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Earlier this week, Elisa announced the 2010 BlogHer Voices of the Year. It was something that I’d eagerly been anticipating since I nominated myself right before the April deadline. Yep. I nominated myself. At first, I was nervous about it. I thought about asking a friend to nominate me, but then I thought, why shouldn’t I nominate myself? What’s wrong with saying in public that this is something I wrote and I’m really proud of it?

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That was, in fact, the original instructions:

All nominations are public. You can find the entries listed here. Anyone in the community can nominate a blogger. Or two. Or three. ☺ Yes, you may nominate yourself! Nominations are open now; you have until April 15th to nominate blog posts and designs.

However, it turned out that a large number of us are not comfortable with publicly nominating our own work. To encourage people to share, BlogHer allowed women to submit their posts anonymously and moved the submission deadline back. That’s great. It is important to encourage women to get their work out there. On the other hand, it’s a problem that women don’t want to stand up at the top of a figurative mountain and shout down to the metaphorical villagers that they think that their writing is awesome and they want everyone to know, as if it is embarrassing to say that you think your own writing is some of the best out there!

Earlier this year, there was an uproar when Publishers Weekly announced its Top 10 books of 2009 and there were no women on it. But in a way, the debacle makes more sense to me now. If we don't speak up for ourselves, other people may not hear about our work to jump on the bandwagon and help us promote it. We have to be vocal supporters of our own writing, pushing our publishers to enter our work into contests, seeking out new audiences and promoting the products of our blood, sweat, and tears. No wonder we don't get on top whatever lists for literature -- much of those are generated by people constantly promoting themselves as the best, worth prizes, etc.

This is hard for many women, myself included. But we are not out there alone. I love that She Writes is as much about promoting work as it is about generating good work. BlogHer has an excellent series on writing and promoting your work, too. Recently, Laurie White explored entering writing contests, and Melissa Ford posted part 7 out of a ten post series on How to Get Published. All of these things involve being your own advocate. We can do this!

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track.

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vayavero 5 pts

We all know and can spend hours talking about the "nice girls don't," "spoke when spoken to," "be naive and flirty," "protect assholes," mentality that's taken over our psyches but let's not give it more power than it deserves.

The only way to change this behavior is to do the very thing we're afraid of doing - promote, Promote, PROMOTE!!

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oviedostyle 5 pts

The best post I read today by far!

I grew up with the saying "Sí se puede." It means, Yes we can. My family is full of strong independent women that taught me to let my voice be heard. Even so there have been times in my life where I felt that it wasn't feminine to brag or boast, so I stood in the background and let someone else take the credit. This makes me cringe now.

There is nothing wrong with shouting your accomplishments from the rooftop. Women are definitely taught to be modest and not to be proud. It's not just unfortunate for women, it really does more bad than good to act like you don't deserve something or to not let people know how awesome you are.

Thank you for writing this Suzanne!

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WorstProfEver 5 pts

I taught gender courses for years, and one of the most frustrating aspects was seeing how, even after we discussed the socialization etc., my female students didn't want to "brag." I think it can never be said enough to women that it's OK to toot your own horn!

Worst Professor Ever ( http://www.worstprofessorever.com )

Sandi Tocks 5 pts

I fondly remember a colleague of mine once saying "It's funny but the harder I work the luckier I seem to be"

Diana 5 pts

This is such a tough subject for many women to take on. I love that you're addressing it here. I struggle with this as much as the next woman, but practice really does make it easier. As a gender we're finally starting to know what we're worth, now we need to learn to proclaim it loudly.

Diana

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kristanhoffman 5 pts

Campaigning for myself has been one of the hardest skills I've ever learned, and being "humble to a fault" is one of the hardest habits I've ever had to break. I think it's still a work in progress, but I've gotten so much better, and I honestly think BlogHer's network and mission have supported and encouraged me in that.

I didn't hear about the BlogHer Voices of the Year awards until they were already announced, but I'd love the chance to nominate myself and a few other bloggers next year.

Kristan

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Nordette Adams 6 pts

I salute you. I don't think I could ever bring myself to nominate myself. Rejection issues from childhood. :-) It's why the increasing push for writers to self-publish and promote themselves scares the dickens out of me.

But what you say makes perfect sense.

On the other hand, so much flies by me that even after years of BlogHer doing this, I still forget it's coming up every year. So, I congratulate the winners.

Ugh. I even missed the deadline to register for the conference. Send Ginkgo Biloba. :-)

Nordette Adams ( http://www.bookotopia.com ) is a BlogHer CE ( http://www.blogher.com/haystackprofile/viewprofile... ) & you can find her other stuff through Her 411 ( http://her411.com ).

Kei 5 pts

Great read, thanks for sharing! It is true that most women seem to shrivel back when it comes to self promotion. Often we like to take the humble role or maybe we are unsure of our capabilities no matter how much it is confirmed to us by others. Consider the amount of female talent that goes unrecognized or the voices that go unheard in third world areas. We are given such freedom in North America. These thoughts should inspire us to write for those who may never get the opportunity.

