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Woman Chooses to Become Homeless to... Inspire?

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Te-Erika Patterson is voluntarily homeless. She gave away her possessions, moved into a park, and is planning to remain there until "30 South Florida businesses agree to participate in a job fair to hire those she said need work the most but lack the confidence to do it themselves."

But most homeless women don't have a camera with them. And a website. Nor was it clear from the first news story I read how exactly she is teaching readers a lesson about homelessness by choosing to live on the streets. Because it sounded more like an outdoor sit-in to sway local businesses to hire homeless women (a great idea) with the focus being on inspiring homeless women by showing them how she went from nothing to something (a terrible idea).

Which made me ask the obvious question: can we truly replicate a situation with a stunt?

According to a PBS documentary on homelessness, the three leading causes of homelessness in single people (there were three other reasons given for homeless families) are mental illness, substance abuse, and lack of affordable housing. None of those, of course, is a lack of ability to pick yourself up by your bootstraps, the only skill Patterson can teach. More confusing is that many of her postings don't seem to be directed towards homeless women at all. She speaks about inspiring all women to make a change in their life -- which is a great message -- but I'm not sure how a woman in a dead-end job can make the leap from watching Patterson live without a home to the point that she should change her life.

As I unraveled the project, watching the YouTube videos she's making, it seemed to become less and less about homelessness. Which brings us to the crux of the problem -- the project doesn't seem to have a clear focus or goal beyond inspiring people. She calls it the Rebuild Your Life project.

She explains in a press release:

I'm doing this because many women never make a move toward their dreams because of the fear of losing everything. I hope to teach women that the things they own do not define them and that their biggest fear of an extreme life transition, if it ever happens, could be a blessing that sets them free.

And that's where the project officially falls apart. Because homelessness is not about failure -- it is a side effect of other problems. And I doubt anyone who is truly homeless would agree that it was a blessing that set them free.

The point is that if she chose to become homeless, she could also choose to not be homeless -- a choice that homeless women lack.

And it's that lack of choice, the suffocation of being in a nightmare of a situation without a personal, safe space that can't be replicated with a blog project. There were plenty of directions she could take this project that wouldn't leave me scratching my head -- for instance, she could have chosen to live amongst the homeless in order to educate the average reader on the plight of the homeless. She could have gone into shelters and taken woman after woman under her wing, helping them change their life and in turn, inspiring the reader by seeing the steps she takes.

At this point, with only one area business committed to her job fair and the job fair only weeks away, it makes the reader wonder -- will she continue to live on the streets for months or years in order to make her point or will she call this project a failure and go back home (a luxury that homeless women lack)? The first route would be inspiring. The second route, not so much.

We seem to be in the age of the blog stunt, and I think it behooves us to admit that we can't always recreate a situation and truly understand the emotional landscape of those living the situation without choice. Our blog stunts should have a clear point beyond the desire for a book deal. Blog stunts should teach first, illuminating a facet of life that the average reader doesn't get to see or may be unwilling to try themselves. There should be

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MissUsed 5 pts

I just received a nasty letter from Te-erika Patterson angry because her project is not suceeding. She was venting her anger at me because I gave her the idea to start her website. I work as a spiritual healer and I contacted Ms. Patterson after reading her blog.

Ms. Patterson suffers from mental illness and she has several troubling issues with me. She intended to make enough money from her project to support herself and her sons. She expected donations to pour in and she would be able to live a better life. This hasn't happened and she is angry with me for suggesting that she start the website in the first place.

I never suggested she become homeless. She emailed me one day after deciding that she was tired of struggling to pay her rent every month.

Originally she paid her rent in advance using her federal student aid. She dropped out of school, so this is no longer an option. So she devised the homeless project as a way to enlist sympathy for her to pay her bills.

If you look at her other website, http://www.ptygrneyez.blogspot.com, you will see that she clearly states several times that she has no intention of working. She is not seeking full-time employment to get off the streets. She is seeking donations to get off the streets to have enough funds until her website starts making money.

She is venting her anger at me because she is frustrated by the lack of interest in her project. I was leaving an unhealthly situation and I ran out of funds. I asked Ms. Patterson for money to help me while I was leaving in a hotel looking for a permanent place to live.

In her email to me she stated that I have asked for money more than anyone she knows. This is impossible because she is out with the other shelter residents 8 hours a day asking for donations. And she is seeking fund raising money for her website. Everyday she contacts a new business asking for help.

In my mind she is a hypocrite. She is seeking funds from others based on advice she is giving them. But, she has no background or expertise in this area.

She is not a journalist, yes she does have a degree in Journalism. But, she calls herself a journalist because of her blogs and YouTube videos.

