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The most enlightening advice I've received as a parent has been about toys. When celebrating our first Christmas my aunt warned me not to buy my son too many gifts because he'd be more entertained by the wrapping and boxes. She was totally right. And as my son quickly approaches his third birthday, he is still intrigued by the most unusual things. Like a kitten, he will play with a bit of string or a piece of ribbon for hours on end.

I once found him playing with a fabric belt from one of my shirts. I have no idea where that has vanished to, but he seemed to be enjoying himself, so I let him have it. Don't get me wrong, he enjoys "real" toys, too -- but I believe that when he plays with the unconventional toys, he is letting his imagination run free. He will often take toys that are made for one purpose and change them to be what he wants them to be.

For instance, I bought him a pegboard game, which is designed to improve dexterity, help with counting and learning colors. He used the peg board on the first day and subsequently used the pegs to make rocket ships. He is still learning the skills that the game was designed to teach; however, he has fashioned it in his own creative way. My mother just commented on his creative playing yesterday when she saw him with an old necklace of mine. She said, "he has so many toys and yet, he plays with the strangest things!" She is correct, but despite my knowledge that he will create toys, I still purchase things for him. Recently I've focused on purchasing him books, because, in addition to his creative toys he truly has enough "real" toys to fill two toy chests -- and I still have gifts from Christmas that I haven't given him because he has too much stuff!

He does play with his real toys, and mine, too. He will request to play the games or watch the movies I have downloaded for him on my iPhone. I frequently oblige him, because I know that his imagination soars, and letting him play with my electronic devices does not stifle his creativity. After about 10 minutes of playing with my phone, he will often play in the "tunnel" made from an empty box that used to house my husband's bookcase. When we were visiting my mother for her birthday a few weeks ago, he found a new toy: A container full of toothpicks was left on the table, and he literally played with the toothpicks for hours.

I was in the living room watching a movie, and after about five minutes of quiet, I became suspicious. Toddlers that are too quiet generally mean that something is amiss. When I went into the kitchen, I discovered him building a tiny world, replete with sound effects and dialogue. I quietly left the room and observed him from the couch. I was amazed by both his ingenuity and his focus. Even in this era of electronic games and toys that would have defied my imagination when I was growing up, my son can find joy in the simple things. Who needs toys when a piece of ribbon and a box will do?

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Renee is a BlogHer contributing editor and writes her personal blog, Cutie Booty Cakes, named for her clever son.

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midnightbliss 5 pts

i guess kids just gets tired of their toys, they want something new, it may  be real toys or not, my niece and my nephew enjoys playing with kitcken things more than their toys.

Mama Jennifer 5 pts

I freely admit: my kids have too many toys! I guess it's about finding a balance - some toys are beneficial, other just overhyped.

Candelaria Silva 5 pts

Kids just need interesting things.  My 3 year-old granddaughter came to visit recently (to "Boston, America" to quote her) and I only had a pull toy, a doll, a Minnie Mouse and a wicker carriage that used to belong to her mom.  She entertained herself with these items and with a large cardboard box, markers and paper bags, cans, walks in the neighborhood, riding the T, etc. And, of course, books.  She helped me cook, looked through my jewelry, noticed and commented on all these things in Grandi's house  that were new to her.  She has a playroom and room full of toys at home.  She didn't miss them at all. 

ReneeJRoss 5 pts

For the book recommendation. I am going to get that book! 

ReneeJRoss 5 pts

Kids love playing outdoors and it sounds like you had a great adventure. Isn't funny how something that costs nothing can have such a big impact?

AmyMusings 5 pts

My 10-year old son was itching for something to do yesterday after school. He wanted to go somewhere, do something. 

I surprised him and said, "Get your shoes on! We're going somewhere!"

I still had no idea where we were going as we pulled out of our road and waited at the largest intersection in town. If I take a right we can go to the cookie shop. If I turn left we can go get ice cream. There's always the mall....

I went straight. Nodded my head yes and no at the same time when he made guesses as to our destination.

We pulled into a small park with muddy paths, a stream, a bridge, things to pick up as souvenirs.

He ran through the paths. He said, "This doesn't even feel like it was a school day!"

It was all he craved.

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I keep big boxes because they ARE totally fun to play in/with/around. Have you read the book "Not a Box" to your three year old? If not. Buy it now. It's a perfect imagination/no-toy/funny little book. Just love it.

That said, my four and two year old have a love of certain toys. Right now, they're very into Duplo blocks in which they drive their cars through tunnels, bring in their Toy Soldiers for their own version of laser war (from Toy Story) and generally having a blast. Other toy loves include some electronic things (for the four year old), puzzles (chunky and jigsaw appropriately) and anything that they play with outside (sandbox, playhouse, bikes, etc). We've learned over the years what they will like and what they will play with briefly before moving on to favorites. I try to keep that in mind when planning their birthday and Christmas lists (November birthdays). I always feel guilty that their lists are short until I remember that their grandparents, aunts, uncles and associated family members will spoil them in the end.

Good post, by the way. Thumbs up.

sensoryedge 5 pts

We'd like to say every child needs toys because that's one of the types of products we sell, but..... we can't tell you how many times we've been yelled at during the holiday season when someone didn't get their item before Christmas (even though they ordered two days before).

I forgot to write that most of these presents are for babies. BABIES who have no idea what day it is or what to do with the item anyways. Small children like to play and boxes, balls, simple inexpensive items work great for young children.

As kids grow they learn from their peers and the shows they watch what is the latest and greatest item they must have! Have you seen those commercials that show kids playing with toys that are filmed in stop action... oh they make them look so good. That's until you actually buy and try them. It reminds me of the days of Sea Monkeys; it's all about the advertising. Anyways I'm getting off topic.

I agree with cutiebootycakes, let kids use their imagination. Spend time with them drawing, playing, and learning. You'll be surprised how fun it is for both of you.

Alycia

SensoryEdge ( http://www.sensoryedge.com )

MomentswithMegan 5 pts

Hi Renee,

This is so true. I'm one of those people who's good with kids because I remember my childhood distinctly. I can remember playing with scarves and boxes around the house.

I work at the GAP and parents seem to be amazed when I give their kids a few pieces of hot pink tissue paper to occupy them.

"He will often take toys that are made for one purpose and change them to be what he wants them to be."

That reminds me of how 70s/80s kids (I say that because these things no longer exist.) used to think the plastic "tables" in the delivery pizza boxes were toys! I always wondered why Domino's never changed toys haha.

Kids aren't pressured to conform to society norms, and are therefore full of creativity!

The world would be better if everyone would realize that kids don't need fancy toys to be happy.

-Megan Anne

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