Kei Guzman

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Authentic Life 6 pts

You said what we all feel. I felt too "new" to the blog scene to self-promote, but you can bet I will next year. It's great to see other strong, smart and creative women plowing the road ahead!
Bravo!
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Suzanne 5 pts

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

Yeah, I think that a lot of girls are taught to be modest about their accomplishments is a big factor here. Even though I felt very strongly about the post I nominated, my first instinct was not to do it myself. But as a few other people mentioned, practice makes a difference. Maybe using a pseudonym is the practice that then leads to being confident about promoting our own work as ourselves.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

Thanks for sharing your process. I think you are right that it helps when you *know* that its your best work. I also often just throw things up. I actually proofread mine before I submitted it because I wanted it to be as good as I knew it could. Things I don't normally do...

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Megan Smith 5 pts

Great post Suzanne!

We women gotta get over that uncomfortable feeling when tooting our own horns. I think some women think it means having to be obnoxious and/or pushy.

But it doesn't have to be either of those things and man yeah, it takes practice. Sometimes years of it.

That's why we need to start right now.

Megan

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Suzanne 5 pts

I'd say you spread good karma. Who knows how that will pay off in the future?

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

Thanks for complementing my submission. I have to admit that it cracks me up a bit that in a piece about promoting your work, I did not link to mine. But I also didn't want to make it about me or seem like I was gloating. Really, though, you proved that if we take the first step and get our names out there, then it is easier for others to recognize us and spread the word. :)

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

Thanks for encouraging others to do the same.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

I love your post and I love that you were inspired to submit it because it was also a piece that you loved. That's what this is supposed to be about, I think.

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

Suzanne 5 pts

I can't wait to read your winning contest entries! :)

Suzanne also blogs at Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants ( http://cussandotherrants.com ) and is the author of Off the Beaten (Subway) Track ( http://offthebeatensubwaytrack.com ).

ameliasprout 5 pts

I always want to be able to write something I am proud enough of to put it out there for recognition. I knew that as a lesser known blogger, if I didn't nominate myself, no one would.
However, I felt a little selfish, so I made sure to balance out it out and nominate a friend I thought was deserving.
That being said, I'll do it again next year.

TW 6 pts

I don't remember ever thinking that anyone else should nominate my post last year. I decided to write a winner. I wrote about that process. I then wrote the post. I read it to my kids. I knew it WAS the post. I submitted it. End of story.

I did consider nominating RJ's post just because I found it breathtaking. However, I decided not to do so, first because I wanted it to be her choice. Second: every mother loves her child's writing and I didn't want the submission colored by that "Oh, her mother nominated it, whatever."

Of course, you know what? When she made the shortlist--I pointed to your beautiful comment in reply to the list as how to consider the short list.

On the other hand, I more than cringe about my blog in general. I know it could be better so when someone says something positive about it--I want to hide.

Perhaps the problem truly is this: I know that I don't do my best work on a regular basis. I feel like I should be able to pull that numerical code out of my childhood report cards. I should make every post amazing. I could. I don't. Why not? Meh-you don't want the list--I suspect it includes more than one girly reason.

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Dawn 5 pts

I nominated myself too - but under a non de plume....For exactly all the issues you outlined.

In many ways I have No problem standing up and espousing on all of my awesomeness, but I have a hell of a time accepting acknowledgement/kudos.

I often wonder if it isn't a "left over" of some hard core female socialization to be demure, modest and self sacrificing.

See you in the finalist circle!

Just_Margaret 5 pts

You make an excellent point with the Publisher's Weekly top 10 books. I've also been following Melissa's series and recommend it to anyone, even if you're not necessarily looking to become a published author.

I still find my self sometimes squirming when I think about self-promotion. Over the years I've managed to overcome that to a certain degree. It takes practice, but you're right. We *can* do this!

Congratulations, Suzanne, on being a Voice of the Year. You made a great decision to submit that piece, and I'm so pleased that it was selected.

~Margaret

Just Margaret ( http://maurhoffbarney.blogspot.com )

OneWomansEye 5 pts

It's an art and one we all need to get better at. I wrote a blog devoted to the subject at the beginning of the month and will take this opportunity to promote that :)) It's worth reading!
http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com/2010/07/shameless...

Joanne Tombrakos is a personal coach and novelist who blogs her observations as she reinvents life after Corporate America at Http://onewomanseye.blogspot.com

kbojar 5 pts

This is a great post! If I were still teaching Women’s Studies (I retired a year ago), this would be required reading in my class.

Karen Bojar

http://www.the-next-stage.com/

JennaHatfield 10 pts

I didn't submit my own stuff. I don't know where this issue comes from or why I'm stuck in it... but maybe this post will remind me to step out of my self-caused comfort zone from time to time. I'm really considering a writing contest. (But then I get internally tangled.)

Jenna Hatfield (@FireMom ( http://twitter.com/FireMom )), from Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com ), is a freelance writer and newspaper photographer.

Celeste Lindell 5 pts

But that's not the one that was selected. After she told me about the submission, I realized there was another one that I really liked, so I submitted it myself. It turned out to be a finalist, so I'm glad I didn't hold back.

Celeste Lindell
averagejane.blogs.com ( http://averagejane.blogs.com )