Why Married Sex Is Hot Sex: Yes, You Read That Right

OK, i totally need to comment on the "batteries" tip above.  COMPLETELY AGREE!   We started using toys a few months ago and it has changed our marriage.  I have a hard time with the big O and toys put me more in control.  Also, they are totally fun and keep you out of your routine.

If you are confused on where to start, my book club is obsessed with this site called bedroom chemist (we're also obsessed with 50 shades of grey btw).  it is super cute and couple-friendly and they actually send you these romance sets every month or so so it takes all the guesswork out.  Super fun. I just got one for my friend as a wedding gift.  

On my blog there are more statistics that have come out recently about people in marriages being more sexually satisfied than those not in a marriage--I thought people might be interested to read some more about the findings!

http://lifetime2love.blogspot.com/p/in-love-mature-love.html

Women are finding sex after 50 is great, but they also find that with it comes more effort to make it pleasurable. Now women need to consider arousal, lubrication and comfort when previously that just happened!

My concern is that women aren't willing to investigate what it takes to continue to make sex pleasurable and are satisfied with the new status quo. They are accepting the physiologic changes taking place as we age, and menopause is taking its toll sexually. There are options and solutions, but it takes some effort. I say it's worth the effort! Did someone mention batteries?

Barb DePree, MD

http://MiddlesexMD.com

I am one of the few who waited to have sex til I got married. I don't care if that makes me a prude. I love my husband, we love sex. It's all good.

Having just come out of a marriage that lasted for nearly three decades and hopped straight into another long-term monogamous relationship, I have to say I agree with all of this, particularly the part about the batteries :)

But it's more than that. It's about mutual satisfaction and reinforcing the intimate connection that you have built between you. One commenter on my blog wrote about how her husband never made eye contact when they had sex. I can empathise with that totally.

With my new man, we look at each other when we make love. We assess how much the other is enjoying the experience and find ways to make improvements or prolong sessions where something is especially exciting.

It's about working together to enhance the connection. Perhaps if my ex had realised that, we could have made it work. But no point crying over spilled milk, my new man has taught me all these lessons and made me into a new woman :)

Joanna Cake is a writer and blogger who discusses relationships, sex, intimacy, parenting, health and anything else that life would care to throw at her on her blog at Having My Cake and Eating It Too ( http://andeatingit2.com )

I dunno, I guess I'm a "Sex Half Full" kind of person, but I'm a little disappointed in the numbers.

Only HALF of married women were attracted to their partners in the last week? That means 50% of women were not attracted to their husbands at all. Ouch

Also - ONLY HALF of women say their husband/partner is the best they've had? So that means that HALF of women are sleeping with someone who doesn't do it for them the way that somebody else did. Clearly they REMEMBER that their husband isn't as good as that partner too.

I wonder if those women are the women who aren't attracted to their husbands on a weekly basis.

I suppose this explains why half of us married folks will end up divorced.

I was really hoping to hear something like "90% of US couples are having the best sex of their lives in marriage." But only 50% - major bummer man.

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Yes, married sex is hot. But it's also not hot. Or it's non-existent. Or it's hot with someone outside the marriage.

I collect stories from married women about what's really happening in their bedrooms. Come by and share your story, or just see what other women are saying.

Jill

In Bed With Married Women

http://inbedwithmarriedwomen.blogspot.com

I'd love to know if same-sex couples were included in the survey, and if their results differed from those of opposite-sex couples. I took a quick look at the iVillage site, but couldn't find the answer.

http://www.mombian.com

I would be interested in seeing stats for those over 50. Of course it is very difficult to get accurate information about private sexual behavior—-so much wishful thinking in self-reporting

Karen Bojar

http://www.the-next-stage.com/

it's *all* about the intimacy and trust. I enjoy sex way more as a 'married' then I ever did in my single days. Guess we're doing something right!

;^)

~Margaret

Just Margaret ( http://maurhoffbarney.blogspot.com )

Gotta say, married sex is kinda awesome. I don't care if it is in our bedroom. Or the occasional couch/floor romp. I just care that it happens.

And yes. I've been hot for my husband this week. And it's only Tuesday. So there, stupid media portrayal.

Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )), from Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ), is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

So important.

If all is well medically, and there is deep emotional connection, daily physical intimacy is an automatic cinch. (Of course, sleeping nekkid helps, too!)

But if anyone ever blames the woman for taking too long to O, just study the effects of circumcision and you'll feel all better (sexasnatureintendeditdotcom is quite detailed - cover your eyes! - but it sure tells the story).

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