 

But sure... go ahead and heap the blame on my shoulders.  I can take it.  It's really nothing compared to the burden of trying to help my child even when the problem is pervasive and insideious in our society and schools and EVERYWHERE.  Pile it on.  I can take it.

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MealMixer 5 pts

It is so easy for us well educated above the poverty line moms to pat ourselves on the back for making the right choices.  I grew up poor, my mother worked 2 jobs.  She did not have the education, or luxury of time to scour the grocery stores looking for the best nutritional bang for her buck.  She was also a victim of the packaged goods marketers.  Now the the pendulum as swung back in favor of fresh foods, we must put home economics back in the schools and teach kids how to cook fresh foods.  It's not enough to say "here it is, eat it," we have to be hands on teaching people how to cook and plan meals.  Maybe food banks should give classes.  Maybe all those Dream Dinner franchises that failed could be turned into public services where people go and are taught to cook fresh, decent food and then take home the meals.

(steps off soap box)

Marianne 

Annagain 5 pts

While I watched my 11 year old daughter having difficulty keeping up with her basketball team, it really hit me that I have contributed to that belly that she was struggling with.  Her running was labored and her stamina was nil.  It's not her fault.  It's mine.

I am the one buying the ice cream for dessert every night.  I am the one not encouraging more physical activity.  I may be doing my exercises while my children are at school, but with school budget cuts, P.E. only happens twice a week.  They aren't getting all the movement they truly need.

I finally got it through my head to cut out the rich sweets, and frequent treats everyday.   I can't believe I let it happen but, I did. 

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

THURSDAY, Feb. 19 (HealthDay News ( http://news.yahoo.com/s/hsn/20090220/hl_hsn/billcl... ))

In what they called a
"landmark agreement," former President Bill Clinton and the American Heart
Association announced Thursday the launch of a national initiative on
childhood obesity, aimed at getting up to 6 million American kids covered
for
routine visits to both primary care physicians and dietitians.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
at Catherine-Morgan.com ( http://catherine-morgan.com/ ) and Women4Hope ( http://women4hope.wordpress.com/ )

Laurie_Halo Secretarial 5 pts

I'm definitely going to say it's mostly in the hands of parents. I am not the healthiest eater (working on it!) but as soon as I had kids I realized how important it was going to be to both model good choices for healthy living and to provide opportunities for activity and yummy healthy food. There are days we make a poor choice and we certainly eat fast food occasionally, but my children understand why some choices are treats, why we don't keep pop, chips, or other "junk" food in the house. Teaching moderation is important (even with the video games, lol!)

Laurie, mom of 3 boys and

blogger about my VA business ( http://halosecretarialservices.com/blog ) and my life as a work at home mom ( http://vamomof3boys.com/blog )!

Cherre 5 pts

The parents, the schools, and each and every one of us for the example we set and the culture we create. However if I were to point a finger I'd' like to point it at video games because they drive me crazy!

http://doesabodygood.blogspot.com

KatelynsFood 5 pts

I work in a hospital, and see unhealthy families on a daily basis. It's really hard to watch the adults encourage their children to have the same unhealthy life styles they have. And, they don't think what they are doing is unhealthy! Even when a RD comes in and talks to them. It's so hard to watch...

www.katelynsfood.blogspot.com ( http://www.katelynsfood.blogspot.com )

Kathy333 5 pts

I am really involved with this issue and frustrated by the number of children that are now obese. We eat a healthy diet with loads of fruits and veggies, which we started when my daughters were young. They are very good about eating a variety of foods and we have told them what are 'special treats' that you get sometimes and what is good for you.

I've also tried to explain, as much as I can to my four year old, how food is fuel to make our body run. She gets it on her level, and she will say things like, "Soda isn't good for you. It's not a good fuel."  Or, "If I eat this, will it make me run fast?" She's been told to try everything once - she wouldn't eat the sweet potatoes last night because they were orange, but she tried them lol.

The number of kids I see drinking soda, eating chips and not exercising is astounding, but I believe it comes from parents not knowing or not wanting to make that fight. Teaching kids to eat healthy is not as easy as giving them junk they want, like fried foods and cookies. Sometimes eating healthy is a fight, but it is a fight we should be making. Also, if you start it early enough it is not a fight because kids don't know the difference.

I think we have to be active as a community in challenging kids to get out and go, too. I know of one girl who never did do much exercise but stayed inside a lot to watch tv. when we invited her to take a bike ride the first time she hated it. Then, she began asking us all the time to go . She just hadn't been explosed, and I think that is a lot of it. If the parents are not going to make the effort or are ill informed, who will? It's a tough fight. 

Kathy

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tobyedavid 5 pts

I don't think that any one source is "at fault".  I do think that we was parents, (read:me) need to take more responsibility.  I look at my kids and they are all skinny, but I don't need to be resting on those laurels.  My kids are thin now because they've inherited a good metabolism, but that won't last forever.  I bought apples yesterday at the grocery store (and I don't buy fruit nearly enough) and was surprised at how much my kids enjoyed them.  But, I have to have it available for them. 

I also think our busy lifestyles don't help.  I know I'm guilty of not feeling like cooking after a long day at work.  I also know that it's quicker to take my daughter to McDonald's before cheerleading practice.  I could do better about that.

And I'm not even going to get into the cultural reasons for obesity.  But I do think we as parents need to start with personal responsibility.