Why Should You Explain Anything?

Mr.Banks: Just a moment, Mary Poppins. What is the meaning of this outrage?
Mary Poppins
: I beg your pardon? 

Mr.Banks: Will you be good enough to explain all this?
Mary Poppins: First of all, I would like to make one thing quite clear.
Mr. Banks: Yes?

Mary Poppins: I never explain anything. [exits]

Wasn't it wonderful to watch Mary Poppins fluttering about so self-assured and never doubting herself? Well, we know from experience that not everyone is so confident.  But if you ever find yourself constantly justifying and explaining, take a break. Continually rationalizing your actions, decisions or behaviors is really saying that not only do you need approval from others, but you may feel quite ashamed or embarrassed about what you are doing or who you are. ("I only drink this much socially.") Many times the other party that's not listening could care less. You are an adult & you make choices. Not all of them are the best choices, admittedly, but they are yours.

Try an experiment for a week. Discover for yourself how many times you attempt to explain or justify anything. If you can, stop yourself. This even means to cease driving yourself batty by going back and forth on some issue, especially if it is for something you have deprived yourself of like new clothes, for instance. Supposing that you can't seem to help yourself, maybe it's time to reevaluate your decision-making process or look into some hidden (or obvious) beliefs that may need some updating. You may be astounded by just how you high in esteem you hold yourself.

Keep in mind that the road to self-discovery does not have to be tedious or unpleasant. Make things more fun and turn the experiment into a game to share with your girlfriends. However, if you are going at it alone you can still have an enjoyable time learning about yourself. Just be willing to laugh, be willing to change and be willing to grow.


"Um diddle diddle diddle um diddle ay,

Um diddle diddle diddle um diddle ay..."

 

Mary Poppins, 1964


 

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