Why is Virginity still for Sale in Cambodia?

 We recently spent a week in Siem Reap, learning that virginity is for sale in Cambodia.

Meet Chet Mon – Her mother sold her virginity to a foreign businessman when she was 12 years old.

She spent her early childhood, working in the streets, collecting bottles, and cans; selling post cards, or collecting scraps of firewood to sell at the market.  She did whatever she could do to help her family survive. She, like many other children in Cambodia was never able to attend school. She never learned to read, write. She never learned her addition tables. She had no clothes and no shoes to wear in the muddy, trash filled slums of Cambodia.  Her family was stuck in the cycle of illiteracy, poverty, and human trafficking; under a government that takes care of the rich and ignores the poor. Her father was dead and her mother had 6 kids to feed on her own, and one was already dead of malnutrition.

Why is virginity for sale in Cambodia

Her virginity was sold to a wealthy foreign business man for $150.00.  He took her to a hotel room, locked her up, and continually abused, and raped her for 7 straight days. When he was done using her small, malnourished, immature, 12 year old body – he threw her out in the street, and left town. Sadly, this is not an isolated incident it happens all the time, even today.

 What if someone offered you enough money to feed your family for years? Just think, 150.00 US dollars is 607,500 Cambodian Dollars. Would you sacrifice one child for the sake of the other 6?

Even though her childhood was stolen,  and her virginity sold; she has no ill will, no hate, no anger…. which amazes me.  In Cambodia your virginity being sold; prostitution, sex, violence, and death; is just a normal way of life ~ a way to survive.

In Cambodia, they have a saying  “Men are Gold … and Women are Cloth” If Gold gets dirty you can polish it and clean it up and it will be shiny again.  If cloth gets dirty … well its dirty, and can never be clean again. Women are cloth to be used and discarded without a second thought.

Chet Mon was on her own at 12, with no education, and no resources. At age 12 she did the only thing she knew how to do, and that was to become a prostitute. She worked in brothels and eventually became pregnant with a daughter of her own.  You see in Cambodia, you can have sex without a condom if you just pay $1.00 more – and remember $1.00 is 4000.00 Cambodian dollars. Many of the girls offer this “service” even though AIDS and pregnancy is rampant. Too many girls in Cambodia end up in the streets and brothels ~ and this will continue if something is not done to change it!

 Chet Mon, eventually became the mistress of powerful brothel owner and had two more illegitimate daughters.  Her “boyfriend”  has a life and family of his own, but wanted Chet Mon for abusive sex at his beck and call. Instead of protecting her and helping her – he often showed up drunk. He would come into her one room shack that she shares with her 3 daughters drunk, to beat and rape her at 4am.  Sadly there are no police, no protection, or anyone who cares – she is a woman – she is cloth, and disposable. How does an illiterate,  prostitute, with 3 daughters end the cycle of madness?

Now her daughters run the streets, without shoes, clothes or medical care. They cannot afford to go to school. Chet Mon has no way to break the cycle.  There is no one to ask for help …  Until Now.

28-somnang_shadowNew Hope Cambodia is trying to break the cycle of women selling virginity, prostitution, violence, and illiteracy.  I spent the day with the amazing people of this program and met the founder, who grew up much like many of the families he now vows to protect.  Sot Kemsour was a poor village boy who found a way to educate himself against all odds.  Once he reached adulthood and was fortunate enough to learn to read and write – he purchased his own tuk tuk and started his own business and married his wife.

However, the nagging remembrance of the plight of his people led him to sell his tuk tuk business and start New Hope Cambodia.  A free school for all who want to attend. Not only is this a school but they offer free medical care, and medicine.

New Hope Cambodia

Handmade Wooden Pens made by the students at New Hope

They teach vocational training like woodworking, tourism, and restaurant training.  They sponsor families with food and money to help break the cycle of violence, sex, and illiteracy.  They find sponsors to help send kids to school and eventually to college.  They house families of domestic violence.  They put water filters in the streets of the slums for the people.  The only rule for families who want to be part of the New Hope Legacy – are no drugs, no prostitution, and your children must attend school.  Education of the Cambodia people and its women – are the only way to break the cycle.

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