WISDOM IN A JAR.....ARE YOU RUNNING TO RUN.....ON THE GO.....DO YOU LIKE ME?...CESSPOOL OR SWIMMING POOL....THE PRESSURE COOKER.

 

TAKING THE PRESSURE OFF…..The Pressure cooker….

People tend to put such pressure in relationships that at times relationships can seem like a pressure cooker more so than a relationship. Sometimes we simply have to take off the pressure of our demands from a relationship in order to restore harmony…

None of us like to be pressured….Pressure tends to be a negative in a relationship. Yes, there are times that there are good pressure…but those times are more the exception than the rule….Most pressure is trying to get someone to do something they don’t want and in most cases that simply doesn’t work…or if it does it meets with resentment…

Often relieving the pressure in a relationship allowing others to simply be who they are and go in the direction they feel is right can be a good thing….It all depends on the situation of course…..If it is simply a choice between vanilla or strawberry ice-cream the choice should be theirs….If it is a choice that directly affects your life or someone you love then perhaps one has to stand the line on what is right in their minds….

Knowing when to take the pressure off is key…..to successful relationships. Knowing when there should be a degree of pressure is wise and yet one must be smart about pressure because the wrong pressure or too much pressure can ruin the best of everything….

Overall the less pressure the better in most cases….Consider leaving some of the pressure off your relationships and you may find they work a lot better in the longrun…

 

WHEN PEOPLE DON’T WANT TO LISTEN…..IT IS OK….

Sometimes we know that we are right and what we are saying is right and yet the person we are telling it to simply does not want to listen……We can become frustrated because we know we are right…..

When this happens we simply have to look at the overall situation…..Does it affect us in anyway?….If it doesn’t and there is no real danger most often it is best to simply let the person make their own decision….So much of life is about decisions and people have to ultimately make their own…..We can’t always make other people’s decisions for them even when we think we are right….

Sometimes people don’t want to listen to reasoning, common sense, or simply from someone they love….That is the nature of some relationships….Even people who do listen may make a different choice…..As the saying goes “To Each his Own….We tried….”

 

SOME PEOPLE CHOOSE TO BE STUCK…..

I simply see some people making the same old decisions and remaining stuck in a endless cycle of going in circles in life….They seem to get nowhere or simply seem to be in a downward spiral……Some people simply knowingly make decisions they know are not in their best interests and do not want to do the work to get out of them….They simply take the “lazy” way out….

When people choose to be stuck in life it almost always is not our responsibility.When they make the change they say  they wanted to make it is almost always because they truly wanted to make it not because we wanted them to…..People must make their own life decisions and it is up to them whether they stay stuck or unstuck…..

Encouragement has a lot of power….but only to those who want to listen….

 

KNOWING WHERE YOU BELONG…..and TO WHOM….

I talk a lot about places and knowing where we belong and don’t belong….I love the idea of places…..So many people end up in the wrong places due to wrong discernment or choices…..Whether it is the town we live in, the neighborhood, the job we work, the church we go, or even the restaurant we often eat at…..they are all places…and places do have an impact upon our lives….

Discerning what places are right for our lives and which are not is key to how our lives turn out. If we plant ourselves in the wrong environments long term we will not be happy….Things will not flow as they are meant to flow. When we are in the right places things will flow and open up automatically as they should with little effort on our parts in most cases….

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