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"I cannot say with certainty which of my motives are the strongest, but I know which of them deserve to be followed." -George Orwell: Why I Write, 1946
I will just throw it out there. This week I pulled my blog. Pulled the whole thing offline. And then put it back after a real friend and I talked about it. The whole conversation about blogging and why people blog came up. Again. This time I had to re-question everything I beleived about why I blog. It started so simply. I blogged because I love to write. I cannot imagine not writing. It was a fun exercise in creating. And then came the other things that tend to come with blogging. Some good. Some bad. Some heartbreaking.
Don't get me wrong. I have had some wonderful things happen to me because of blogging. I have met some real friends. I found my literary agent. I have been published numerous times in various publications. I have been sought out for interviews. I even did a great segment on mommybloggers that ran in a nationally syndicated segment on the news. All things I never dreamed would happen simply because I decided to start a little blog.
And I have had the not so good things happen. People who think they know me saying very hateful things to and about me. People who pose are someone you can trust who walk away as soon as you are not of use to them anymore. Friends you thought you could share anything with turning their back on you when something better comes along. Those things happen in real life. I get that. But online? They are magnified.
As I began to go through the litany of reasons why I just didn't think I could do this whole "mommy blogging" thing (yes- in air quotes) anymore- the broken friendships, the mean girls that come out in force, the cruelty of people you trust, etc. - she asked me how it felt when I wrote about my mom. *ouch* The support I received and still do overwhelms me. She asked me how it felt when I wrote about my addiction. *smack* I have been lifted up and help pick up others when I share about my struggles. She asked me what it felt like when I simply got a comment saying, "That was hilarious. Thanks for sharing." *slap*
I didn't get into blogging because I wanted riches, fame or fortune. I got into blogging because I love to write. As in real life, you are going to come across people who are mean. People who will tell you what they know you want to hear or need to hear so they can further their agenda. Those people who are as about as sincere as a lap dance. BUT you will also meet people you can come to really trust. People who will honestly care about you. People who will become closer to you than you could possibly imagine before you began writing online. You will find people who will appreciate your work and your words. You will find people who truly do want to help you further your career. And if you are really blessed, you will find people that get you and who you get that will stand by you no matter what.
Again, it is like life. You are going to get the good and bad. The only difference is that when you get a lot of the bad online, it is your decision whether or not you pull the plug on your online life. And if you are lucky you will still have real friends from that world that stay in your real world.
But why do you blog?
Shera of A Frog In My Soup says:
I love to blog! I love writing, I love getting it all out on paper (you know what I mean), I love recording those special events I want to keep track of. I’m careful not to share too much information, but if you keep your blog private there are ways to do that too. If you’re smart about it and love what you do that’s really what matters right?
Tara of Tara's View of The World shares:
I blog to remind myself that I am not alone in my daily















