Who Cares About Him, Anyway?

how to get over a breakup

This is something that I often see with my clients and that has definitely happened in my own life.

We go through a breakup, usually not being the one to end it, and are left feeling like something was wrong with us.

We can spin on this feeling for months or even years, wondering why we weren’t good enough for them to stay? Or worse, if they’ve entered into a new relationship, what does she have that I don’t?

What-ifs fly through our heads like tiny knives threatening to open the wounds all over again.

What if I had done this differently?

What if I had tried harder?

What if I had just forced myself to like the same things they liked?

What if I were better?

Stop the what-ifs because they are won’t get you anywhere and they do absolutely no good whatsoever.

There are beautiful women out there with literally everything going for them who still have husbands that cheat, lie or divorce them. Leaving them wondering what they did wrong.

Meaning, it happens to the best of us.

Know, in your heart, that you did the best you could at the time. Anything you wish you could have done differently or better is a learning experience that you can bring to future relationships.

But, you shouldn’t ever have to change or compromise who you are.

As soon as we start compromising who we are the relationship is over anyways. We’re trying to mold ourselves into something we’re not and sacrificing our self-love with it.

That’s not to say that sometimes we do things we don’t want to do for those we love. That is healthy sacrifice.

Unhealthy sacrifice is thinking you need to be different somehow in order for them to like you or to want you back.

God, The Universe, Spirit – whatever you want to call it makes no mistakes. You were born as perfectly, imperfectly you.

So if they don’t like it, or they decided that you don’t “fit into their mold”, than who cares about them, anyway?

Life is short. Too short to pine over someone who didn’t accept you for who you are.

So go on and rock your awesome self! Someone will love you for it!


Love and letting go,

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