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Women Observing Lent: Giving Up & Taking On

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Lent is here. It will last 46 days from Ash Wednesday. I know, you are thinking 40 days, right? Wrong. It is really 46, because Sundays do not count in the tally.

I have been floundering around trying to see what I will do for Lent. I want it to be something I can really feel, something that does me good and something that brings me more conscious of my relationship to God. So I think I am giving up some things (list yet to be determined), and every time I crave those items, I will say a prayer for someone.

As I wandered the web seeing what other BlogHers were doing, I came upon any number who were thinking about giving up Facebook and other social media. Apparently social media are now as popular as chocolate!

While Lent was, in the past, more a Catholic observance, a Lenten observance bow is common among many faiths. One national church body has even recommended a Lenten sacrifice that is quite specific -- giving up alcohol. Audrey Barrick in The Christian Post speaks of the national Methodist Church in the US encouraging members to give up alcohol for Lent. An Alcohol Free Lent was inspired by a congregation in Charlotte, N.C. that did it last year after local teens were hospitalized for alcohol poisoning.

... money that would have been used to purchase cocktails, wine or other alcoholic beverages would go to the "spirit fund." That money would be directed to help people who are struggling with alcohol problems. At the end of the period, more than a dozen people signed up for AA and alcohol treatment facilities. And the church gave a check for $25,901 to Hope Haven, an addiction recovery center in downtown Charlotte.

Even people who see themselves outside of church traditions, observe Lent.

Julie, in the Red Room writes of how she has left the Mormon faith, her Catholic husband and Catholicism, but still "LOVES Lent." She will be giving up chocolate this year.

Another contemporary sacrifice, one that was impossible 20 years ago is spoken of by Sara in A Spacious Place. She says:

The past few years I have abstained from sugar, but this year I felt like I needed to do something different. I have decided to “give-up” talking on my cell-phone and to “add” praying for my friends more deliberately. My decision was confirmed by my children’s adamant belief that I will not be able stay off the phone!

But giving-up is not the only way to observe Lent. Taking on a practice is also another way to observe the season.

The Kroc Institute is an amazing place at University of Notre Dame. In the words of their website, "A major academic initiative at the Kroc Institute brings together leading scholars from the world’s monotheistic traditions to address the causes of violence that threaten global security and the progress of civilization.

In the blog 24 Peace Partners, Joan Fallon, Kroc's Communications Director speaks of her family having given up meat for a prior Lent, and how that made them more in touch with the world's resources. This year, she is changing her vow from "giving up" to "taking on":

This year, I am ‘taking on’ peace for Lent. Not inner peace (although that’s nice too) but world peace, the kind the faculty at the Kroc Institute spend their days researching, teaching, and practicing. I’m not a peacebuilder in the courageous ‘on the ground’ sense ...but I do believe that ideas, words and images — the tools of my trade — have power.

Peace is a good idea. I’m taking it on for Lent. Care to join me?

One can even consider taking on a better attitude.

Karen Spears Zacharias in her blog of the same name, speaks of her cynicism as she watches people take on Lent who never have before. But then she adds:

But whenever I tell people I’m going to give up a bad attitude for Lent and from here on out only say good things about others, they look at me with an eyebrow cocked, their head pulled back and chin tucked in.

As if they don’t believe a word I’m saying.

But I found myself most moved by people who experience plenty of sacrifice in their daily lives -- people for whom Lent has a different resonance. Listen to the voices of these two women:

Wife of a Sailor

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Womens Voices 5 pts

Lent means different things to different people. WVFC's Agnes Krup has a sincere recounting of what lent means to her ( http://womensvoicesforchange.org/my-very-own-lent.... ): where she remembers her mother, whose birthday is always close to the beginning of lent.

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Mata H 5 pts

That is an awesome and noble Lenten resolve! Best of luck with it!

mata

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pattib77 5 pts

Ash Wednesday has come and gone and I have decided not to give up anything but improve my attitude in general. This includes treating everyone with kindness, no matter what they say or do. This will not be easy, but I wanted to give myself a challenge so I will not quit striving.

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Mata H 5 pts

will make the change immediately! I probably connected it too closely with The Center for Reconciliation" ( http://divinity.duke.edu/initiatives-centers/cente... ) at Duke Divinity School. It seems there has been a great deal of sharing between the two - lecturers, etc. Sorry for the confusion. Thank you for your excellent work, and may peace be with us all.

Mata

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joanfallon 5 pts

Mata, thanks for mentioning my blog 24 Peace Scholars and the Kroc Institute (although it is at the University of Notre Dame (not Duke). Blessed Lent to you.

Mata H 5 pts

Good to hear from you again! Great Lenten devotional activity! Giving up our attachment to how we think others feel is very big indeed!

Mata

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HomeRearedChef 8 pts

Mata, I love the whole idea of "giving up" to "taking on."

This yer, I am "giving up" caring that someone doesn't like me, and "taking on" just loving them, accepting who they are, and praying for them...and me. Attitude change, after all, should begin with me. :)

Mata H 5 pts

The fact that I almost shuddered at the thought of giving up coffee says that I will probably give it up next year! I think it is great that you are on a shopping fast, by the way ....good luck!

Mata

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Mata H 5 pts

I read your post and chuckled all the way through it! And congrats on the weight loss!!

Mata

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool ( http://timesfool.blogspot.com )

Grace Hwang Lynch 7 pts

for Lent in recent years. Those are two things that I turn to more often than is healthy, IMO. The shopping is my mental zone-out of choice and the coffee is substitute for taking good care of myself physically and spiritually. Both were formidable challenges, but I made it through-- and felt good about it.

I'm not "giving up" anything in particular this Lenten season, because I am currently challenging myself to go a year without clothes shopping. That's cleansing enough!

Grace blogs at HapaMama ( http://hapamama.com ) and A Year (Almost) Without Shopping ( http://www.blogher.com/ A Year (Almost) Without Shopping ).

Carmen S 5 pts

To take my four youngest kids to Stations every Friday night. Today proved that it might not be a great plan.

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