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Why You Should Make Presents for Your Kids

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Pa made a wheat wall hanging when my grandfather was still alive. Grandpa was a talented metal sculptor. His creations decorate my hometown public library, our church, and all of my relative's houses. I don't have any large pieces, at least not until now. Grandpa made me metal copy of my tattoo as a joke, for instance, that hangs in my guest room. (He had a good sense of humor.) I have a rose and a kite boy and a daisy, mostly procured after his death.

Flower

Daisy

Rose

Rose

I love them because he made them, but they don't really reflect his talent.

Eagle
Grandpa's magnum opus

Despite my admiration for the complexity of his larger works, my favorite gift from Grandpa was very simple bookends. He took my horse's old shoes and made me two sets.

Bookend

I loved that horse. Grandpa was nice to him even after he kicked the dog. I can't remember if it was this horse that actually kicked Grandpa's dog's eyeball out of his head, but I fear it was. Grandpa said the dog should've moved.

Bookend-detail

This is the best part. His handwriting, captured in metal forever. I was in fifth grade in 1985. Can that even be possible?

Pa made the wheat wall hanging with Grandpa, so the story goes. A few years ago, he made my sister a wooden box for her chess pieces then asked what I would like him to make for me. I asked for wheat like the wall hanging he had.

As he's gotten older, I've grown increasingly worried he won't get around to it before there's no more time. He's a healthy man -- I'm not trying to off my father before his time -- but my grandpa died suddenly in a car accident when he, too, was very healthy. The bookends my grandfather gave me have been such a comfort through the years, just to know that someone loved me enough to etch my name in metal.

There is something about what you make for your family.

And so, Ma and Pa brought me the original this December. Pa removed a few of the wheat stalks so he could use them to make new ones for them and for my sister, too.

Bottom-wheat

You can see where a few of the stalks are missing. I think it's a very cool idea to take some of the original to start the new one.

Wheat-detail-stems

Wheat stalk detail

My husband painstakingly measured the wall where we would hang it, and you would think we were holding a premature baby the way we coaxed it up onto the wall to keep from bending any of the stalks. Seeing how carefully my husband handled the gift from my father made my heart swell with love for both of them.

Copper  

The swirl of color in copper has always reminded me of home.

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I've been sort of an emotional basketcase this week with the upcoming holiday and being really sick with a bad cold. But I swear I can actually feel my mom and dad when I look at this. It hung in my parent's house during my entire childhood.

And so, I leave with this: Whether or not you have a special talent, don't wait to make something for your children. You don't realize how much something you create yourself will mean to them. It doesn't have to be amazing. A photo book. A handwritten note. A collage. Our kids make so many

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Learning to Live on a Budget 5 pts

The eagle is gorgeous, the time he must have spent on that... The bookends are such a thoughtful gift.

I make many of the gifts I give and I treasure every handmade gift I receive. I still have the doll quilt my great-grandmother made for me the year she made full size quilts for all the adults in the family, that was 33 years ago.

Handmade gifts are so special. My great-grandmother died over 20 years ago but I still can see her stitching away sitting in her chair wearing her mary janes every time I see that doll quilt. I think of her every time I see it, just as I'm sure she thought of me every time she worked on it.

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texasebeth 6 pts

I come from a crafty family so I have several things made for me by dad's mother. She hand quilted and I have tops that need to be quilted along with several of her quilts. My mom sewed and crocheted. I have the afghan she made for me when I went off to college.

My mom made 4 Christmas stockings for future grandchildren she knew she would not be alive to see. She made baby blankets and other things too.

The biggest argument I ever had with my sister was after she died and we were sorting through her sewing room about a year later. We found the grandchildren items she made. I asked my sister if she wanted to take some things for the future and was told no. My sister actually said to me "Take what you want and sell the rest". Now at the time none of us had kids but Hubby and I were trying.

Needless to say all those items are at my house. Now my sister is adopting 2 boys and I am seriously debating about giving those stockings to the boys myself. I know it's petty but still ticks me off about her attitude. Note - my sister has not even asked about the stockings since matching and meeting the boys.

I've made things for Charlie but am pretty sure he doesn't treasure them yet.

Elizabeth

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Rita Arens 7 pts

I made her a photo/prose book for her sixth birthday. I think I'm going to try to keep making one every year. She loves reading it.

Re: the wheat -- it's wire bent and then welded to make the heads of wheat. I think the stalks are piano wire.

Rita Arens authors Surrender Dorothy ( http://bit.ly/Qp0sS ) and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

JennaHatfield 10 pts

Hmm. I wonder why I've never created a special photograph for either of the kids' rooms. Project for 2011? I think so.

Beautiful piece, Rita.

Contributing Editor Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )) blogs at Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ). She is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

MealMixer 5 pts

That is an absolutely gorgeous piece. I love the idea of taking some of the stalks to make new projects.

My great grandmother pinched off a piece of a plant at a farmer's market 80 some years ago, took it home, and it grew into a big plant. She pinched off pieces and grew them for family members, and everyone with a plant makes a new one for the next generation.

I keep going back to look at the wheat; it's so lovely. I covet it!

Marianne at Mealmixer ( http://www.mealmixer.com )