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Why You Need a Little Black Dress

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I am a relentless advocate of the carefully edited closet; I believe that the pieces in your wardrobe should move easily from work to weekend and from day to evening. But I also believe that there are pieces -- yoga pants, for example -- that cannot do multiple duty (yoga pants are not dress up clothes, under any circumstances, ever). Most often, we are willing to buy super casual pieces that cannot be dressed up, but we balk at buying dressy pieces, because they can't be repurposed for the grocery or the office or the sofa.

Well, it's time to get over that, because all of you need a great little black dress -- or it's beautifully shaded equivalent.

Shabby Apple Ruffled Tier DressThe after-five dress is a must-have; you can't go to a wedding or bar mitzvah or cocktail party in your jeans and a tee (no, not even a pretty one). Every so often, life throws you an event that calls for a fancy dress, something that is too nice to wear to the grocery. Rather than making due with what's in your closet and hoping that you're dressed up enough, make an effort ahead of time to have the perfect dress hanging there already. And then you'll be ready to go. Pictured: Shabby Apple Plum Tiered Ruffle Dress, $92.

So what should you look for when you're buying an after-five dress? The LBD is a classic, a blank canvas that you can style a thousand ways. A classic shape -- a sheath or wrap -- is versatile and flattering; change your accessories and you can change the whole look of the dress. But don't rule out color and pattern; if this is going to be your go-to cocktail dress, choose one that you really love. Worried that people will remember the dress from one event to another? Don't -- what they will remember is how terrific you looked, not what specific dress you were wearing. And if they do remember your dress, take it as a compliment -- clearly, you've chosen a great dress.

Don't wait for an event to shop for an after-five dress; shopping when there's no pressure gives you the freedom to focus on what you like, rather than worrying about what you should wear to your cousin's engagement party. Shopping between events also means that you can take advantage of sales. If you're choosing a classic dress, or one that works with your current look, you'll be able to spot the perfect dress when it comes along.

Do you own a great after-five dress? Or are you dressing up your everyday clothes for cocktails? What tips do you have for a night out on the town?

Susan Wagner writes about pragmatic fashion at The Working Closet and chic suburban living at Friday Playdate.

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CouldIHaveThat 5 pts

I live in little black shifts... it's my go to these days. I have way too many actually. But so true on the yoga pants, however I tend to resort to my lululemon's come Sunday...

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twesely 5 pts

because they are such go-to pieces when i find one that fits well ... i have a hard time saying no.

Pammer 5 pts

Terrific advice to shop before an event - and also you should have spring/summer and fall/winter versions.

I love the ruffles in the pic above! So flattering!

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sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

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JennaHatfield 10 pts

Can I go to the ballet with you? I will dress up, too! :)

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Maria Young 5 pts

I look awful in dresses. They just don't fit me well, in my opinion. I'd rather dress up day clothes if need be. I've yet to find a dress that suits me - the one pictured would make me look like a Christmas present. :(

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sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

I didn't used to, but then for the last two years we've had season tickets to the ballet. I believe in dressing up for the ballet. I also believe in not having to wear the same two dresses when I got to the ballet four times a year. I rock the post-Christmas sales and pick them up 70% off.

One of my LBD's was purchased under pressure. I had a last minute date that involved going to a fancy pants restaurant. I've worn that dress everywhere. I also bought my "wedding" dress under pressure too. From the point we decided we were eloping to the day we eloped was less than 10 days and I only really had one day to go shopping. I lucked out and found a fantastic dress.

I am still searching for the perfect pair of evening dress pants. I will find them, but I suspect I'll also need to find a really good tailor because the last pair I tried on were about a foot too long for me.
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Susan Wagner 5 pts

I'm glad someone mentioned pants for evening -- I'm all in favor of that look; it's sophisticated and chic, and totally appropriate after five. As long as the pants aren't yoga pants. ;)
And Loralee, we can totally find you a great cocktail dress. I know we can. There's no way you will look anything but smokin' hott in a great dress. The end.
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millytant 5 pts

To save money (and embarassment) I try to pick up cheap dresses in big department stores at the end of a season. By that time I figure that everyone will have forgotton what those >dresses looked like.

loraleechoate 5 pts

I've never owned a little black dress.

I've had $500 "I am going to stand in font of an orchestra and sing pretty music" dresses.

I had some church dresses way back in the day when I attended (though they were almost all skirts (to the floor) and tops)

But no cocktail dresses for me.

One? I live in the most super casual of super casual places.

Also? My legs should be seen BY NO ONE. EVER.

I am a believer of the dress pant and awesome top. By necessity. I envy all y'all that wear dresses but man...I am not one that can pull it off. I have really bad cankles as well so heels are OUT. Dang.

But...I DID get double dog dared on Twitter to wear a cocktail dress to BlogHer in NY and I bit. Sigh. I may be taking photos of myself and texting you for advice, Susan. Gah.

JennaHatfield 10 pts

The "shopping between events" advice is great. The lack of pressure is key. I had a weird moment of that in January. I had gained weight and lost some again, finding that NONE of my dresses fit. HA! A few individuals in my husband's family were terminally ill so I went shopping with intent to buy a black dress that could be worn to a funeral but not necessarily so. No one was actually on their death bed but we knew it would be within a few months. I found one that fit well, could be worn to a funeral but wasn't ONLY a funeral dress. I bought it.

The next morning, almost 24 hours later, my own grandfather died. I couldn't have made the purchase after he died. (I'm crying even now.)

And so, yes, shopping WITHOUT the pressure is one of my most favorite pieces of advice right now. I don't think, however, that a tiered ruffle dress would look good on me. AT ALL. :)

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Kelly Logan 5 pts

I own several after-five dresses and I actually dress them down occasionally with a jean jacket and flat boots and wear them as day dresses!

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