The fact of the matter is that she has a personality disorder that has been diagnosed and confirmed by a professional.

There is no reason to feel sorry for Ms. Patterson as she has been homeless, living in her car numerous times before. Instead of staying in a shelter she slept in the parking lot at a crack hotel and ate mostly hotdogs and $1 menu items. She lost her car and was offered another one for free-but her license is suspended. So, she refused the offer.

Ms. Patterson is attempting to duped the public into caring for her, so that she doesn't have to work for anyone else. It is her hopes to make enough money from donations to get her website to the point that she is making a salary.

labuenavida 5 pts

Am I the only one who finds it a little comical that Patterson is carrying out her "crusade" on You Tube--a place where most homeless men and women probably don't have regular access to?

* La Buena Vida ( http://www.vivalabuenavida.blogspot.com ) *

Keira 5 pts

Its problematic to try to replicate people's real life experiences.

No matter how little money you set yourself in a budget, or how you present yourself to the world (stunt-drag, blackface make up, etc) you never erase your privelege.

For example, you can set a budget to see if you can eat healthily, but you can't forget the things you know about food and cooking due to an upbringing with parents who had money/time/energy to devote to teaching you, or the recipes in you've learned from the internet, cookbooks and magazines.

You can't apply for a job as a homeless person, and have the same experience, because nothing will undo your education and your social skills and ability to fit-in in a working environment, which are another privileged attribute.

It would have made more sense to interview women who were or had been experiencing homelessness, about their own experience.

I think I'd be annoyed if someone tried to suggest they could experience my life by putting on just the external aspects of it.

Brenda M 5 pts

Brenda

http://www.grrlguide.com/

I am torn on extreme nature of her method, on the one hand I can see that it will reach (has reached) and will yield benefits (and as others and you have said, I hope it reaches the most in need), but I can’t see that those who didn’t choose to be homeless, relating to her methods. I recently wrote on the subject of being homeless after a woman I gave my lunch to, after thanking me, told me we were all two paychecks away from being homeless. Her words stood me still, to be honest, haunted me for a couple of weeks. Either way, the post is timely, and thought provoking. I am a firm believer in new beginnings and have myself risen from the ashes, like a phoenix, but I’d rather not approach a new chapter in my life in this manner. As always, a strong write.

Brenda

LindaCSmith 5 pts

Melissa you said something so true in your article, "And it's that lack of choice, the suffocation of being in a nightmare of a situation without a personal, safe space that can't be replicated with a blog project." You can't know a situation truly unless you live the situation.

Years ago when my 2 daughters were quite young I was single and struggling mightily to take care of them. We were so close to having nothing. Unless you are in a situation - whether it was caused by divorce like mine was - or any other cause, you can't "replicate" the situation and choose to "try it out." Unless you're truly backed into a corner you can't know the fear and terror...or the blessed relief when times get better.

I have admiration for those with the resources to offer help to people who are homeless or nearly so...people in crisis need resource help not blog posts. Just my opinion.

Linda C Smith, Artist and Writer

http://www.intlnat.com

Melissa Ford 5 pts

Do you think the medium was the right one for teaching people they can build something from scratch? What else could she have done besides homelessness?

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her novel about blogging is Life from Scratch ( http://www.life-from-scratch.com/ ).

mariablancoh 5 pts

I think she has some good lessons in her vlogs but the whole going homeless to teach women how to start from scratch is somehow extreme and yes, inspiring not to the point to go homeless but to learn some empowering life lessons.

Her whole point is to take action in life and stop complaining on the things we don't have because it could be worse.

The other life lesson I see is that there is opportunity in everything, starting over might be a blessing.

Melissa Ford 5 pts

I have to imagine that whatever you're working on now is incredibly helpful and thoughtful because that response -- pulling back from the blog project instead of charging ahead -- is one of the most sensitive actions you could have taken. So I think the interviews are probably amazing.

Melissa writes Stirrup Queens ( http://stirrup-queens.com ) and Lost and Found ( http://lostandfoundandconnectionsabound.blogspot.c... ). Her novel about blogging is Life from Scratch ( http://www.life-from-scratch.com/ ).

Jill Shepherd 5 pts

How interesting. I just abandoned the idea of trying to feed my family for three weeks on a poverty level budget for just these sorts of reasons. I was curious about whether or not it was possible to eat "healthy" on such a budget and what we would have to give up. However, the more I talked to people who actually HAD to live like this, the more I realized that this would be an empty gesture that would do nothing to help me understand the issue. That issue is far too complicated for me to "experience" in a mere three weeks and what I would understand would not be particularly useful. Rather, I've decided to explore the issue through interviews with people who actually live it day-to-day.