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Who Do You Love More?

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A couple of years ago I watched an episode of Oprah where this mom stirred up all sorts of controversy when she said she loved her husband more than her kids. She didn't say that she DIDN'T love her kids, just that she loved her husband more and that she thought in the long run this was best for her kids. She was showing them a loving relationship, teaching them the world wasn't all about them, etc.

Well, you should have seen the other mommies get up in arms over this! There were some women who backed her, but what I remember (and it has been a while, so I could be off on this) was that the majority of women who commented felt she was completely wrong and basically accused her of being a bad mom.

At the time I didn't have kids and the prospects were a little dim, but I do remember thinking "what's the big deal?"

You love your kids more? Great! You love your husband more? Great. As long as everyone is getting some love do we really have to measure it?

I also kind of thought if I ever did have a kiddo I might be one of those "love my husband more" ladies too. Ricky and I have always been very close and people have always teased us about acting like newlyweds long after we weren't anymore.

And then I had Little Ricky and I fell completely head over heels in love. On a daily basis I tell him he is the love of my life.

BUT!

That doesn't mean Ricky is NOT the love of my life anymore.

What I now know (for me at least) is that there is no "who do you love more?"

Yes, Ricky is the love of my life...as my husband.

Yes, Little Ricky is the love of my life...as my child.

They are 2 completely different loves. I can adore one without it taking away from the other.

So, Moms, tell me your thoughts on this? Who do YOU love more?

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Rusty Hoe 5 pts

I saw that episode and found it very bizarre.  Since when is loving your husband bad?  I have 2 kids and a hubby and I love them both and I love them differently (child services would be in otherwise, ick.  Or we'd be on Springer).  There seems to be a cultish attitude towards children in some cases.  You must devote yorself to your child above everything else.  Who made that rule?  I agree with you  you 'can adore one without taking away from the other', it's not a case of who is in the no 1 position.  I manage to love both my children without making one less, so why would it matter if I also loved my husband.  I often wonder what the kids first mum's do after the ids leave home.  Do they still have a satisfying marriage?  Do they feel empty as the kids are gone?  It's much the same as the working mums vs stay at home mums, but I wont get started on that hot potato!